Death and Preparation

@SaintAnne (5454)
United States
August 26, 2008 2:27am CST
I was about to sign out to go to sleep but I chanced upon a new post that asked how one would react if he/she gets told he/she has terminal illness. That got me to thinking about my conversation with Boyfriend after watching The Bucket List on TV. I always come up with these "would you rather" choices and he would try to answer seriously without raising his eyebrows at me. So I will ask you what I asked him: Would you rather want to die suddenly, without pain BUT without preparation, leaving your own family to fend for themselves OR would you rather know you had thismuch time to live, suffer some physical pain, make preparations (burial, funeral,financial stability for family left behind, emotional readiness) and go through your own bucket list? I still haven't decided on my answer to this one. Having been with someone who died under hospice care, I could say that she was glad she had time to do whatever it is she needed to make her passing away "smooth and easy" for her family. But there were also times that she'd wished out loud that she didn't want this happening to her, that she was scared as to what will happen when the day comes. Think about it.
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@drannhh (15002)
• United States
26 Aug 08
In my world view this is not a black or white dichotomy, there have to be other choices. I would look for a middle ground on this one.
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@SaintAnne (5454)
• United States
28 Aug 08
I think so too. That is why until now, I don't have an answer to my own question.