do you believe people can change?

United States
August 26, 2008 6:26pm CST
I guess that all depends on the type of person, I had a few ex's that were nice when we started dating and then later in the relationship they started showing there true colors and it wasn't good. I have changed as a person, i'm not the same person I was a few years ago, not saying that I was a bad person but now i'm a better person, by making mistakes i've learned from them and became a better person.
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@skenthal (1022)
• Turkey
26 Aug 08
well i dont think that they can change, well if they are kids of course they can change when they grow up but if they are adults i dont think they can change their characteristics , they can only hide it , so sooner or later that habit would rise up again in my opinion , anyway happy mylottings
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• United States
26 Aug 08
Yes, I think that we are all capable of changing to one degree or another. As you, I have also changed. I think we all do to a certain extent. I also think that a person can only change so much, but they are deep down who they are and only learn to hide it better perhaps.
@sirrob (4112)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
human beings are capable of change and there's no permanent in this world and that it cannot be change. human beings have rational minds that can make rational or irrational decision/s, we have feelings (but some hides it or masks it with something), we have emotions and that could be affected by experience whether good or bad. there's only 2 sides of changes, either change for good or change for something unpleasant or in appropriate. even in the minds of the criminals they still have feelings after all but because of the chosen side of attitude and emotions they should hide those in order for them to portray a bad image and fulfill what they want to have.
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• United States
27 Aug 08
I think that people can change. I say this because I have. When I was younger, I was a little different than the way I am now. I guess it's true when they say you get older and wiser. I'm thinking of it in a growing up kind of way. But then again, I know some people who are older than me, but have not changed anything about themselves in all the time I've known them. I guess it depends on the person and situation.
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@winzpc (2356)
• Indonesia
27 Aug 08
I agree with you. everyone can change their attitude if they want. They can easily change a bad person and also can change as a good person but for good person it's rather difficult, it's need a time for people to believe it. I have try to be a good person in my life, but changing my bad habit or learn by my mistake. Every people has ever made their mistake in their life. So as we can stop and change it, I think it's better to change it and be a good person as God want it.
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• Canada
27 Aug 08
The only thing that I think really changes about a person is their life experience and their education. There are certain elements of their personalities that are there almost right from birth. I have changed in a number of ways, but my personality is pretty much the same. Some of my attitudes have changed, but not really that much, and only based on the education I have received over the years.
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• Philippines
27 Aug 08
Before I respond to this discussion, Have you remember the saying "everybody can change only the word change is dont change". I believe that people change, may it be on manner, physical, values, ideas, thingking and many more. No one can be the way he/she use to be. Even in relationships, no matter you love each other there are also times both of you change the way you treat each other or even hug each other. It depends on the people on how they react on changes and how they should accept them.
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@brisk123 (2826)
• India
26 Aug 08
Weather changes,season changes and so is the heart and nature of some people. Some change for the good,some for the better and some towards destructions in life.As we grow older,we are more matured and experienced.We learn from our past mistakes and tries hard to be a better human being.We cannot judge people as good and bad unless we see their true colours.Most of us would love to wear a mask.What you see is just a person with a mask and not the person inside the mask.People try to be good and love being appreciated but it should come from within just like "you".You don't pretend to be good,you are what you are.You admit and accepted your mistakes from the past and now you are a different person.You are more matured and responsible.If we ever change in life,we should change for the better and not for the bad.God bless!
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@Sheepie (3118)
• United States
26 Aug 08
Oh yes, people change and people mature, it's not a doubt to me. But some habits are just impossible to break. Someone might tell you they promise to change just to appease you but they're not going to, they are just keeping you quiet and gaining trust.
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• United States
27 Aug 08
Ever heard the phrase "You never know a person until you've lived with them?" Yes, people can definitely change. Some people keep changing to actually keep you from ever knowing who they truely are. God can change anyone
@anna0076 (45)
• United States
27 Aug 08
it's very hard to change but definitely possible. In some cases the more you learn about people the less you like them. No one is perfect, and if you look for other's flaws and mistakes you will find them. Making mistakes and learning form them is a natural part of a human being and every one can do it. However, not every one does.To learn from mistakes and become a better person one must first admit to making a mistake or being wrong in the first place. Unfortunately, not everyone is willing to do that most people just choose to blame others for their misfortunes. You are very lucky if your able to change, and learn form the past.
@tlb0822 (1412)
• United States
27 Aug 08
I think people can change, but it is a matter if they want to change or not. Everyone has free will, and can change on you in an instant. I have changed by simply learning that you can always trust everyone you meet. And that you just don't give people respect they must first earn it. Some people change for the better, while others change for the worst.
@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
27 Aug 08
People can change but it takes an internal and deep decision and a lot of work, sometimes. When we become adults we are almost fixed in our ways but we can change with the right amount of effort. People who fail to change are not making the right effort.
@sherputt (35)
• India
27 Aug 08
yeah people do change. Change is the rule and principle of Nature and the world itself. People are tend to adopt the new innovations new products and what ever that is new. You think of yourself what were U 10-15 years before and what are you now?
@sweetyethot (1738)
• China
27 Aug 08
people always change.nothing stays the same forever. as for me,i 'm growing a bit more mature as the time goes by.we can just say something changes easily,and others changes quickly.
@shana123 (2096)
• India
27 Aug 08
One basic thing every human must understand is that when they are in a relation , all new lovers will pretend as if they are too good and lovable they just hide their originality i mean their original characters and try to act/ pretend as they are very adjustable to their lovers but when the days pass on the original colour somehow comes out and re-establish itself.Even sometimes when you analyse oruself we can find that in some matters we would have also done the same thing but finally we get outbursted our originality one day.This character of a human shows that as if humans change in short period of time, actually they dont change but they pretend...!!!
@mikinikih (201)
• United States
27 Aug 08
I think all people are capable of change, especially when it's properly motivated. A radio show I listen to says it takes at least 30 days to establish a new habit--including personality and lifestyle changes. Granted there are some people that start as jerks and stay that way for life, but it seems that most people learn from their mistakes and become better people as a result.
@austere (2816)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
people can change of course. we can change for the better , we can be more stoned hearted and mean to, depending on the values we have and the values we choose to follow. i am immature and selfish when i was young, but right now, i have grown mature and i realized that i have to give way sometimes. that the world is not all about me. as i aged, i learned that my views are different from others, and i have changed big deal with my understanding. some people who are bad changed to good when they have experience something in their lives. i believe everything is possible on this planet.
• Pakistan
27 Aug 08
the topic discussion is :do u believe pple can change:yeh.its but natural. pple do change their manners,dealings, thinking,emotions with the passage of time as they grow up, availing opportunities mixing with pple through interaction,communication, the knowledge they go ahead with time and space.the manners of a young guy turns different as soon as he gets married,similarly a young serviceman or woman changes his or her attitude as he or she get experience and receiving promotion in his or her profession, a junior officer surely transform his or her personality as he or she occupy the chair of a boss.similarly a person acquairing wealth by whatever means looks very different in his or her manners, seeking the company of whitecollars and behave like a born prince.
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
i think people can change because people are influenced by different things as the years go by, they go to different places and experiencing new things and ideas which inflences them as a person. it may be good or not, but i believe they could change. there is a saying that, 'the only permanent thing is this world is change' and i believe in that.