Do U want me to marry this Girl? Pls need sugg frm every1, ill read all of yours
By nareshthota
@nareshthota (60)
India
August 29, 2008 2:44pm CST
We met 3years back and she was very helpful in every mood of mine and in every status.
She always had been behind me in sad and happyness. Supported financially when its needed badly, she use to get money, no matter from where. She laughed when i smiled, she cried when I was sad. She enjoyed when shared good things happend at my home. She cares my mothers health. She is jelous if i talk to other girls or move closely.
She never thought anything of her own, always given or shared. She cant stay without talking to me.
I may be repaying it or returning it by some otherway but still not satisfiend muself. Well, i may not repay her what she did to me.
She dies for me, she will do anything for me, may fight with her family or with the whole world. I dont know how come she got feelings on me. I never fall in love with her but i respect her very much and care. I did not find anyone (love) still my heart is searching some one special.
She is not so beatiful but her heart is. she is very short to me in height. My mom is not accepting her coz of caste but if i force her she may agree.
As dont love her still do you want me to marry her?
13 responses
@sang2k2 (1833)
• India
30 Aug 08
ask yourself is love is the only reason that you dont want to marry her.
restrict yourself from talking to her and may be you would realise her importance.
juz think about the qualities you want in your wife to be and than point it out what she doesnt possess.
i think if she cares for you so much she would change for you as well
but if possible dont break her heart.according to me one should get married to the person who loves them , who cares, who values your importance, who knows in and out of you,who respects you...
you should think upon it and decide at the earliest as you have no right to play with anyone's emotions. i think if you werent keen on you could stopped her prior only 3 years back.
all the best.
@sweetcouple (221)
• India
6 Sep 08
naresh, may be you love her too.,but and are not ale to realize it is LOVE. the concern for her, the thoughts you have for her are aparently love. but still if you seriously believe you do not love her and it is only your worldly or friendly concern then please please do not marry her. and you on top of this you have negative remarks on her such as she is not beautiful, she is much shorter than you etc., all of which keeps coming back to your mind and you maynot be faithful to her and are sure todevelo extra affairs on these ground. so my suggestion would be better not marry her and spoil lives or your both and also the minds of other family members.
but at the same time remain the best of friends all through your life and leave a mark there.
guud lux
@jonesy123 (3948)
• United States
29 Aug 08
If you don't love her, don't marry her. It wouldn't be fair to her. You like her for how nice she was/is to you, but nothing more. A loveless marriage can work out, but as you already layed out, you are not satisfied now, it's doubtful you will be later on. Please be nice and let her know how you feel and that a marriage is not on your mind.
@nareshthota (60)
• India
1 Sep 08
thanks for your suggestions. my relations is going to continue. please check next question in the same block
@latineagle40 (11)
• United States
30 Aug 08
Hi. looks dont mean much when you find someone that wants to be there for you at all times and if she treats you like you like to be treated then you have found life and happines wish u the best and hope is everlasting
• United States
30 Aug 08
If you dont love her then it will never last. plain and simple
@rosesthorns14 (803)
• Philippines
30 Aug 08
This girl is head-over-heels in love with you. But you are not in love with her and you see her only as a special friend. It might be unfair in her part, but she will understand how you feel. So follow what your heart dictates if you think she's not the girl you want to marry.
What if the situation turns upside down, maybe you'll even realize her worth of being with you, helping you, consoling you, etc. As the case maybe, try to imagine life without her by your side: she finds someone new who's better than you, starts dating someone and spends her time with her new guy.. the way she spends her time with you. How would you feel? Maybe you can re-evaluate yourself, check if you do have feelings for her and maybe regret one day that you were so arrogant and failed to notice her worth.
Goodluck and happy mylottin'!
@soulkeeper (123)
• China
30 Aug 08
people always said if you don't love her, don't marry her. but why you can't try to love her. what you are thinking now is that you don't love her. but what i see is you still not sure for youself that you don't loved her. in some way, you loved her, if you married a girl whom don;t support you and on your side, just because you love her.what's you gonna do? you think you happy. love and marry are serious things which we have to make sure that we understand exactly what we need.
@srini33333 (710)
• India
30 Aug 08
no way just bec she helps u,,u cant marry her...do u knw she loves u? has she propsd2u....think twice its ur life ....so don do nythn foolish...it ll cause a lota trble
@heaven11 (1159)
• United States
29 Aug 08
im going to be honest that is one of the stupidest questions ive ever heard you dont marry for conviece anymore save her the heartbreak because you will make her life hell if you marry her and you dont love her grow up
@lenakhalid (3)
• Malaysia
30 Aug 08
Hi Friend,
Your relationship is 3 years old. This girl is in love head over heels with you and definitely you know about it. If you don't love her the way she do to you ... why continue to give her a false impressions ? And play with emotions ?
Don't continue to lead her with false hope and take advantage of situation.
