How do you make your son love you?

China
August 30, 2008 5:02am CST
As a father, do you often spend your sparetime with your son? do you think you son is proud of you or love you? when your son wants to do something, do you always agree with him and support hime? I don't want to spoil my seven-year-old son, he seems to hate me when I don't satisfy him. How do you treat your son?
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@dannymfs (10)
• United States
8 Sep 08
well right now i am a teenager and wan't 7 all too long ago. and i think the what i liked most about my dad really was that he was a firm standing friend. Try and talk to him about everyday stuff. Maybe he likes playing go fish. Play go fish with him and play tag with him and stuff. Find out what he likes. Want to spend time with him like you'd want to spend time wit you best bud. Now i also say firm. Set boundries. Say "no you can't do this" and dont waver on it. Say no and let it be that. At first i didn't like it. But it really set me straight. Also he makes it seem like he hates you when he doesn't get what he wants cause at the foundation of it, he just wants more attention or more time with you.
@musicman6 (2368)
• United States
31 Aug 08
That's right, you have to make decisions for him, even if he doesn't like them! You have to keep in your mind that you are doing it for his sake and benefit! And try to make him understand, that although he doesn't like your decisions, in the end they will be better for him! The worst thing you can do would be to give in to him, on eveything he wants to do, because a lot of the things will not be for his well being! And in reality, he will love for this, because one day he will see that you are doing it, because you love him! You have to use "tough love", because to survive in this world, you have to make "tough" decisions! Believe me I know, I raised 7 kids, and 2 stepkids, and you have to be "tough with your love"!
@joyadalia (1410)
• Philippines
30 Aug 08
Oh, you are right in not spoiling him. He will realize that when he gets older. Maybe you should talk to him and explain things to him. Tell him why you have restrictions because that will be for his own good.