Do you mind marrying a poor girl or guy?

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@padu19 (1434)
India
September 2, 2008 10:53am CST
Hey friends,Many of us here may be committed to someone. Some may be in love with his/her college mates and some may be in love with their colleagues or neighbors etc. Before falling in love, have you ever tried to know about his/her status of living. Have you ever fallen in love with a poor girl or guy and then repented for it?Am asking you this because there are few people who say that they are practical in life. They would not prefer to marry someone at a lower status that them. May be that they are aiming to live a sophisticated life so that both of them remain happy. What do you think about such people?Has wealth been a barrier in your love life or in your marriage life?Do reply honestly!!
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• United States
2 Sep 08
Money is probably the last thing that I care about when looking for a guy. I like to have fun, and be treated with respect before anything else. If he doesn't have money that's okay, as long as he is not lazy and refuses to get a job.
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@padu19 (1434)
• India
2 Sep 08
of course!! he must not be lazy to get a job!! great reply ginamania!!
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• United States
11 Aug 09
I do nt mind marrying a poor girl, the satifaction that u get when u give a life to poor people u will not with any thing in this wrld....see ur happinee in her happiness
@Seppy1984 (2148)
• United States
3 Sep 08
When my hubby and I got married he did not have a job. He was back and forth between jobs.So I would say that I'm not with him because of money. People who are with someone because of money has no respect for that person or for themself. Well my hubby now has had a job for going on 3 years and it's enough to pay the rent,bills, and making sure that there is gas for the van and that our children has what they need and that is fine with me because the only money I need is the love he gives me from his golden heart he has and he does that very well that is all I ever need from him. We could be homeless living on the street and I would still be married to him because love is stronger then money.
@padu19 (1434)
• India
3 Sep 08
Good.. I wish you stay happy with him throughout ur life..
@Seppy1984 (2148)
• United States
3 Sep 08
I'm sure that wont be hard. And thank you for your wrm wishes.
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@zandi458 (27880)
• Malaysia
3 Sep 08
If you're madly in love with a guy, you forgot his roots, status or rather his standing in society. Once you are married to him you'll realise that life is miserable as he is poor and can't afford many things in life that you love to have.Situation changes from love to hate and sad to say it is the root of all misunderstandings and quarrels. If your partner is poor then the best solution is to enrich yourself by involving yourself in businesses or anything that creates income.
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@padu19 (1434)
• India
3 Sep 08
This is what i actually expected out of the discussion.. One particular thing which came across my mind just as u did was, "how love turns into hatred when someone caring is with u but he cannot express it only because he has no money"... you feel miserable for having chosen tht person!! so the remedy is to give an active participation in improving your family status.. Good reply zandi458
@zandi458 (27880)
• Malaysia
8 Sep 08
Thanks for this BR. It does inspires me to move on faster in responding when I see that I get appreciated for my views. Go on mylotting.
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• China
3 Sep 08
To me,wealth has been a enormous barrier in my love.My boyfriend and me have been in love with each other for four years,and we have been gratuated for two years.Life is practical and brutal.But I trust him,and trust myself too.I think that confidence can defeat everything, and we will be happy in the future.
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@padu19 (1434)
• India
3 Sep 08
if you really love him then give him sometime to come up in life.. keep encouraging him..
@jackiew (915)
• Canada
7 Nov 08
I have been with my partner for almost 18 years and we are far from rich.We just get by month to month.It has been a bit worse lately because i had to go on medical and things are really tight.I would not change my partner to be rich.I love him in richness or poorness,We will stand by each other.
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@padu19 (1434)
• India
12 Nov 08
Hey, it's really very pleasing to hear that you are living happily for 18 years. I wish you stay happy forever with your partner.. Good luck!!!
• Canada
6 Sep 08
I think when it comes down to it, money shouldn't matter. The love you have for that person should matter the most. Nothing like money or status should come between love.
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@padu19 (1434)
• India
7 Sep 08
hmm..but i feel not everyone follows it!!
@nlcapricorn (1115)
• Philippines
6 Sep 08
I dont mind marrying a poor guy. What matters most is he loves me and i love him. We can work together for us to have a good life. Yes love cant pay the rent or even buy food for us to eat. I agree on that. But if you are inlove to a very responsible guy you will not think of money. For he himself is your treasure. It is not to boast but my bf is so responsible. She is doing the work of a woman doing laundry, cooking, cleaning. He is so caring to me, very sweet and his really fun to be with and i can never exchange him with money. I can never see another guy like him. His the best ever.
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@padu19 (1434)
• India
6 Sep 08
Good to have such a person!! all the best!!
• United States
4 Sep 08
Ok, first I am going to cover my head because you guys are probably going to get out the tomatoes to throw at me when I finish giving my viewpoint on this discussion! LOL When I was young, love was all that mattered to me. I always thought money meant nothing as long as you had love. Now, I am 43 years old and I have changed my mind. Love does not put food on the table, it does not pay the rent, and you cant always count on it. Sometimes the person you have spent your whole life loving suddenly stops loving you and then where are you? Money does not make you happy, that is true enough. But having money will definately keep you comfortable! And it will keep the wolves from your door. In a perfect world, i would choose love over money too....but I have been in too many situations in my lifetime to discount the importance of having enough money. I'm not a golddigger or anything....I'm just a person who has been on the bottom with no visible way out...and it is NOT a pretty place to be in. Thank GOODNESS I found out how to make some money online! LOL And THAT had nothing to do with love!
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@padu19 (1434)
• India
4 Sep 08
Well that was a practical opinion.. Thanks for your honest reply!!!
@titagdl (136)
• Mexico
3 Sep 08
I married my college mate and of course after finishing school we didin´t have money or anything,,,we got our first jobs together and a while after that we broke up.I remember him saying he wished he had either met me 10 years earlier or ten years later, beacuse if it had been earlier we just wouldve fooled around and it wouldn´t had been serious,,,orten years later, he would be financially better off and able to get married to me. i understood that point of view but i guess that it doesn´t matter if your poor as long as you´re a hard worker! That way you will always find a way to support your family... and funny thing....we got married about three years after college, by then he has a secure job and i was working too so both of us chipped in and bought everything we needed.
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@padu19 (1434)
• India
3 Sep 08
why don't work together and lead a happy life.. I guess it wasn't a proper decision to break up.. anyway good that you responded honestly..
@enavnai13 (509)
• Philippines
3 Sep 08
i have experienced to be a provider to my partner, financially. it's kinda hard but to me, it doesn't matter. i don't use money as basis for feelings. it's true that when you are provided well by your partner, you surely will feel blessed. but if you experience to be the one who provides, especially when he is in need, the feeling is really rewarding.
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@jpso138 (7832)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
You are right. Money is not the basis for love and feelings. We should love a person because of what he or she is. Money will come and goo, what it important is the relationship to last. And one of the best thing to consider in marrying someone is the strong love and feelings for each other as well as respect.
@SHAMRACK (8350)
• India
3 Sep 08
Dear friend, For me money is not a barrier in marriage if the girl loves me and we trust each other moreover if that love is sincere. I do give importance to money when we require it for survival more like medicine, food, shelter and other unavoidable purposes. Also if I love a person I hope I would be more interested in making money through jobs for the one whom I love. I hope some are born rich are many are not. But not body is born with as perfect match for other, one have to get it as if a lucky draw may be winning a jack pot might be like winning a perfect love. Hence I do not mind marrying a poor girl provided she love me sincerely.
@padu19 (1434)
• India
3 Sep 08
Of course not everyone can be born with a wavelength matching to us..
@MissGia (955)
• United States
3 Sep 08
wealth and social status has no affect on my love. I love people for who they are,not how much money they have. I've been with a few rich boys but deep down they were jerks. I am not wealthy nor is my boyfriend and we love each other very much and that is priceless.
@padu19 (1434)
• India
3 Sep 08
Good to hear that.. I wish you stay happy forever and ever..
@brisk123 (2826)
• India
2 Sep 08
Definitely not,rich or poor is not an issue for me.But,what I care about is that whoever I choose as my partner,he should be good and understanding who will love me a lot and make me happy.It is not always necessary that a rich partner can give you all the love and happiness in life and that poor partner will make you suffer.It depends.Of course,he should at least have a job to support the family other than that status is not an issue for me
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@padu19 (1434)
• India
2 Sep 08
it's true..
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• United States
2 Sep 08
I dont mind i married a guy in the military and he doesn;t make very much money.. i don't mind it... Its better than nothing.. I rather married someone for love rather than for money.... I love my husband and i don't mind getting out there and having a job and mnaking my own money it just more of us to spend on ourselves... I rather marry for love... THats is my opionion on marrying for money...
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@padu19 (1434)
• India
2 Sep 08
Good.. it's good to be contented about money and not in love!!
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@rainmark (4309)
2 Sep 08
I married to a man who is not rich and not poor, just in middle, just right that he can give us a roof over our heads and food in our belly, and can spoiled me for shopping!the important is you are happy and faithful to each other.cheers!
@padu19 (1434)
• India
2 Sep 08
good that he doesn't let you down.. That's the only impiortant thing in marriage and love!!
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@worthy (2415)
• India
13 Nov 08
we often saythat it is the person who matters and not his bank balance. but in most cases i feel that the bank balance does influence the life of a person, and his character as well. i would be hesitant to go into a relationship with a very poor guy, just as i would be in case of a very rich guy! both have their share of discomforts. a very rich guy might have good tastes and smart background, but he may be very stiff and proud, and might have the tendency to demean people. a poor guy on the contrary might have the tendency to get demeaned! he might even be lacking in tastes. so i guess i'd marry a guy who belongs to the strata of society same as mine, unless , of course if i meet true love someday..lol!
@deltax (287)
• Philippines
3 Sep 08
Some people really do marry a richer partner for financial stability. Love will be learned. At least he'll be living a more comfortable life, won't he? And that's being practical. It's crap though. My point is, personally, it does not matter whether the "someone" I love may be poor or rich. As long as that "someone" has a good moral character, :) easy to deal with and likes to laugh a lot, and of course, does not have any genetical or any hereditary disease which may cause problems later on with our babies. That's it. And if you are asking about "wealth being a barrier" in love? I don't think so. Love conquers all. Watch more telenovela and you'll know. ;)
3 Sep 08
Yes. Eventhough loving is beautiful ,ecomocis is nessary.If you marry a poor gire or guy, your life will become more difficult . What is more ,as time pass,you may find you donot love hei or she.
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• Philippines
3 Sep 08
i dont mind whether she is poor or not
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@seabeauty (1481)
• United States
3 Sep 08
When I was in my 20's it didn't matter to me if the guy was poor or rich. I just wanted to find someone I was compatible with to marry and live the rest of my life with. Now that I am 41 and separated from my husband, the next guy I meet has to have some money. I married first for love but now I will remarry for money.
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