Vasectomy or Tubal ligation
By hunandi
@hunandi (288)
United States
September 2, 2008 8:35pm CST
I came from a very large family and we openly talk about almost any thing. Well my sisters were so amazed that my husbands welling to have a vasetomy in stead of me having a tubal. Apairently this caused an uproar in the man department when my borther in laws found out. Why? If you are not having any more children whats it matter who gets it done? In my case I have health issues and my hubby was more then happy to step up to the plate. He says which are facts " its easy recovery for a man, it costs less for a man, they are not laid up in a hospital bed," And his main point why risk my health I have already done the job of bearing the children its the least he can do. Now Sense hearing my familys thoughts on al points of why to have them do, who and all the other good questions do you have any questions about either a vasectomy or tubal or any thoughts youd like to share. I can not wait to hear what everyone has to say about this!!!
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4 responses
@tinker_bel (297)
• Philippines
3 Sep 08
hi hunandi!
having vasectomy is really a big issue for the men gender because their are many myths involving vasectomy. Some think that undergoing this procedure would lessen their "manliness". or that it would lessen their libido.
i admire your husband for standing up in your stead. it only shows that he truly love and care for you deeply. If i were you i would stop listening to other people's opinion. As long as you have already talked about it and have made a decision. People have an opinion about anything, and mos of these opinions are always negative. I just dont know maybe this is truly the human nature.
So if you and your husband have confirmed to undergo this process...then GO! No matter what other people say, at the end of the day it still ends up between the two of you.
Cheers to your husband my friend! Goodluck to the two of you!
@hunandi (288)
• United States
3 Sep 08
Oh yes are mind are made up we have desided for one more child after the next baby is about a month old. He is going to see the dr. We are only waiting that long becasue he have lost children and do want want to be in a place were it has been done and to lose a baby. We ar sure about what we want and do. But I love to hear what everyone else has to say.Thanks for the comment!!
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@mikinikih (201)
• United States
3 Sep 08
All of the points your husband brought up are true--that's great that he's willing to be the one (voluntarily). My husband is very squemish when it comes to those parts, and really did not want to be the one to do anything, but if it came down to it, he would. In the end, since I was having a 3rd c-section anyways, I had the tubal, but only because the doctors were going to be busy in there anyways. Yes, it did make the recovery more painful; but it's not like a c-section recovery is painless on its own. Besides, if I were to tragically die tomorrow, if my husband were to remarry, he might want more kids. If he's the one that tragically goes tomorrow, I don't think I'd have time to date before it's way to late to even consider wanting more kids--and even then, right now I'm so excited to be sleeping through the night (7 years before that happened between the 3 kids), that I don't think I could go back. I think any guy that's not willing to have a vasectomy for his wife is a wimp--a real man would do it!
@hunandi (288)
• United States
3 Sep 08
Wow I love your response!!! In my one sister case her husband is tring to use it as a way to get more kids. Theres are 11 and 9. He told her he'll do it if she gives him another child. She said I dont think so like you she likes to sleep though the night. But in the light of day he will be the frist to tell you how scared he is of someone doing something done there. He knows she wont have any more so its really about putting it back on her. Thank for the comment.
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@lilybug (21107)
• United States
11 Sep 08
I just read your other discussion about your husband cheating and saying your kid is not his and his friend threatening to kidnap your kids. It sounds to me like he is volunteering to get a vasectomy so he does not have to worry about fathering a kid the next time he cheats on you. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but that is what it sounds like to me.
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@Adeliza1220 (877)
• United States
5 Sep 08
That is a great husband you have there who knows your true value and since he went through your pregnancies with you he understands what you have done as a mother and off the bat you can tell he is not selfish and thinks as a partner does. Fifty/fifty is the way a relationship go and I am sure from what you wrote you have a great marriage. Everything he said is true though, it takes less time for recovery when they get a vesectomy than what it does for us when one gets tubal.
