Do you forgive and forget?
By JannaLee
@JannaLee (660)
Philippines
September 5, 2008 1:03pm CST
I'm the type of person who gives second chances. Thanks by the way for those who replied on my previous thread. But I'm not the type of person who easily forget. I don't mean to do that, I mean there were times when I tried to suppress the thoughts, the pains and even the traumatic experiences I have encountered way before. But I just can't help it, there would really be times when flashbacks occur. How can one forgive without forgetting? Can the forgiveness be considered as genuine? Do you forgive and forget easily? ^^
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6 responses
@bbsr13 (4196)
• India
5 Sep 08
Hello,Lee! Yes,I forgive and forget every time I encounter with untoward incident.If I will not forget it will always hunt my mind and put me in tensions.Just to get rid of this situation I forgive and forget the issue.Thanx.
@zeny_zion (1283)
• Philippines
6 Sep 08
i can forgive but never forget. cause if you forget you will never learn. you have to learn from your mistakes. so dont forget.
@potrish78 (742)
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
I totally agree with you! I am also the type of person who forgives easily especially when the person asking for forgiveness is sincere. But i could not possibly forget what have caused me so much pain. Even the minute detail of the exact event lingers for as long I live. I do not understand this myself. They said that when you have totally forgiven, you should have forgotten everything that's happened. But this is not true to me. I know in my heart that I have totally forgiven the person who did me wrong. It's just that I don't forget. Maybe it's true for some people but I guess not to us. As they say, in every rule there's an exception and we're definitely an exception to this rule. lol.
@failsafe_o5 (103)
• United States
6 Sep 08
i give as many chances as you wish... but then i am a bit cynical and usually approach things skeptically second chance or not.
it's easier for me to forgive but you can't just forget. you learn from your trials and from pain, to forget would mean to take that all for granted and not grow up in the process of it.
i think the common thing is, people don't want to forget they were wronged. we need to get past that to forgive. once we stop focusing on whose fault it was and who caused the pain, forgiveness is real even if you still remember what happened.
@Sam334 (125)
• Singapore
5 Sep 08
It ultimately comes down to how serious he has offended or hurt you... though I believe everyone is capable of forgiving a person. Well maybe you wouldn't forget, but you should forgive.
Not forgetting doesn't mean you won't forgive the bad deeds they have done to you, but what happened, so as to prevent or at least, avoid the repeat of history.
