should schools have a hands-off policy?

@xialinye (1403)
China
September 8, 2008 11:59pm CST
you would expect to get into trouble for fighting in school or for tripping someone in the halls.but what's wrong with high-fiving a teammate or giving your best friend a hug? Joyce Kilmer middle school in Vienna,virginia,has a new rule about touching in school:it's not allowed!Beaulieu ,13,felt the effects of the rule.one afternoon,he left his lunch table to give his girlfriend a hug.he was told to report to the principal's office. so what's your opinion?what do you think about this policy.
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• United States
9 Sep 08
thats going way too far!!
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@xialinye (1403)
• China
9 Sep 08
totally agree with you ^__^
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
9 Sep 08
Holding of hands is fine, but hugging, should not be allowed as hugging can mean many other things ^_^ It's a little off limits to hug in school, and even if they wanna hug, they should do it in private and not somewhere whereby the whole school can see ^_^ IN my time, hugging is a big taboo in school, but now most schools will just turn a blind eye to it, and just tell them off or remind them not to do it again in public.. lol
@xialinye (1403)
• China
9 Sep 08
hugging is a big taboo in school in your days? oh... i love living in the modern world although it sucks,but i love it.
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• United States
9 Sep 08
i fail to see what's wrong with hugging in the public places... i mean i've seen hugging and something more intense - students kissing in the halls, when bunch of students are around, and i STILL fail to see what's wrong with those... -_-;;
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
10 Sep 08
Yeah, but in school is different, schools are supposed to be strict in their discipline, and thus hugging is seen to be too affectionate.. MAybe schools are singapore and too conservative?? haha
@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
9 Sep 08
I think that the policy is wrong. There is nothing wrong with giving his girlfriend a hug. That is a lousy school policy. Of course I don't think a lot of things are right anymore with a lot of things here in the United States
@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
9 Sep 08
Yeah it is still a great county
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@xialinye (1403)
• China
9 Sep 08
umm...but still one of the great countries in the world.
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@annjilena (5618)
• United States
10 Sep 08
schools have went buck wild kids are going to be kids when i went to school they didn,t have all this crap they have not.they want to put your children in detention for everything.
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@xialinye (1403)
• China
12 Sep 08
too many detentions...too strict with the students... they should learn from the mistakes they makes .the school should not prohibit them doing that, at least let them have a try...no more fun at school anymore,i guess,just study,study and study...
@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
9 Sep 08
that seems too extreame - what next - they can't tackle each other playing football? what about bumping into each other in the hall?
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@xialinye (1403)
• China
10 Sep 08
totally disgree that policy :-(
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@animeniak (425)
• United States
9 Sep 08
lol he got sent to the principal's office because he hugged his girlfriend?? so should the teachers in that school get fired for just shaking hands with his/her favorite students or giving them a hug?!?! LMAO!!! i mean yea assaulting another person or just showing any signs of violation deserves being sent to the principal's office, which is like that in any other schools, but hugging a girlfriend is different story.... i mean what are the faculty and staff members in that school thinking?? -_-;;
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@xialinye (1403)
• China
12 Sep 08
totally totally agree with you. the principal,the educator,what are they thinking...
• Canada
13 Sep 08
Thats taking things too far !! People touch each other all the time without even thinking about it as it is a part of our human nature when someone is upset or hurt to respond with a hug or touching there arm or something . This is going to send across a message that being there for someone is wrong by stating that if you have touched someone to comfort them that you have done something wrong . I don't see how they are going to be able to prevent this unless they are going to have camera in every area of the school including the bathrooms and this would be invasion of privacy if they were to do that . I am surprised the parents are not up in arms over this . If my student was given a detention or was expelled for touching a classmate I would be calling the school board so fast and giving them a piece of my mind !!
@xialinye (1403)
• China
14 Sep 08
the damn policy...still unbelievable...how could they do this to the kids... no hug,no kiss,no touching world means no love..
@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
I do not know what our world will become if the hands-off policy will be strictly implemented all over the world.. people would be so less caring... since we all know that the touch has a lot of good effects... administrators should no where to draw the line... we want to protect our kids but not to make them heartless and lesser caring individuals...
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@xialinye (1403)
• China
10 Sep 08
i hate that policy. it's totally unpractical.no touch?where's the love in the world?( a song sing by black eyed peas and justin timberland...lol..nice song) maybe a eye contact,a kiss and a hug definitely express more about our human being.
• United States
14 Sep 08
To me that is going to far, but we do not know the whole story of what came to that rule. Was the school having problems with excessive touching, fighting, pinching or fondling? I need to hear the whole story before I weigh in on the subject.
@xialinye (1403)
• China
14 Sep 08
i saw it in a magazine which lie in the library... i will check it and tell you the whole story,OK?
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Sep 08
xialinye hi I think that school is going way too far with their rules. Hugs should not be grounds for reprimands at all.I suppose a high five would get a kid in trouble also. what is going on in these peoples heads or are they just empty shells?
@xialinye (1403)
• China
12 Sep 08
agree with you. thank you,Hatley.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
14 Sep 08
A policy prohibiting unwanted touching sure, but stuff like this? Ridiculous!
@xialinye (1403)
• China
14 Sep 08
totally agree with you...
@mentalward (14691)
• United States
9 Sep 08
I heard about that story but was unaware that it took place in Virginia! I think these things are getting ridiculous! I can't see why a quick hug would even be an issue if no one complains! The only people complaining here are the administrators. Absurd! (Maybe they were jealous?) Before long, somebody is going to realize that a pencil can be a weapon and they'll be banned from school! That'll be the day I hope the men in the white coats with the long-sleeved 'wrap-arounds' come to pick up the administrators and law makers. This has to stop somewhere!
@xialinye (1403)
• China
12 Sep 08
ridiculous...even a hug can cause a big trouble... no touch ,no hug,where's the love?how to show love and respect?totally ridiculous. thank you for your comments,mentalward.
@mentalward (14691)
• United States
12 Sep 08
I suppose you could get into trouble for just shaking hands! That's definitely a contact thing to do!
• United States
10 Sep 08
I myself think holding hands is ok in school, but hugging should not be allowed. I myself do not want my son doing stuff at school I would not allow him to do at home. Also with the huge tred of girls liking girls, and boys liking boys it is hard to determin who are "friends" anymore.
@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
I think that is not good, because students would tend more to not follow this rule. I mean touching is ok and I see nothing wrong with it but of course bullying or physically assaulting someone is another thing. Maybe they should set first standards which are considered ok and which are not.
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@xialinye (1403)
• China
9 Sep 08
you are right.that must have a bottom line there. which are okey and which are not.otherwise,they live in a no-touch world.
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@Sean_Jean (269)
• Canada
13 Sep 08
Wow.. thats going a bit too far. I mean no hugs? Come on thats not right!
@xialinye (1403)
• China
13 Sep 08
yeah...they go back to the past... thank you for your support.
@shooie (4984)
• United States
8 Oct 08
I think high fiving a fellow teammate should be okay or even hugging. I emember when I was a kid in school we didn't have to deal with these issues. Us kids could walking around holding hands and skipping around the school yards (grade school) hugging our friends and teachers weren't an issue eiter. When i got in high school hugging friends and high fiving weren't issues either. We could even hug our teachers without anyone worrying about it. Hands off for fighting and things on that nature I agree with and should be dealt with but a hug and high five should be okay.