Is Jealousy Sign of Love?

@mjmlagat (3171)
Philippines
September 11, 2008 5:39am CST
Many people would make jealousy an excuse to a feeling sometimes we cannot understand..is it a true sign of love that a person get jealous or just a sign of his/her insecurity towards his/her partner? Most of the time couples quarrel because of this and mostly, the aggravating party gives an excuse that "it's just a sign that I really love you"...is it so? What are your thoughts on the matter? THANKS ALL for sharing and Happy posting!
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28 responses
• United States
12 Sep 08
I've learned the anguish and pain of jealousy. And learned that jealousy is a sign of love,but not for your partner but for self. Your pride and self esteem is injuried and challenged. When you get too comfortable with someone you think that all is well and no one else or anything else can change it. All is perfect. Don't take that nor a person for granted it's bound to back fire on you. Sometimes it's not you. It could be your partner who is having problems. As life changes, so do we. You have to work each day as if you are renewing your relationship. You can work things out and renew your relationship.
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• India
11 Sep 08
Of course , jealous is the second name of love, without jealous no love is complete in itself. If we want to ask are you in love it is better to ask are you jealous. I think it will work.
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@oiixdaii (1059)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
For me, jealousy is not a sign of true love. It is caused by lack of trust or caused by the cheating of your partner or previous partners. I don't like my partner getting jealous over someone because it is a sign that I don't make my partner feel secure about my feelings towards her.
@esphyka (158)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
yes i strongly believe that jealousy is a sign of love... we won't get jealous if we don't love the person right?... some say that jeaslousy is a sign of selfishness and i think when we are inlove we tend to be selfish... ofcourse we dont want our special someone be touched or be flirt by others...
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• Philippines
11 Sep 08
If love is true, genuine, real then I don't think jealousy will ever get into the picture. If it will then both parties involved in the relationship could sit down, talk about and everything will be resolved. I don't know if I'm being too idealistic but I always believe that love conquers all (haha. Well, I guess I am idealistic). I don't think jealousy will ever become a sign of love. It's what it is, a sign of insecurity. :D
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@joy4you (641)
• India
11 Sep 08
I think jealousy starts as a result of imbalance of expectations in a relationship. For example one partner might get jealous if he/she thinks the other partner is not giving them enough attention or if you are giving someone else too much attention. Whatever the reason , both should discuss with their partners what they expect from each other and maybe come to a suitable understanding of what to expect. Both need to be willing to adjust. Happy mylotting.
• China
11 Sep 08
i think that's a sign, if you don't care anyone's feeling then you must don't love him at all. we are all human, and we are all selfish sometimes, so when we make a jealousy with someone, that's means that person is important to me, and he can control our feeling. if we don't have that feeling, i think he is just a passing by.
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• Philippines
15 Oct 10
many people may argue than in order to feel jealousy for someone you have to feel the love also, this may be true, but i think jealousy and love is different emotions.
@Jezebella (1448)
• United States
13 Oct 10
I dont think jealousy could be considered a sign of love. I mean if I really love my boyfriend I wouldn't get jealous when he spend time or talks to his female friends. I wouldn't get jealous if I trusted him and honestly I don't I know he loves me and see his female friends as that, friends. I think jealousy a lot of the time is insecurity
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
many people may argue than in order to feel jealousy for someone you have to feel the love also, this may be true,but jealousy and love is different emotions.
• Philippines
6 Oct 10
ahm.maybe cause that's the way you will show your feelings to someone..but not in a bad way..so that he/she will know you really love him/her...
• Philippines
6 Oct 10
Jealousy could be a sign of love but it depends on what reason. Its nature to feel jealous sometimes especially if there's something to need to get jealous like if you caught your boyfriend missing around with girls, then you have the right to get jealous. But thats another story already. If that happens then I think something wrong with the relationship already. Jealousy could be a sign of envy, like you see something on someone and you also want it or distrust or just being suspicious on someone, without any bases especially in relationship. This happens very often especially if your lack of self confidence.
@ADMaroC (76)
4 Oct 10
Sort off..LOL.. its for my own opinion.. actually i get jealous of someone whose also inlove with my special someone... it means that i and the others are showing love to that someone their... LOL =]]
• Philippines
2 Oct 10
(1 John 4:18) “There is no fear in love;but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-8) “Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;bears all things, believes all things,hopes all things, endures all things.LOVE NEVER FAILS..” if somebody get jealous it simply means HE/SHE doesn't have that trust to that somebody...
• Philippines
20 Sep 08
Jealousy that doesn't hurt is good unlike other couple experience if they are having jealous with each other they are hurting each other, that's no longer love. Site for an example, sometimes a wife got jealous when her husband (an instructor) when together with a student. then that's already being selfish, no longer love. Yes it's true that you wont got jealous if love isn't exist in your heart. When you feel nothing then there's no love but if you felt jealous have it in a right place also. Thank you my dear mylotters for posting this discussions.
@sang2k2 (1834)
• India
13 Sep 08
its a sign of loave and possessive ness. rather a feeling of belonging that my partner belongs to me and no one has a right on him/her. but it generallys ends in fighting. it can also prove in loss of trust as well.
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
Good day.. yes I think it is but like other things too much of it can become poison. A little bit of it is like an elixir to a relationship, I mean what would one think if a person is obviously flirting with you and your partner doesn't seem to care? I mean that's a bad sign of her/him falling out of love. I'd rather have a little jealousy than nothing of it. I can live with a little of it.
• India
12 Sep 08
m really agree with you,,yeah jelousy is sign of love because when you see the one whom you love to onother guy at that time automatically you feel some jelousness because you feel some insecureness that if that guy will impress to ur love and than what happend??this kind of thought are coming in ur mind which is nothing but a jelousness according to me indirectaly jelousy is the nothing but a sign of love...what do u think guyssss
• Sri Lanka
12 Sep 08
It could be. There are many other signs of Love too. But if the lovers understand each other well, then this won't be a problem.
@elitess (5099)
• Ipswich, England
12 Sep 08
In some cases it is a sign of love, in some cases it may show insecurities as well, but in other cases, when you are jealous for his/ hers good wealth it has nothing to do with love... I guess it depends on what you are jealous of.