The Crying (and driving) Game
By SaintAnne
@SaintAnne (5453)
United States
September 14, 2008 1:53am CST
Have you ever cried while you're driving?
I did today. All of a sudden and for no reason, I felt like crying and could not hold it until I got home. I only had a couple miles left to get home and the waterworks started. It wasn't funny then but it's amusing now 12 hours later. The experience just reminded me of a movie scene (can't think of a specific one) where the main character starts bashing the car wheel and starts bawling while driving.
On a more serious note, I hope you don't cry and drive out there. Be safe.
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@zigzagbuddha (4601)
• United States
14 Sep 08
Yes I have. But that was a very long time ago. Hmmmm. I know that the 'monthly cycle' can play havoc with your hormones, and if you're stressed out on top of it, well... no wonder you're crying and driving.
Sometimes a good cry can help to release pent-up emotions, that's a fact, but I hope that you are taking the time to go inward and find out what the emotion is that is causing the tears... grief? Despair and a sense of powerlessness? Frustration?
Once you have pinpointed the emotion and what thoughts are causing it then you can start looking for ways to make yourself feel better about the situation. I know you said that after the cry you feel better now, but still, it is to your lifelong advantage to be able to deliberately direct your thoughts in a direction that provides you with a sense of relief. Then you will never again find yourself in the position of driving while trying to see the road through your tears.
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@zigzagbuddha (4601)
• United States
14 Sep 08
My sister and I have been through some rough times that would have destroyed a lesser relationship, but our bond is so strong that eventually we returned back to our closeness, and in fact even more so. If you said stuff you now regret just remember how you felt when you said them and don't make the situation worse by beating up on yourself for openly expressing your feelings at the time.
So many people do that... they go "Oh, I shouldn't have said that. I'm so sorry. I didn't mean it." And they are in fact betraying themselves with statements like that. At the time you said it you friggin meant it! But now you feel differently. And if a relationship of any sort cannot stand the sometimes 'brutal truth' then it is not really worth grieving over. Just my opinion.
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
14 Sep 08
As for all the emotions you mentioned, I pick "all of the above". Well, except for grief... but I'm somewhat dealing with a loss of a relationship with someone very close (not Boyfriend). You know when you do and say things that are of the no-turning-back variety, both the other person and I did to each other. So I know the relationship will be there after all these but I'm not quite sure as to how we can ever go back to the way things were. I know I'm being vague, just want the private details to myself.
I hope you know I really appreciate your post, zigzagbuddha.
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@zigzagbuddha (4601)
• United States
14 Sep 08
PS: And I hope you know how much I appreciate your expression of appreciation!
@shiloh_222 (5479)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
hi there...well, i dont have a car...so maybe cry at the backseat... hahahaa....though i usually have a crying jag in front of my laptop... but i guess, it's just being in my room so it's not like with you. my dear friend, hope everythign is okay with you. i miss you and please take care... happy mylotting.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
14 Sep 08
HelloooOOooo Miss Shiloh. I guess crying in the backseat is acceptable but it's more dramatic (and sadly, more dangerous) when you're the driver. Everything's okay, I think. Thank you so very much!
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@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
14 Sep 08
No I haven't done that. With my luck, I'd get into an accident. Usuaully when I cry I am alone. Sometimes with my hubby late at night. But I hope you feel better about whatever made you cry in the 1st place.
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
14 Sep 08
I feel a bit better now, ersmommy. Thanks!
It's good that you have your hubby to comfort you during the times that you don't want to cry alone. Take care.
@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
14 Sep 08
I can honestly say there has been a few times I have cried while driving which I know it is not good to do so,one time was when I had dropped my fiance off at her grandparents because my mom said I had to take her back after she had stayed here for like two weeks,and I cried on my way home because I missed her,and there has been a couple times where I have heard a sad song on the radio that made me start crying, one of those songs is Holes In The Floor Of Heaven by Steve Warner.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
14 Sep 08
I have never heard of Holes in the Floor of Heaven and I guess I should check it out. Yes, hearing sad songs on the radio can make a driver teary-eyed that is why I have a playlist of fun and let's-get-the-day-going songs when I'm at the wheel. Take care, Cowboy.
@Chevee (5905)
• United States
14 Sep 08
For no reason no, I feel sad sometimes, but just brawling I can't recall ever doing that. I have been driving and thought of something sad and tears has come to my eyes. I hope you feel better, I do believe for some reason you are unaware of that this happened.
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
14 Sep 08
Thanks Chevee. I feel much better now after crying then.
