How do you know when someone lies to you, what signals do they give?

@kiran1978 (4139)
Australia
September 16, 2008 12:02am CST
I can usually tell when someone lies to me if they try and change the subject, can't look me in the eye or get really defensive. How about you, how do you know when you are being lied to?
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17 responses
• United States
16 Sep 08
High pitched voice, they are talking faster than usual, they do not make as much eye contact or they cannot make eye contact, and they get very nervous or they look very nervous. People who lie, and they are not very good at it or do not do it often, have that look and aire about them that screams, "I am lying to you"!
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@kiran1978 (4139)
• Australia
17 Sep 08
Didn't think about high pitched voice, thanks for pointing this out, will look out for this signal next time I think someone is lying to me.
@gerald_lian (2194)
• Australia
16 Sep 08
For me, I know when someone lies to me when they become very nervous and have a stuttering sort of speech when they start to talk. Besides, lying people normally don't keep eye contact, but this is not always the case because I know a friend who can lie but still keep an eye contact with me. I guess the whole appearance and presentation of the person will change when he or she starts to lie, and so we just need to observe the individual as a whole to know whether he or she is lying. But some people can be really bad in observing, so perhaps bringing along a "lie detector" would be good.....
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@kiran1978 (4139)
• Australia
17 Sep 08
It would be great if we could bring along a lie detecter, lol, that would sort out the liers then. I think eye contact is a good indication too that someone is lying, however like your friend some people become really good liers and can lie and look you in the eye.
@littleowl (7157)
16 Sep 08
Hi Kiran normally I know is if they can't look me in the eye..the way something is said sometimes I can tell it is a blatant lie or excuse..a little blush gives it away too..the other thing their body language can be a big tell tale sign...Hugs littleowl
@kiran1978 (4139)
• Australia
19 Sep 08
Hello littleowl how are you. Haven't talked to you in a while. Blush is probably good indication of someone lying. I always look out for body language too when I think I am being lied to. I can't stand being lied to, I wish people would just tell the truth as then it is hard to trust again.
@littleowl (7157)
22 Sep 08
Hi Kiran..am sorry for not being intouch, it's not that I have been too busy as that would be a lie!! No have just been on and off mylot now and then lately just haven't had the enthusiam in being on here like I used too xo How are you and family? Will pm you tomorrow which will be Monday here and will be in the evening..think you are about 5hrs behind us aren't you? Many hugs littleowl xoxoxoox
@cupid74 (11397)
• Pakistan
16 Sep 08
Hi dear well u feel it when some body is lieuing to u. its so long in professional field that Gesture, body language of person can tell u that he/she is lieing ( most of cases. some might be too expert) LOL Take care
@kiran1978 (4139)
• Australia
19 Sep 08
Yes I can feel when someone lies to me, just wanted to know if there were other ways to know for sure, just incase my gut instincts are wrong, lol.
@cupid74 (11397)
• Pakistan
20 Sep 08
hmmmmmmmmm believe on ur instincts
@mayka123 (9518)
• India
16 Sep 08
When a person is telling a lie they are not able to look you in the eye and talk. Besides that very often the hands if they are standing or feet if the person is sitting get fidgety. Besides there is also a change in the tone of the voice.
@kiran1978 (4139)
• Australia
19 Sep 08
Thanks Mayka, I will have to take more notice of tone of voice never really looked into that signal before when I think someone is lying to me. I have heard of the no eye contact and fidgety body language signals.
@mayka123 (9518)
• India
20 Sep 08
I sometimes notice the change in tone when talking to a person on the phone too. When you talk to a person on phone very often especially your kids, sometimes you are able to tell that they are lying.
• India
19 Sep 08
Eyes reveals everything and buy looking at the facial expressions and eye movements,i can easily find out whether the person is lying or not.
@kiran1978 (4139)
• Australia
19 Sep 08
I agree eyes do reveal everything however some people are hard to tell as they are so use to lying that they can look you in the eyes and lie.
16 Sep 08
Hi kiran, That is a good signs that tells you some one is lying, and there is another one, when they starts blinking rapidley, and keeps touching their nose or any part of their body, usually its their nose or their ears and their chin so watch out for the signs. Love and Bless, Tamara
@kiran1978 (4139)
• Australia
19 Sep 08
Hi Tamara, I knew of the touching the nose, but wasn't aware of their ears and chin I will be on the look out for those signs next time. Have a great day!
@checapricorn (16076)
• United States
16 Sep 08
[i]Hi kiran, When someone can't look me direct to me eyes when talking and very defensive also, it's my valid basis that he/she is not telling the truth! Plus, when I will asked again, he/she will give me different version of the story and them can't talk straight![/i]
@kiran1978 (4139)
• Australia
19 Sep 08
Hello, I totally agree with you, that is the main way I know if someone is lying to me, is when they get really defensive and they change their story. Liars should try and atleast remember the same story, lol.
16 Sep 08
eyes always tells the truth. If they lie they will never look into the eye In some cases they will look into the eye and pass their lies into our body. Some of the mind readers do that. They will stress what they suggest to tell and believe as that we are them They will make us to comply with their mistake. some of the body movements which they make as standing straight, moving their hands to backwards, placing their hands in their hip, bending towards us for suggesting, making our frequency low, a lot of fun with those people. But the problem is, they will make us to follow their mistake. They will make a big mistake to swallow the small ones. I do is just look into the eyes, which most will not survive. Secondly, Not just answering to their lies make them inbalance to what they suggest. Doesn't care for simple mistakes which makes not much bad.
@kiran1978 (4139)
• Australia
19 Sep 08
Seems like you have come across a few liars, lol. Not quite sure what you mean by they will make us follow their mistake? I agree that eyes always tell the truth, however sometimes there are expert liars out there that can look you in the eyes and lie.
@salonga (24432)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
There are verbal signs such as mumbling or speaks in a lowered, monotonous tone accompanied by a lowered head and slouching shoulders, or getting defensive. Non- verbal signs like laughing inappropriately, or refusing to make eye contact are obvious hints of lying. Other signs I read are: --------------------------- Hands touching their face, throat & mouth. Touching or scratching the nose or behind their ear. Not likely to touch his chest/heart with an open hand. The guilty person may speak more than natural, adding unnecessary details to convince you… they are not comfortable with silence or pauses in the conversation. Also, the guilty person use humor or sarcasm to avoid a subject. Timing and duration of emotional gestures and emotions are off a normal pace. The display of emotion is delayed, stays longer it would naturally, and then stops suddenly. Timing is off between emotions gestures/expressions and words. Example: Someone says “I love it!” when receiving a gift, and then smile after making that statement, rather then at the same time the statement is made. A liar will use your words to make answer a question. When asked, “Did you eat the last cookie?” The liar answers, “No, I did not eat the last cookie.”A statement with a contraction is more likely to be truthful: “ I didn’t do it” instead of “I did not do it”. A a liar follows along willingly and becomes more relaxed when you change the subject quickly. The guilty wants the subject changed; an innocent person may be confused by the sudden change in topics and will want to back to the previous subject. Too much use of gestures indicates lying. In a subconscious effort to enhance believability, a liar will promote his/her words with unnaturally pronounced gesturing. Also on a subconscious level, the body language serves to divert attention from the dishonest words and face. Uneasy shifting from foot to foot is a gesture of a liar. They say that a liar doesn’t always keep his/her feet flat on the ground (whether standing or sitting). Attempting to justify every detail with lengthy explanations and adding too much uneccesary words like “believe me,” “to tell the truth,” and the likes.
@kiran1978 (4139)
• Australia
19 Sep 08
Wow Salonga thanks for the awesome response, you really have given me some useful insight into how to spot a liar. I found it interesting with the points mentioned about timing of gestures after someone has told a lie. I think that is so true, often liars do react slower with thier gestures. Also I have noticed when I am being lied to when someone changes the subject, if they were innocent they would not want to change the subject so quickly. I never heard of when someone tells the truth they will use a contraction, that is very interesting. I found your response very useful and I will be on the lookout of all these signals next time I am lied to, thanks for your very detailed response, thumbs up to you.
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
you just get this gut feeling of being lied to. ehehe. seriously, the confidence of the person says it all. if they he/she fidgety, quite bubbly and too nice to you, i guess that spells out LIAR. well, am into details. like i am quite keen when it comes to mismatched information. i tried the eyecontact technique, but a chronic liar would know that. so, i just probe and ask questions. and if i am not convinced, i just leave a blank expression. and eventually (most of the time) they'd spill the truth. =)
@kiran1978 (4139)
• Australia
19 Sep 08
I agree gut feelings are usually always right. I also probe when I think someone is lying to me, however I still don't get the truth, lol, maybe I am not probing enough.
@jammyt (2824)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
I can tell by their eye movements and their voice. Restlessness is also a sign. Most of the time I can also just "feel" it.
@kiran1978 (4139)
• Australia
17 Sep 08
Yeah restlesness is a good signal that someone is lying, good point.
@twoey68 (13662)
• United States
15 Nov 08
Usually it is just a vibe I get off them...so far it hasn't been wrong. [b]~~MY OWN PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG AND BELIEVE IN YOURSELF**[/b]
@freemn (138)
• China
28 Sep 08
When I asked a question, If he hesitate for a while before answer me. I am going to doubt about the answer.
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
I can tell if someone's lying if they cannot look at me in the eye when they talk. Also, when they fiddle with something while talking. Usually, when one of my siblings would lie to me I would research about it. I'd ask my other siblings and other people around the house regarding the matter and if I have gathered substantial evidences I'd confront my sibling about it. In that case, that's how I know if my siblings are lying to me. ;D
@snakequeen (1300)
• India
16 Sep 08
Hi kiran! Looking directly into eye and similar tactics have become very old nowadays to ascertain whether a person is lying or not! In fact, liers are very smart and practocal these days and they know the ways thro which they can be caught redhanded! They used to pretend and even substantiate what they are telling, so that it appears as though it's true! You cannot easily judge these persons either by their looks or attitude! You can call them next generation liers, at least!
@jfxrsch (1041)
• China
16 Sep 08
I normally don't bother looking into a person's eyes to see if he/she is a lie or not. I prefer look into his/her needs and wants. If his/her needs and wants is reasonable, I can supply him/her some satisfaction. If it's not reasonable, I discard him/her even if he/she is telling the truth.