Do you react easily when someone gives a negative remark on you?

@djoyce71 (2512)
Philippines
September 16, 2008 8:49am CST
Not all people would like us, in fact others hate us for some reasons. Sometimes, they tend to give negative remarks on you, either straight on your face or at your back. When someone gives a negative remark, would you react immediately? If you heard that someone backfighted you, would you confront right away?
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@JayJashG (290)
• India
16 Sep 08
It depends on the people who say it. IF its my close friend or my family members I think about it but if its gonna be someone I just wont bother to listen the next word. I just show my reactions directly to them and I walk off..
@ace_ivann (326)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
Hi djoyce! It may be a cliche, but it is really true 'til this day, "You cannot please everyone." I am a critical thinker. That is why, if someone tells something about me whether good or bad remarks, I would just accept their remarks. If I think that the bad remarks they are telling against me are really true, then it's time for me to look at myself. I must reflect and make some actions to improve my personality. Changes for the better and not for the worse. If ever, I know others backstabbing me then I think it is just right to talk to them. I would ask them why they are saying those things which I think are not true. I just want to make things clear to them. Maybe I have some faults to which I am not aware of. So, maybe their criticisms might help me become a better person.
@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
I think this quotation fits you ace: "If you understand who you are and respect yourself, you will not see criticism as a problem but as an opportunity to become a better person. When you feel inadequate or imperfect, the criticism is threatening and makes you feel that you have to defend yourself. When you are secure--not perfect, but secure--you can listen to the criticism and consider its value." Good day and thanks for giving time to respond.
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
Hi djoyce! Thanks for the nice quotation! I'll always bear that in mind. Have a great day ahead! =)
@trixyteddy (1072)
• India
22 Sep 08
I have thank God for the patience he has given me in this case. Most times I ignore them. If I feel someone is saying it without any illwill, I do respond depending on whether I agree or not. But if someone is negating me out of illwill, then I just ignore the person.
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@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
You must be a very patient person trix. Thank you for responding. "Patience is the companion of wisdom.” Have a nice day!
@salonga (27963)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
When I heard it directly, right there and then surely I would confront her. She does not have the right to talk negative things against me. And nobody has the right to do that to anyone else. But if somebody else just brought me the news, then I would go to the person and ask her first if it is true. I would give her the benefit of the doubt first. Whatever is her reaction I'd react accordingly. If she denies then I'd consider the case closed unless I'd hear the same thing again from another. But if she admits then she will get what she wants from me.
@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
.... then it will definitely be her big problem maam if she admits it. She'll be more careful next time. Have a nice day!
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
NO I would not, I will just laugh it off, oh yeah maybe I will get mad at first but after I cooled off I will ignore and go o with my life, after all you cannot please everybody.
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@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
I think it's good to laugh it off. I might try that also. Good day and keep cool pehps.
@dong1970 (1573)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
Negative remarks makes me hurt but i'll take it as a challenge for me.We can't please everybody.I don't react immediately,and think it over if why that there's a negative remark on me.
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@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
Yes dong, we can't really please everybody. It's good that you don't react immediately and doing an evaluation of the things that happen to you. Good day!
@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
16 Sep 08
I believe that it is just a fact of life that no matter what people are going to either not like us or hate us. We might not have even done anything to anyone but we tend to rub someone the wrong way. Maybe they don't like our attitudes or the way we dress. I like to accept people the way they are and give them a chance. I really can't say that I hate anyone in particular. I don't sit and think or look at someone and decide I don't like them. That just takes time away from me and from doing other constructive activity. I don't get too overly upset when I hear of a negative remark on me. My feelings might get hurt but then I just move on with my life. Have a great day.
@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
You're right, just move on with life though you're hurt. I think it's the best way to deal with it. Thanks for the response. Have a great day, too bam.
@msedge (4012)
• United States
10 Oct 08
I am just human and have feelings.I would get hurt when someone talk behind my back or give negative remarks straight on my face.I used to react immediately before to get even but i realized that i would should not step down to the level of these kind of people.I just keep my heads up and ignore them and list up everything to the Lord.I know He will always stay fair for all of us.
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
Reacting would be dignifying their comment. When you just smile at them, then they'll get irritated because they have not expected your indifferent attitude. These negative remarks are not worth your time. If you react negatively, it's just like you stuck out your tongue too to someone who is carzy or mentally challenged. No one in her right mind would react to a "crazy" person or remark. Cheers and all the best.
@warrior_777 (1392)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
No not at all.. I will not waste my time for those kind of people.. I will just continue my happy life.. I will not be bothered by them.. I will just wish him luck.. Happy mylotting..
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@eagle_f15 (2054)
• Malaysia
16 Sep 08
For me it would be depending on who said the -ve remark. If its someone close to me, my family members I would stop and think and consider. But if it is from someone I know who has nothing better to say of people, I wouldn't even bother - why waste my time.
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@thukio16 (254)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
of course not! they wish....lol