I have contacted my father but still no response..

@cream97 (29087)
United States
September 17, 2008 12:59pm CST
I gave my father $90.00 for appliances for my apartment. I have moved out of my apartment, so therefore, I no longer need the appliances. I have asked for my money back on August 25, 2008. My father told me that the man whom had my money was out of town.. I talked to the guy whom was supposed to be giving me the appliances, and he told me that my father has never given him one dime. He told me that he kept telling my father to bring me over to his house so that I could see the appliances.. This guy also does rental places to live at as well. But, he said that my father refused to bring me over to his house. So since then, I have been waiting to get my money back. I put money in my dad's hand on August 20, 22 of last month. I have not seen any of my money since then.. I have called him twice this week about my money. He would never call me back. I have even called the guy whom is supposed to have had my money for the appliances, but, still no response for him either. Who is lying? Is it the guy? Or is it my father? Or is it the both of them lying together? I know that I trusted my dad.. The guy said that my father took my money and he lied to me. I am very upset with my father, if he did this to me. I called my father this Monday, and asked to speak to him, he answered the phone like a woman. And he asked me, whom it was, I said it was me, and then he said that he was not home.. Why is he playing games with me? Mind games at that. Last week, I told my father, that I will give him six days to give me back my money or I will have to take further actions.. He still would not return any of my phone calls. I have been waiting for him to call me back and explain to me what really went on with my money. Yes, it is obvious, that it was stolen. But, I try to be fair, and listen to my dad's side of the story as well. But, now he has given me no choice. This week, I plan to go to Law Enforcement, and explain to them what is going on, and I will tell them that I have been trying to contact both my father and the guy since this month and last month. I am fed up. My father thinks that I am playing with him, but I am not! I want my money back! I have given him six days to put my $90.00 in my hands, and he has not. I am trying my best to make less confusion by giving him a chance to explain himself to me, but he has not. I hate to seek Law Enforcement on him, when we can just handle this ourselves. I hate to take that route especially with my father. But he gives me no choice!
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15 responses
@jonesy123 (3948)
• United States
17 Sep 08
Although there seems to definitely something strange going on, I'm not sure that the police will do much about it. It's not stolen because you willingly handed it over. You might have been scammed though, and you need to prove that. Still, you might get lucky and they'll send an officer over to talk to your dad and the other guy. Obviously something is up since your dad doesn't even want to talk to you, nor now the other guy. Good to see that you moved out of that nasty apartment. I suppose it was too dirty to feel good and healthy. I hope you found a much better place to live in.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
17 Sep 08
Yes, something strange is going on.. I want to believe what the guy was telling me, but, I find it very hard to. He too, will not return any of my phone calls. That guy wants me to believe that my father took my money, but then he is not returning my phone calls as well.
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@relundad (2310)
• United States
17 Sep 08
This guy has probally decided that there is something fishy going on between you and your dad, and I'm sure he doesn't want to get in the mix of it. I sure wouldn't. After I told you that I didn't get the money from your dad, any other questions or concerns you would need to take them up with your dad.
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@relundad (2310)
• United States
17 Sep 08
What are they going to be able to do about a cash transaction that you had last month for appliances that you were going to buy from somebody that your dad knows? It just seems this is one that you may have to chalk up as a loss. You have no way of proving that you gave the money to your dad. And really I think if your dad is lying to you and avoiding your calls, I wouldn't expect him to say "ok Officer Friendly, I stole my daughters money and now I want to go to jail or give it back"
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
17 Sep 08
Yes, you are right, even my dad admitted that I could not prove anything about him taking my money. I told him yes, because, I never have gotten an receipt.. So, in other words he knew exactly what he was doing all along. His plans were to rip me off, without me having any proof.. That was his scheme all along... That is why he would never bring me to the guy's house so that I could give him the money instead..
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Yes, that is right. I may not go to the police, but I will make sure that I collect my money that is owed to me!
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Besides, my dad acts as if he gets mad when things don't go his way. Did you know that he hung the phone up on me when I did not have all of the money to give him? He wanted me to pay $350.00 for the fridge, stove, deep freezer, microwave and the air conditioner. But, I told him that I would not be able to afford all these items.. I had just enough of money to do what, I had plans to do... He got mad because, I did not give him this entire amount to give to the guy. He was very mad at me. Money was pretty tight during the time he asked me for this huge amount. I know that I has to pay for these items, but, I just did not have the funds at that time. Instead of him being an understanding father, he got so angry with me, for not having the money..
@shooie (4984)
• United States
20 Sep 08
I'll tell you what my dad and mom use to tell me when I was younger and they borrowed money from me in between checks or whatever because when I was 12 i was making money cleaning houses. When sometimes they didn't pay back the response I got was I live under their roof. Which is true. Parents raise us until we go through school and pay ll our bills and such. I could see taking my father to court if it was $900.00 but $90 no. What about when you were growing up and the year books and things from school and the things you needed for school. Keeping a roof over your head and food on the table and clothes on your back. Or when you wanted to go out with your friends. $90 bucks wouldn't even begin to pay back what our parents did for us when we were growing up. Will be really sad to take him or drag the law into your lives over $90 dollars. Write it off as an investment in what they put into you when you were younger. Also need to remember if you have kids or plan to have kids the shoe may be on the other foot.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
20 Sep 08
Yes, I will let it go.. He was wrong for stealing from me..
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
19 Sep 08
Hello cream. One of them is dishonest. But if it happens to your father, I think that you could just leave the money with him if he is in need of it. I am so sorry for the dilemma you are facing with. Happy mylotting.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
19 Sep 08
Yeah, I am so sorry too..
• India
18 Sep 08
After all He is your father and if he has not returned your money you gave him for buying some appliances, what matter, the amount is not so big. I further think that the financial condition of your father may not be so sound and he might have used that money for some other purpose or possibly he has been cheated by some other person for money and he is ashamed on it and is not able to return and he is not responding you about. Please do not take it otherwise. Please comment and have a cool mind over it.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Yes, I will have a calm mind about it. I believe that my father got himself in a jam and that is why he used my money like he did. Telling me the truth would have been the smart and wise thing to do.
• China
18 Sep 08
this is definitely a very complicated problem. it is not merely about the money but also about the relationship between you and your dad. if the relationship is good i am sure that your dad would not lie to you and you should go to that guy. but according to what you said, your dad is so suspious that you can do something to defend yourself
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Yes, it is very hard to say what really went on. I am weighing all the options.. All, I can say is that I would like my money back in my hands.. Our relationship is okay.. But, he does has his ways.. He has a bad habit of hanging up on me.. What kind of father gets mad and hangs up on his daughter? How is he going to get mad over something that he done to me?
@nilzerous1 (2434)
• India
17 Sep 08
No Choice! Now I get to understand the reason behind that 'Female Voice'! So, he has some real reason to use his 'female' voice. Before seeking for 'Law Enforcement' you may consider taking the matter with someone else in your family whom both of you can trust- explain the situation to that person. It works sometimes.
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
18 Sep 08
i'm so sorry to hear that you have to go to such a measure to deal with your father... it is really a shame that he cheats you and run away with your money just like that... especially you don't have much money and you really needed the money to live... i hope the law enforcement can help you to solve the problem between you and your father... and you are right... it is a pity that things should go in this way between a father and a daughter where things can actually been solved nicely between the two of you... but he really leaves you with no choice and it is not your fault... you had contacted him, give him a chance and warned him... he is the one who choose to run away and ignore you... good luck and have a nice day...
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@Zmugzy (773)
18 Sep 08
I really don't think a personal family issue such as this should be discussed on mylot. You should seek advice from other family members or close friends.
@Zmugzy (773)
18 Sep 08
I'm just giving my opinion. If I had a family dispute, the last thing I would do is to discuss it on MyLot. It's absurd.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
19 Sep 08
Yes, that is what YOU would do, everyone else is different. We at MyLot are here to discuss. If you don't like my discussion, then refrain from answering it.. That way, it won't be no kind of drift between you and I.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
18 Sep 08
And with what?? They will tell me the same thing, that myLot would have told me. I may very well get different opinions on this, as with my own family members..
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
17 Sep 08
Sometimes we have to do that, and it's heartbreaking, but any parent that would steal from their own child is so low that they could look up at the belly of a snake! I hope you can get your money back. So you're out of that roach-infested, dirty carpet place? That would be wonderful news!
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
17 Sep 08
Yes, I am out, AND GLAD TO BE!!
• United States
17 Sep 08
you probably wont be a big fan of what I am about to say but.... Firstly, a cop will file a police report but since it was a cash transaction you will have to take your father to small claims court if you continue to desire to pursue this issue. You will have to bring whatever witnesses you have as it was a cash transaction and your word against his. A filing fee will be charged for the case but that is usually very nominal. Is your relationship with your father worth 90.00? I am not trying to defend him....but maybe he needed the money...maybe the deal went south with the guy and he feels really bad about it and isnt sure how to handle it with you. Maybe the guy did scam your dad and now he feels like an idiot because he was trying to help you. I dont know the whole situation. It doesnt change the fact however that someday your dad will be gone....do you want to spend these years arguing over what amounts to a days pay? Do you really want to call the police and take your father to court over 90.00?
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
17 Sep 08
No, I really don't want to do that, but, I would like my money.. And he was totally wrong for stealing from me at all. I have given him chances, he can't just ignore me. The fact that he took my money was wrong.. No other words can explain that better. I am not one to hold a grudge over this, but, if he chooses to ignore me, then I will have to take matters into my own hands.. Which would be to let the Law handle this situation..
• United States
17 Sep 08
This is sickening to me. What kind of parent would steal money from their child, lie to them, and then play games and pretend they are not there? It sounds to me like you should definitely contact law enforcement about this. They may not be able to do anything, but maybe it will help your dad realize that he was wrong and that he can't do this to people. That is really low to steal from your own child. I think that either the man with the appliances is telling you the truth or they are both lying to you and are in in together. Either way, it is a situation that is totally wrong and something needs to be done about it. This is not ok.
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• India
18 Sep 08
Hi frnd...u go to law enforcement and explain about this topic and file case oonly on the shop person...because filing a case on ur father that to for just 90$...it will not be gud man..he would have spent u a lot of money for ur education and all and ur father would have used for his own work.and he is afraid to tell abt tht to u..so he is not able to lift the fone also..so ask ur father in good way..ask him wat did he do with that money..ask him that was there any problem that he has used that money...he wil definitely respond u man..so think frnd ur father would have given u..more than 9000$$ till now..so filling a case for just 90$ wil be a foolish thing man...and this is just my advice..u can do watever u can byeeeeee
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
19 Sep 08
I am not going to file any case.. I just want my money back..
@vmksvmks (413)
• Canada
18 Sep 08
Sorry i am sure i donot see the picture clearly But I am a father and my children are my life line so i would never under any circumstances ask them for money back no matter what the story is As I say you have valid message here but i just donot see it Many will understand and be on your side I am not the enemy but just telling it lile it is Good Luck Have a Great day I certainly will
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
18 Sep 08
My father had no business taking my money and using it for his own means.. He was supposed to be giving this money to the guy for my appliances, not for any other reason..
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
17 Sep 08
[i]Hi cream, can you visit your dad? and talk to him personally? I know what he has done is not good but it is better maybe to talk to him in person! Just my opinion! ANyway, that is very sad really when our own family will cheat us even if we are in a bad shape..You need to know the truth and I guess if the guy is not telling the truth, I am sure you dad will talk to you and defend himself, for sure he is guilty![/i]
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
17 Sep 08
Yes, he is guilty. It is very obvious that he is. But, I want to go over to his house, but, he may not answer the door.. If he does not answer my phone calls, then surely he not answer his door when I would come over. There is no use.