How can i bring back the cheer i had in my life before marriage?

India
September 18, 2008 4:34am CST
I have lost patience after frequent quarrels n arguments? I wanna enjoy my life without stress and worries. How do i get back the cheer in my life?
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8 responses
• Philippines
25 Sep 08
marriage is a choice. keeping your relationship is a choice as well. if you want your relationship to work out, you have to learn to compromise. it would be best to be silent when your partner is angry. that way, you will not say things that you don't mean. wait for the right chance when you can both sit down and talk. people will hurt you, even disappoint you. they're humans. don't depend your happiness on them. you have to learn to be happy on your own, be happy with your self.
@teclive (247)
• Canada
25 Sep 08
first, let me say, i am sorry to hear that you do not have the spark that you once had with your husband. IMO i think the best thing for both of you is honesty. Time to be honest with yourselves and eachother. Sit down and talk to eachother, try to pinpoint the things that are stressing you out, making you unhappy and such. Take the time to remember what it was that made you fall in love with eachother then find those feelings again. I am sure once it all starts coming to surface that fluttery feeling will start to return on its own. The most common reason for stress in the relationship is usually money and a pile of bills. Its times like these that you need to work closer together, and not further apart. If you find it hard to talk to your partner, try writing them a letter, or suggest sitting at the table together over a cup of tea, each of you taking pad and paper and writing down the things that are making you unhappy. You cant really fix a problem until you know that actual root of a problem...that is where you should start :) hope this helps a bit T
@ralphido (843)
• India
24 Sep 08
hey there is only one way to get out from the hassels of marriage and you know it.. but it won't give you back the happiness that was there in your life before.. once you attach yourself to someone your life changes by the imprints of that person.. now .. however hard you may try .. you can never be happy without the other person being involved.. usually,, the major problem in most cases is taking someone for granted..also, if there is something thats dreadful and hated by most people than hatred itself,, that is indifference.. never ever be indifferent to your spouse..
3 people like this
18 Sep 08
every marriage has a situation like you there is no perfect relationship... what you could just do is talk it out the two of you and lay down your cards.. and maybe take a honeymoon and forget things.... are you expecting a happy marriage with no complications?
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• China
18 Sep 08
marriage is full of duty. once you are marriage, you should love your partner and you future family. please stop qurrel, it will kill the love and patience. marriage not means unhappniess. it should be more happier than before, because you are together with your lover forever, why you can't talk to your lover, please try to be tolerant and patient and considerate. life is beautiful, why can you share happy together? at last, i wish you too happy forever.
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@ms1323 (259)
• United States
14 Oct 08
First you need to analyze what exactly it is you guys are arguing about. Most times the real problem isn't the one being put on the table, but something else entirely. If you are newly married it could just be a matter of adjustment. It takes time to learn eachothers quircks and know the proper way to respond to them. Compromise is huge, but so is understanding and respect.
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• Malaysia
18 Sep 08
Take a vacation for both of you....
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@Hatley (164652)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Oct 08
asma shams Do you love the person you married? if so why allthe quarrels and arguments? look asma it takes two to quarrel, two to do the tango, since when is it all your mates fault? look inside you too, maybe you are causing some of your own quarrels and arguments, it takes two to make up, it takes two to have fun, and to love, and to make babies? come on accept some of the blame too , make up with your love and start all over, fresh and with love, why not?