Grandmoms & Grandchildren...

@gwoman2 (711)
United States
September 18, 2008 7:20am CST
Hi all, just thought I'd mention... I just stepped outside for a minute to smoke and saw what I think is an amazing thing...although it's sad because Grandmoms should not have to carry the weight of raising their grandchildren completely...it was a beautiful sight! A Mexican Grandmom was walking her grandchildren, all 4 of them to the school bus stop...I watched her as she gently guided the younger ones away from the curb and the two older ones were walking side by side with her...she was dressed in typical Mexican garb...long colorful skirt with a bright, bright shirt and her hair, that reached her calfs was held up by a single pin...hair was all gray at the top and the ends were a midnight black...I stood and watched them walk all the way down the street...for some reason I could actually feel the love...beautiful! To all the Grandmoms out there that watch over their Grandchildren...Kudos to you...Bless your unselfish hearts. ~G~
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@Amywrites (143)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Hello gwoman2, I am a 32 year old Grandmom, my daughter had her son at fifteen. My Husband and I have custody of him at her free will. She did not plan to get pregnant with my beautiful Grandson, she had her options when she found out. She chose life, and I thank God for that! He is the most amazing little Angel and has brought so much joy into this house. My daughter chose to give us full custody so she would not be the selfish one, she knew she could not raise a child at such a young age, she can not even get a job at 15. I decided to home school my daughter so she could still play part of the Mommy, so I could teach her what good Mothering is. When Little David was born, she was so frightened she did not know what to do. All I could do was show her. In the beginning it was hard for her and I, I was the one to care for him completely, she did not know how. I tried to show her and she thought it would be better for him to call us Mom and Dad. We did not allow that to happen because we knew she would come around. Today Little David is 10 months (take a peak in my photos ) and she is doing so wonderful with him. To watch my little girl look at her child and they are smiling at one another just takes my breath away. I do not know what I would do if he was not here, not only has he brought my family closer together it has brought my daughter and I much closer. I am glad you were able to see such a wonderful thing this morning, because it is truly amazing when you see the Grandma's and the Granpa's so close to thier Grandchildren. I hope the rest of your day is as beautiful as well! Amy
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@Chevee (5915)
• United States
18 Sep 08
You are a great mother and grandmother I admire you for the support you have given your daughter and grandchild. You helped your daughter through her crises and you are still helping her. I like the fact that you didn't look down on her for what happen instead you helped her to become a better and more responsible person. And from that help she will not make that mistake again.
• United States
18 Sep 08
chevee, Thank you so much for responding to my mini story. She has learned alot through this and I am very proud of her. I could not imagine not supporting her, she also had part of me growing inside of her. Her dad and I had her very young as well, I did not get as much help from anyone. My husband is Navy and he was gone alot while she was a baby. I pretty much taught myself how to care for a child. I believe I had that Motherly instinct, some woman are not blessed with that. To sum it up, she inspires me well, I think we inspire eachother. Through Little David I think we have become best friends. Thank you for such kind words.
@Chevee (5915)
• United States
18 Sep 08
I am grandmother I don't have to raise my grandchildren. But if I did I certainly would in a heat beat. That was a beautiful way to describe the scene that you witnessed. I wish I could have seen it. Little small innocent things are are peaceful and heart warming to see. You see so much violence these days that a scene like that is awesome. Thanks for sharing.
@sunkissed (4332)
• United States
18 Sep 08
you are right grandparents should not have to raise their grandchildren all by their selves, but now days there are so many of them that are having to do it for what ever reason. I too take off my hat fto these grandmothers that have taken on this task of careing for their grandchildren full time.It is not easy on them at all.Thank God for grand mothers..
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@jonesy123 (3950)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Isn't it amazing? And there are so many of them who are raising their grandkids and even great-grandkids full-time. Even step-grandparents. We have two couples at our church who have the grandchildren living with them. They say, yes, they had imagined retirement to be a bit different but sometimes the kids just make the wrong choices and it's better to have the kids live with family. And they wouldn't trade in the joy they are getting for anything.
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• Canada
18 Sep 08
My mom watches my daughter for me and I appreciate her help so much. Without my moms help, I'd probably be on the streets somewhere or living in a car to keep my daughter warm. I'm a single mom who still lives at home with them and I dont make a great income. I'm working at it but right now it's not enough to support myself, my daughter, a car, a living place and a daycare. I give my mom as much money as I can to thank her for helping me and just recently I've saved up enough money to take my mom and daughter on a trip to Jamiaca to say thanks to my mom. Grandmothers really are a gift from God.
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@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Yes, grandmothers are very special people. My niece's mother and mother in law are next neighbors. But my niece leaves her children with my sister all of the time. I believes she does this because it is convenient to leave them with my sister and my sister does not mind. The children are with my sister most week ends, and she does everything for them. If they were not with my sister on the week ends, they would never get to Sunday School on sunday mornings. They have clothes, toys and everything at my sister's house. Yes, grandmothers are very very special people.
• United States
18 Sep 08
my mother has 3 grandchilren and shes caring for 2 of them who live with her and there mothers. my 2 sisters are selfish brats who take advange of my mother because she doesnt drive and she stays home alot. how in the world can one person take on a burden of raising a 1 year old and a 9 year old? i dont really know at all but its one of those hard jobs that a grandma should not have to do. they should be spoiling there grandkids not raising them. if they would only get up and put in some effort and time to raise there children and they are wondering why there kids are the way they are,hello look around your not here only your mom is. duh..but they should be thanking her not yelling at her. my mother can take alot of crap until it comes to that time where shes had enough but enough has not came yet. i hope for her sanity it will be soon.
• India
18 Sep 08
hi..frnd thts true..i hav my grandma who tells my everything and she is really closer and she helps me in everything like my college work,and she also gives money to go out n have party n all...i love my grandma a lottttt....bye
• United States
18 Sep 08
My daughter use to be a wonderful mom and then she married a jerk. Now he is all she thinks about so I am the one that raises my granddaughter. The only time they want the child is when they want to use her to get what they want. If I don't comply with what they want, then they take her away and make us both miserable. I wish I could get custody of her but I live in a very old house that really isn't fit for a child. But I am working on changing that and one of these days, she won't have to worry about going back there again.