Have you ever been told like this? "your mother is more beautiful than you"!!!

Philippines
September 21, 2008 6:59pm CST
Hi Myloters I knew this happen very rare to many people and it happen to me not only once but many times. I am the breed winner in our family, I am the third child of 9 children and I have mother and father. I been working for my family since I was I guess I would say 14 to help theme. Abcourse with the responsibility that I have I dont have time to make myself beautiful all the time but try my best though to look good. People often say I am cute until they see my sisters and my mother. They say to us specially to me my mother is actually look younger than me and more beautiful than me. I am proud of theme but I cant stomach when I see that grateful smile they have when they hear that. They are having fun while its cutting me up inside. Sometimes I want to tell my mother that I blame theme for what I become not as beautiful as theme because they can have their relaxation while I am working hard to support their needs. Its hurts so much but I am grown up now and I am used to it already. Is this happen to you as well? Have you been told by people that your mother and sisters are more beautiful than you? Did you take any action about it? Thanks for your time myloters Happy Myloting
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@flance101 (137)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
hi! actually, yes, it happened to me too, in fact a lot of my friends and my sisters' friends tell us that, that my mom is prettier than us. my mom is a housewife, and she manages our farm, while me and my second sister are working already. the other two are still in school. well, we are not really the bread winners. my mom is naturally beautiful, and i dont deny that she's got more time to make herself beautiful. as for us, her daughters, we were never really concerned with it until we reached 18. :) well, that goes for my two sisters, the youngest is still 13. i am workaholic and i just dont have time. haha.. im a late bloomer and i happen to have this kind of attitude. i dont mind it though since people would tell me i still look cute, all of us 4 are gifted with brains, and aside from that, i happen to be the most gifted with talents.. hehe.. as for your situation, i kinda understand you even though im in the same situation. i kinda feel like they are being unfair in an indirect way. maybe you try to invest time to rest and work some things to get a younger look. :) dont lose hope, you know you can do it. :)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
Thanks for the response. Probably I will do that start looking after myself especially now my sisters are telling me to start minding my own life instead of just looking after theme all the time. I am glad to hear that I am not alone in this world with this situation. Happy Myloting
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• Philippines
22 Sep 08
No one really said that to me. I only have one sister. Although when it comes to facial features, I know I am more beautiful than her, but I often think that she looks more attractive than me. My sister has a very bubbly personality and she always looks cute and friendly and I am very proud of her. My mom is an attractive lady, she looks quiet and reserved. People would tell me that my mom appears to be very lady-like.My mom also has a fairer complexion. When people tell me that my mom and sis are attractive, I actually feel proud of them.
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• China
22 Sep 08
oh!Friend! I am very sorry to hear that you start work for your family very early.But I also be admire you that you can sacrifice yourself to support your big family.It's ture you are the hero of your family.So don't regret something. Here,I have some advice to speek to your family.You family should know what you have done for them.They should know what you have lost.You spend time and youth to earn money.So they should respect you and care you.So I think this point your family have fault. Now,I want to say that friend ,You are great as so many people in China.They maybe live in the big family like you,and have to work in young age to earn money for there family and for their brother and sister going to school!Don't regret,the people who have charity heart all support you!!
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
Thanks for the response. I know I am a great person I just hope my mum can appreciate it but she cant I dont know why. I love her and I guess I did everything already for her. My other brother and sister understand my situation and they been telling me to move on and look after myself which make me feel good because at least they can see my sacrifices for them but its my mum and my other younger brothers and sisters who cant really appreciate what I do for theme. My mum told me once actually I was the ugliest amongst the girls in the family. It did not hurt me instead I make me happy I think its because of the fact that I know I was a carbon copy of her. Thanks for the suggestion. I really appreciate it.
@Hatley (164448)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Sep 08
eve why must you take on all that responsibility on your shoulders arentthe rest of your family capable of working too. take some time off, get yourself a good hair cut, and pamper yourself, and tell yourself you are just as beautiful' as any of your family. nol let them start to do more to support your parents. you cannot do this the rest of your life, get out and meet a nice young man who thinks you are gorgeous ,get married and let the rest of the nine kids support mom and dad forever and ever. You cannot support them til you are worn and gray and why should you? You have done your part. I did not have anysuch stuff going on when I was growing up and my mom always told me I was beautiful and so did my dad. move out and move up and take care of you now eve.
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
Hi Hatley, Thanks for the response. Yeah your right I should just look after myself and I am now. The problem is my partner come from different country and you know for Asian woman to have a white man with her she is then expected to give everything to her family which I totally disagree. I dont know why my attitude is like this sometimes I said to myself I dont have responsibility to support theme but when I see my young brothers and sisters it just cut me up and I cant say no. I think its because I dont want theme to experience what I been through. I told myself I will just do this in another couple of years but sometimes I am scared it will be too late for me. My partner always say though that I am so beautiful. I am a carbon copy of my mum the only difference between us is the fact that I am stronger than her in every way. Thanks agian
@iskayz (5422)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
Hi there! My mom and sister is really prettier than me. Everyone notices that whenever we're together. My mom is petite like me and my sister is taller but both of them have a fair skin so they have the edge over me when it comes to beauty. I am also used to hearing people admiring them. I don't get bothered by it and it doesn't hurt my feelings. I'm also sorry to hear that at a very young age you were given the responsibility of earning or working for your family. Actually at that age, a teenager, you should still be having fun but instead you have served your family. But for me, physical beauty is not that important. In fact, it passes away as one gets old. But the beauty of the heart of a person is whats important. Ciao!
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
I never experience being told that my mom or sister is prettier than me. But it happen so often on my sister. I always told her that she is pretty and that everybody has its different definition about beauty. What is really important is you are a good daughter and you have a kind heart. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" some people think the other person is prettier while others think the opposite. Outside looks fade but what last long is the inner beauty you had. Having a kind heart is the most important qualities a person should possessed.The good things you do for your family will always be remembered and not the outside looks. The things you do will be instilled in there heart and mind. And they will always remember only good things about you.
@glechelle (146)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
I have not experience that but my little sister get annoyed when she is compared to us, her older siblings. I totally understand her. There is no point in comparing people. We just tell her that no matter what, we're proud of what she is and most especially since she is extremely intelligent, I brag abour her all the time to my friends.
• Sweden
22 Sep 08
No, not what I can think of. Though my mum always she's that I'm only beautiful because she is. -cough- xD And you know what? I think you should spend some time on yourself. It seems like you're doing your best to keep your family happy, but don't forget yourself. It's very important, you see. Good luck and Happy mylotting! :3
• India
22 Sep 08
Hi Friends, Its the fact that many people hesitate to accept the fact that if anyone say someone is more beautiful than you. But i felt extreamly happy when i heard that my mother looks more beautiful than me from one of my friend.We enter into this world through our mother. So obviously mother is more precious to me than anything else in the world.
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
22 Sep 08
I don't remember anyone specifically saying my mom was more beautiful than me. But I do know many people told me how beautiful she was. But, beauty in looks is no big deal. You see my mom wasn't just beautiful in looks, she was a beautiful person inside as well. Mom, you may not be here in person, but I still think of you. :)
@alindahaw (1219)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
I have never been compared to my Mom in terms of looks. I don't look like her enough to merit the comparison. LOL I actually look like my dad. We sometimes talk alike and we even share some mannerisms. People often tell me that I am the female version on my dad and I kind of like that. I have never been told that I look a lot better than my dad though. LOL
@scyzyyyy (94)
• China
22 Sep 08
I think you should be happy to hear that,^_^!if I were you I would be happy because my mother is so beautiful,of course,I am a boy.^_^
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
I am sorry to hear that your are working so hard to provide your family. What are your sisters doing? are they younger than you? Can they not help you so that you can have time to relax? beauty is in the eye of the beholder and even if they are more beautiful than you physically, your are the most beautiful because you have the kind heart to care for your family. beauty is only skin deep, and it will fade away as time passes by, but your love and gentle spirit will forever be beautiful in the eyes of God. Do not feel bad about yourself if they will tell you that you are not as beautiful as your sisters and mother, as long as you feel beautiful deep within you, your radiance will shine. I haven't told that my mother or sister is more beautiful than me. I often hear them saying I look like my mother, but I am more beautiful than my sister, hehe.. For me, it does not matter because I love being me, and I do not wish to become somebody else because I am meant to be, they way I am exactly. Cheer up!
@subha12 (18453)
• India
22 Sep 08
i am told like that several times. i think the look is God gifted thing. still people tell liuke that. i was also told many times that MOm is more beautiful than me.
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
Hi Eve! You are a dear and surely your family is blessed to have you. Fortunately for me, I haven't been compared in that way with my mom. i don't really look a lot like her. Most people say I look more like her only sister. Don't take what other people say too seriously. They don't know what you went through. You are beautiful than they will ever know. Your beauty comes from your heart and I think that's what's most important. ;D Cheer up!
@kleynie (129)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
though my mother is 20 years older than I am..I am proud that whenever we happened to pass by a group of people, we couldn't help but laughed out about other people commenting about us..they would say that " here are the sisters" referring to me and my mother, maybe they see my mother as a lovely woman and so I am, and all I can notice of is that my mom really look younger when compared to women her age..hehe, and Im proud of that!! hopefully, when I got my own siblings, I can also be praise with words so lovely to hear..just like what they are saying about us!! laughing out loud here..
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
This happens a lot of times and I've grown accustomed to it. Moreso, I've come to accept that fact so I don't think I can do something about it if I grow mad or upset. My Mama's really beautiful and she looks younger than her age. She's just 20 years older than me and people even commented all the time that she just look like my elder sister, which I jokingly reply with "Not my younger sister?". My sisters are beautiful too. Sometimes, my friends and officemates would tease me while looking at the picture frame of my family on my office table. They'll tell me I look different and that my sisters are pretty. That could only mean one thing right? That I'm not pretty. Maybe they're just joking but well, it has been known in the family that I'm not as pretty as my sisters are so I don't really mind. I am sure there are other things in me that can compensate my lack of good looks.
@deserve40 (1642)
• India
22 Sep 08
Yes, I have been told by many of my elders that I am not so good person as my father used to be. He was very tolerant, helpful and simpler than me. I take no shame in accepting it. May be I have not been able to achieve all the goodness that my father had. But I feel proud that I am a son of the person whom many people admired and who had done many good things to improve the lives of the people. It is not that I do not want to become like him but I feel that I fail to follow the great principles which he used to follow. So now I have decided to try and train my son in a way that my father used to behave and commanded the respect of many people. May be some day I may come across someone telling me that I have not been so good person as my son is. However, I feel that that would be a proud day for me.
@shamzy18 (2319)
22 Sep 08
no ones ever said that to me but i do think my mother was more beautiful then me when she was younger. I have seen people though were there mothers are actually more beautiful than the kids. But i have never said you mother is more beautiful than you lol i have however said your mum is really beautiful.