How to handle relatives who compare siblings ?
By akpay22
@akpay22 (131)
India
September 22, 2008 12:08am CST
I was a good student academically and my brother was not. My parents had accepted this fact quite early but other relatives, grand parents , cousins didn't.
They take great pride in comparing the two of us. Keep on telling him how I was successful in school as well as at work place and how he is not.
This has led to many problems in his life , like being superstitious, not able to handle any kind of stress, not able to concentrate.
Sometimes I feel I just organise a get together for all these so called well wishers and tell them to stop this once and for all.
Has anyone of you experienced such a thing ?
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2 responses
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
Hahahaha! Sorry for laughing my my future sister in law to be usually talk about his only son, that he studied in the best school, his working in a good company and really earns well. My girlfriend just keep her mouth shut,and just staring at other relatives and the only thing that my gf responded that's nice to hear. She just tells me fine,if my ate will be happy boasting and she feels good I don't mind. She was the favorite Auntie and just help everyone to grow and learned life. My gf tells me hey you can't teach old dogs by a new trick. Hey cool down, just don't mind them mind your brother and help him out. Just avoid your brother to this relatives of yours. Anyway they don't help you and your brother. Still show love and understanding to your brother. He needs you more then this relatives of yours. Help him to prove them wrong. God bless you!
@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
It is really hard trying to please others and does not understand your brother. I guess you cannot just stop them but the thing is since you are blessed to be a much gifted person maybe your purpose in life is to really be a good guide for your brother to understand him and lead him to a good life that you are experiencing. You may not give him all the things you are reaping but at least share with him your concern and love and let him feel that despite his imperfection there is this person that cares for him like you are.
