When must you take things seriously?
By maple_kisses
@maple_kisses (2156)
Philippines
September 22, 2008 3:38am CST
I was sitting there on the couch, I just got back from an upsetting discussion with my "someone special" whom I met online, when Andrea's voice woke me up from me reverie.. "Thunder only happens when it's raining. Players only love you when they're playing. Yeah, women they will come and they will go..." The Corrs really have this ability to make me snap over something with their songs...
My "special someone" is someone new in my life. My friends kept on telling me to live my life and enjoy relationships with other people so there, I had chosen someone to enjoy life with.
Then, an hour ago, we had this "argument" over me getting jealous over his flirting with other women. He actually told me before that he was serious with the relationship with me, but I guess he didn't really mean it. Now he told me I was way too deep and I need to slow down a bit. I don't blame him. We only have this online relationship and I'm getting way too serious about it. I should have known this would happen, I should have realize I'm getting way too deep about something that should be taken as shallow. Oh well, players only love you when they're playing alright. Thanks Andrea...
So, when must one take things seriously? Do I have to count months before I can be deep into something as important as a relationship?
5 responses
@stella1989 (2274)
• India
22 Sep 08
Well I think you should give it some time..
Jumping to some seriousness is not good.
You know even before exercising you need to warm up. So think about it this way.
Like with me .. I a serious person and will never go out with a guy just to time pass.. But on the other hand I won't even get serious also like I want to marry you feeling.
Some people takes time.
You've got to understand him for this.
This is what the difference between a best friend and a girl friend!!
Give him time. Don't rush into things and just enjoy the moments come along your way.
And yes on the other side some men are not serious and they keep telling you that they are serious but they keep on flirting with other girls.
I don't mind the flirting part but it should have a limit.
You've got to keep a check on this.
I am not saying that don't trust him, but just rather try to understand him more.
Best of luck!!!
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
Yes, very true. Time is essential here. I should know better. I should stop taking things so seriously, but well, I'm no player so I'm pretty sure it will be hard...
I have come to understand him after thinking about him last night. He needs time to play around I guess. He loves to flirt around, that's his nature, I shouldn't lose sleep over men who can't be totally faithful to me. So I'm giving him what he wants.. I'll see where all this will take the "relationship" then...
Thanks for a well-thought response...
1 person likes this
@shankari_prabhu (321)
• India
22 Sep 08
ok.....sounds like something i can help with. First of all, take time and become friends with a guy before you think about a relationship. Do this consciously. Take it slow. If you have already done that and he has professed his affection for you....you have every right to expect fidelity and vice versa. If he is not ok with that then there can be no true love on his part.
1 person likes this
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
Yeah, you're right, you can help alright :)
I know I've been drastic and impulsive (sigh, I'm just so decisive). I admit I haven't been very conscious and vigilant of my actions; I fell deep and I fell hard. I can ever hear Joker's voice telling me over and over again "Why so serious?". I have to take things slow, I've been stupid with men before...
Well, I'm not expecting fidelity from him, I see he loves to play, a skunk will always be a skunk. It's not me who change other people, it's either I live with it or I have to set him free...
@shankari_prabhu (321)
• India
23 Sep 08
darling...set him free...i know its easier said than done...but if you need a steady relationship u have to wait for it:-).....in the mean time have frnds ...a lot of them and do a lot of light hearted flirting:-)
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
Nah, I've been doing a lot of thinking after that "argument"; he was right, I was just too serious, I have to lay back and relax a little. I'll let him play, I'll probably lose him because of this freedom, but at least I'll be seeing the real side of him before things go really too hot to handle...
@sang2k2 (1833)
• India
23 Sep 08
i think one should be serious in relation ship from the begining or else one shouldnt enter in relation. as if one is not serious that measn that a person is just playing with his/her emotions or just taking him/her for a ride or playing with it or making fun or doing timepass and can leave at any moment from the realtion.you be serious towards things and him but dont show it to him that you bother much infact explain your heart that dotn get carried away with him, take your time to know him better before getting very attached to him.all the best. dont easily trust him.
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
Great point there. I guess if he isn't really bound to get serious than why bother... Oh well, I'm taking things slowly now...
@rodelbulan (594)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
I dont take things seriously right now.. I am too young and i just want to enjoy life to the fullest.. maybe after two more years... Nice topic anyweiz...
Keep rockin' Keep mylotting!
Happy nice day ahead.
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
Yeah, typical for youngsters like you, I'm 27 and about to have a baby, I do think it's high time to get serious, hehehe...
