do you think it's right?
By despompa
@despompa (472)
Philippines
September 23, 2008 10:57pm CST
my kids aged 4 and 5 are in some ways enjoy playing computer games. since school started, i restricted them to play computer and ps2 from sunday-thursday. meaning they can only play during fridays and saturdays. i imposed this rule because i don't want them to be used in playing games while they are supposed to do their homeworks and study their lesson. though they are still pre-schoolers i want to inculcate to them the importance of education and discipline them as well. do you think it's only right for a mother to mold her children during this early stage of their life?
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9 responses
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
24 Sep 08
It is your house and whatever rules you impart you should stick to.
The rule in our house is homework first, playing second. So my son comes home, has his snack, the does his homework. He is usually done fairly quick. So he goes out before and after dinner to play with his friends or plays on the computer (Games Cube, etc).
What do your kids do after they are done their work?
@despompa (472)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
they watch their favorite cartoons or sometimes watch dvd. they don't have playmates outside since our house is in the last block. only adults there. most of the kids their age lives in the 2nd and 3rd block. it's quite far and i don't allow them to play during weekdays since they will be having a hard time waking up the following day. their classes start at 7am and they have to be in school at 6:30.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
24 Sep 08
What time are they done with classes?
My son is on the bus at 8am and is home by 4pm on the bus. He takes about a half hour to relax and grab a snack, 5 minutes or so for homework, then he has from about 4:30 to 6 to play with his friends, then after dinner for 30 minutes or so until it is dark out.
Kids need time to play and relax.
@tazzybaby (115)
• United States
24 Sep 08
It sounds like you are molding them well. The early ages are when they need it, otherwise its a big pain when they are older. I gave my son too much freedom with video games when he was young, now that he's a teen he won't stay off of them.
@tazzybaby (115)
• United States
25 Sep 08
Yes he still plays games on his computer. He mostly plays with construction and simulation type games though. He spends more time playing with mapping and architectual programs. Usually if he wants to play a game he does it on a console. Actually, if he played games on the computer more than on a console and tv it would save electricity, but the best games are still on Playstation and Nintendo.
@sreekumarn86 (777)
• India
24 Sep 08
I guess you are right from a mother's perspective. But, say they should be allowed a but more freedom, like watching TV or playing games for a little time, in case they finish their home work and do some studies. The whole trade-off can be decided by you as a mother since they are just 4 and 5 years old. I think this is the age when the parents do need to mold their children.
@despompa (472)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
yes we that. i allow them to watch tv and dvd's after but no pc and ps2. i only allow them to do that on fridays and saturdays. i wanted to make clear to them that i am serious on imposing the rules on them. that way, they will realize that if its a rule. its really serious and need to be followed.
@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
25 Sep 08
yeah... but don't be too hard on them.. let them watch educational tv programs or GP(General Patronage) cartoons after they've finished their homework.. =)
@despompa (472)
• Philippines
25 Sep 08
of course i allow them to do their stuff after homework. but still pc games and ps2 are restricted. because i want to inculcate to them the value of principle and firmness in their beliefs and decisions. i don't want to impose to them that being gullible specially in a crucial decision making is good and valuable.
@babytaffster (2232)
• Chatsworth, California
24 Sep 08
Yes! It's easier now then it would be later. The first 5 years are the most crucial.
A lot of parents make the mistake of letting the TV be the baby sitter. However when they get a little older it might be good to let them have an hour a day when they get their homework done. That's how my mom did it. Otherwise they'll complain that they aren't allowed to do anything. But that's up to you. Either way I think what your doing is good parenting.
@despompa (472)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
i sometimes make a bargain with them. but still they need to follow rules. i always tell them that the reason why i am strict to them when it comes to following rules, is because i want them to be good citizens. obeying rules is one virtue that they can be proud of someday.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
25 Sep 08
when my kids were young, they were restricted very much from t.v. and video games etc. not just for studies but because there is so much else in life to do. They are grown now and they very rarely watch tv...none of them are real into computer games and all are very creative individuals. I have basic cable and my tv is on for less than 5 hours per week. I have one child , 14 , still at home and she very very rarely turns on the tv. Occassionally, we'll rent movies. As for video games...all her games are at her dad's and she hardly ever goes there. When she does, that sadly, tends to be her only form of entertainment.
@nisarcrazy4u (254)
• India
24 Sep 08
Study First And Games or Tv Next
After Completeing theirt Homework Let Them Watch TV Bcoz If They Watch it They Can Get all Knowledge By Watching it
By Playing Games Their Brain Will Get New Ideas And New Concepts
So Just Make Them Study First and Then Their Wish Wht They Want To Do
@amitsh8888 (362)
• India
24 Sep 08
Despompa , It really fine You think about your Kids so Serious . So Encourage your child t use computer for Knowledge domains rather then for Games.
Allow then to watch some Educational DVDs , Encyclopedia .
Happy myLotting
