Why do people cheat?
By MrsRich723
@MrsRich723 (602)
United States
September 25, 2008 10:46am CST
I was in the nail salon yesterday and they were having a discussion about men who cheat. They say the love you but they're with you and three other people. Why can't they just be truthful and say, "I like you but I think I like this other girl to so I'm going to be with both of you until I decide who I like better." Now truthfully, any self respecting woman would tell him that's not going to work and go on about her business but at least he was honest. At least he didn't date you for six months, waste your time, and make you think you were the only one when he had other women he was dating as well. Or what about husbands who cheat on their wives (or wives who cheat on their husbands)? Don't people take wedding vows seriously anymore? I think it's sad to say the least.
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6 responses
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
25 Sep 08
I think there are still good couples who strive hard to keep their marriage vows sometimes at great personal sacrifice. So one cannot generalise about this subject. Today's permissive society makes cheating appear as an exciting adventure and being faithful as being traditional or an outcast. I believe it is harder to stay faithful in marriage than a few years back.
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@echosoundz (856)
• Malaysia
25 Sep 08
Yeah....I agree with that. It seems that people seems to have other alternative ways if the other person is not reliable for the moment. At first it's was kinda fun and exciting until something happens that they had to keep on lying and cheating every single moments in their life. Honesty? Maybe they will buy it if it was on sale somewhere.
@MrsRich723 (602)
• United States
25 Sep 08
Ronaldinu, you are right. It seems like cheating is the thing to do these days. My husband and I love each other and we talk about things so it won't escalate into something else. There was a woman at your job (we work together) who kept giving him the "eye". He told me about it the first time it happened but he said it kept happening so he went to her and told her that he was not interested. My friend came back and told me that he told her that before my husband did which is crazy that stuff gets around that fast. But anyway, if there ever is any type of temptation we nip it in the bud early. We love each other and we don't want anyone else but each other but we're not naive to know that people will try to tempt us to see if we'll fall into it.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
26 Sep 08
i think there will be no clear cut ideas about what is there behind cheating and why they always do so. but i think the main underlying oart is that men want to enkoy the fruits from various world. they have taken this as their property or sometjing like that .
@MrsRich723 (602)
• United States
26 Sep 08
That's true subha. They want to sow their wild oats or something. It's a shame though that they feel they have to do this.
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@soulist (2985)
• United States
26 Sep 08
I really don't understand why some people cheat. I know a girl who couldn't understand how I could be content with one man while she is dating 3 men AND tried to get a date with another man! she also got mad because I was talking to the fourth guy as a friend. BUT anyway I would break off one relationship before I would start another one. It's not in me to cheat. I don't think people take the idea of wedding vows seriously anymore it's sad.
@trisha_nava82 (1379)
• United States
25 Sep 08
i totally agree that people should be a little more honest. i too can never understand why people cheat. especially when you are married and you are supposed to keep to your vows.
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@MrsRich723 (602)
• United States
25 Sep 08
That's so true. Why make vows if all you're going to do is break them?
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
25 Sep 08
We are a society of "instant gratification" addicts. A strong relationship cramps people's style. It takes hard work and may cause some sacrifice or discomfort. We are a very immature, I-want-it-now, why-can't-I-have-what-I-want society. The world has gotten very shallow
@MrsRich723 (602)
• United States
25 Sep 08
You're right rocketj1. People want something that will make them feel good for the moment but no work involved. Like my dad tells me, it's not worth having if it's not worth fighting for.
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@ORichBoi (66)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I think people cheat because they are not honest people. Why commit to someone if you are not really committing to them. It's not fair to the person who you are with or the person you are cheating on. I would never cheat on my wife no matter what the circumstance is. I love her to much and when I stood before God and promised to love and honor her that's what I meant.
