Mylot Friends..where are they...

@lilaclady (28270)
Australia
October 3, 2008 9:37pm CST
I was going through my Mylot friends list the other day trying to get some of my friends I see a lot up to the front of my list so I went through a lot and deletede a lot of friends that haven't logged on for over 12 months and when i was doing this I thought about some that i used to talk to a lot but they haven't been on for so long, i would look at what country they came from and when i saw some that were from countries that have had disasters I would worry if they maybe were caught up in that, but we have no way of knowing why people are away or move on...wouldn't it be nice if on our profiles we had just maybe one line where people can say what they doing, or just to be able to say they have resigned from Mylot even, or that they have moved on for whatever reason, after all we do become friends in here and we all like to know what happens to out frinds...what do you think....
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39 responses
@jpso138 (7844)
• Philippines
4 Oct 08
Well, It really is good to hear from our friends here from time to time. I too have been missing some friends here. Well, I guess, I am partly to blame. I have lots of things to do. I also got busy on one review site. I have just started with it and it gives good payment. Well, just letting you know that I am here...
@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
4 Oct 08
Good to see you too....
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@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
4 Oct 08
Yes I think I would do the same....
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@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
4 Oct 08
ooops i posted in the wrong answer....
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@super_jj (1417)
• Philippines
4 Oct 08
Hmmm...tat's a good idea, purple-haired blue fairy. Hehehehehe. AMybe kinda like in YM where we can post our status. Good idea. Maybe you should suggest that to admin. It's gonna help us to see what's going with our friends at one glance.
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@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
4 Oct 08
I know i would worry if i didn't see that little blue suit, I really would...
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@super_jj (1417)
• Philippines
4 Oct 08
Me,too, purple-haired blue fairy. So dont go missing for a long time, ayt?
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@lishiwei (1553)
• China
4 Oct 08
I'm always here.Yes,I also feel this kind of questions these days.I also want to know where are they going.There are only very very few friends who log in here now.
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@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
4 Oct 08
yes with all the disasters that have happened i just worry for them...
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@lishiwei (1553)
• China
4 Oct 08
Yes,I also worried them.
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@Grandmaof2 (7604)
• Canada
4 Oct 08
Yes my friend I agree and love your ideas. I'm not always on here and I have health issues but Thanks for keeping me around. I'd be devastated without my myLot friends I really would. On good days it really gives me something to look forward to. Take Care.
@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
4 Oct 08
Yes I am the same, my mylot friends mean a lot to me too...
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@iskayz (5424)
• Philippines
4 Oct 08
Hi there! I have been thinking also about my old mylot friends. I have never seen most of my old friends posting. Every now and then I try to check the number of post they have and they haven't been increasing for a long time now. I do miss them sometimes though we don't really know each other personally. I think it would be such a good feature where in the profile users can inform the others where they are or if they are having a vacation. Maybe post in the profile their activities outside mylot. The mylot staff should also email users that are inactive for sometime and follow up on what they have been doing so that they're friends won't worry about them and whether they still want to join the community or not. By the way, does mylot automatically delete members who have been inactive for so long or the account stays in mylot once a user has signed up?
@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
4 Oct 08
yes i think it would be good maybe a message line or something...
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@Rosekitty (19500)
• San Marcos, Texas
4 Oct 08
Hi Lilac..I'm here and working like crazy to keep bills paid..still live in Texas and the Hurricane didn't get me..ok..I told you a little about whats going on with me, now How are you? huggs
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@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
4 Oct 08
Hello rosekitty I remember seiing your name in my friends list but i think the avatar has changes a little ....I am glad you are ok and I am too but I can't stop thinking about some of my other friends on my list, I hope it is because they have just moved on maybe to jobs and such..good to see you are ok my friend...
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@sirrob (4112)
• Philippines
4 Oct 08
truly indeed a very good suggestion and i believe this is very feasible. it's great to keep in touch with people whom you have known for awhile and who knows when you go for a vacation in a certain country, you could have meet up and guide you around, right? i think that is just too much to take but not impossible as well.
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@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
21 Jun 09
Hi lilac, i think its good that i logged in again before i got included to the list of friends you deleted. . Im still here, working on mylot again, after getting all ga-ga over the "twilight outbreak" as they call it . Still in the Philippines, thanks God theres no great disasters to me and the place im at. Im here to stay, may not be that often but ill always comes back to mylot..knowing this is the only site if got paid online.. Good luck to you too!
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@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
21 Jun 09
hello my friend good to see you again. I remember you I think you had an avatar with a lovely lady on it if I remember correctly, good to see you back again..
@oldboy46 (2133)
• Australia
15 Nov 08
I was never on your list of friendsd as far as I know lilaclady but could quite well understand if someone did delete my from their list as my appearances here on myLot can be rather erratic. I am a truck driver and so often away from days at a time plus we have a small organic farm and they both keep me busy. Just lately I am able to spend a bit more time on the internet due the work situation, which has not been good. The company I work for offered the drivers the choice of maybe not getting a full week's work or putting people off and I was one of those who opted to keep the job for when there is work. So far I have been lucky and still get at least 4 days a week and several times in the past couple of months, had 6 days work as I have driven from SA to Qld. It would help I am sure if for example members could just make a little post on my profile to say I will not be online for a week or month or whatever. At least that way, friends would know that you do intend to come back within a certain time span. I have not many friends so done nothing about the list but also note that several have done nothing for quite a long time. I just wonder what they are up to and if they are alright etc.
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@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
15 Nov 08
yeh things are getting bad out there, but it is nice to know you have friends in here....I wish you the best...
@pinklilly (3446)
• Australia
9 Oct 08
I have been away for a while from here, I havn't found much time to get on... I too often think about my friends on here and wonder if anyone noticed me not on as much... I have notice a few of my friends not about as much and wonder if they too have been too busy or hopefully yeah nothing has happend.... I think that would be a good idea to have a section to write a personal msg sort of like what's on facebook. It would help friends keep up to date, I think...
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@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
9 Oct 08
Good to see you again Pink....
@lenywp (1965)
• Australia
8 Oct 08
Ok I'm still here and I'm glad you haven't deleted me as yet. :)
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@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
8 Oct 08
Oh no I wouldn't do that, what I have actually trying to do is get all my favourite friends up to the front so I have been deleting a few of the ones that only did a few posts and then just never seemed to come back...
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
4 Oct 08
My heart goes with you. Sometimes it's just sad to know that we have so many friend in our profile yet they seldom log in to mylot or response to discussions (not necessarilly ours), I just wish them all well. Maybe they are just being busy or what?
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@rowe0525 (677)
• China
4 Oct 08
hmmm i am see eye to eye with you...i am here now ,,i am from china ,,my objest is to learn english well,,and u??? i like it a lot ,,,
@chrislotz (8207)
• Canada
4 Oct 08
I don't think most people would post why they aren't here anymore. I think that people don't intentionally quit the site. I think they just get so busy with other things they forget about mylot. So they wouldn't be posting why because they didn't know they were going away. Understand I hope. Every once in awhile I go over my friends list and delete the ones that are't active any more. Or the ones that are active but I haven't seen respond to any of my discussions, I delete those too because I respond to theirs so why not them to mine. And then I go on a quest to find some new friends that are active and see what they do with my request. I do this about once every couple months. It seems to be working for me.
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• India
4 Oct 08
It is a solemn Mylot truth. Friends are never around. Only a few names have been around for years and years. Friends leave, and they don't tell you why. Maybe they get busy with life. Maybe they get bored with mylot. Maybe they get into trouble with some other members over here. Maybe they get a new job and have no more time. Maybe they have a baby and get too busy. Maybe they fall sick and have to take treatment. Or maybe they get caught in a natural disaster. It can be anything. On Mylot friends leave and friends come. Have to accept it. Cheers and happy mylotting
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@Opal26 (17694)
• United States
4 Oct 08
Hi lila, You have made such a good point. It is very sad sometimes to get used to "seeing" people everyday or often enough that when you don't see them you get concerned and wonder what might have happened to them. And it is difficult when there is no way to get in touch with them and find out if they are ok or have just moved on as you have said. I know that I have only been here myself for four months now but I have made some really good friends and when someone that I am used to seeing is gone for a certain amount of time I do get concerned and try to find out what has happened to them. It is sad to think that some of the people that you have known from other countries that have been in disasters might have been caught up in them and I do hope that that isn't the case. I hope that you are able to find out that they are ok and that maybe they will come back again sometime in the future. It is nice that you are concerned, but sad that there is no way to find out.
• United States
17 Sep 09
I haven't been on here long enough to really accumulate a lot of friends, but I can see how real friendships could develop on here. If one of my friends were MIA, then I would worry about them, especially if they were in an area where I knew there had been disasters. Unfortunately, when bad things happen there usually isn't any advance notice, so they might not be able to update their profile, even if myLot allowed it.
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
I asked that myself when i got back here three months ago. i started gathering some friends of mine, some people i have joined with and then.it was okay until another friend from my-list went berserk for something i didn't do. he threw me of his list. the next thing i knew his account got deleted by admin. i am happy with my new friends now and some oldies that remained here.
@az03r4 (917)
• Indonesia
6 Jul 09
hi, lilaclady... i'm include one of them, my friends. I'd quit from here for about 6 months, I don't know exactly. It's because I can't concentrate join mylot while working. I'm sorry didn't update my status, but here I come back. :)
@youless (85314)
• Guangzhou, China
22 Jun 09
In fact I have noticed that some of Mylot friends have left Mylot for quite a lot time. But they didn't say anything before they were absent. Perhaps they are no longer interested in Mylot or they are too busy to login here. I love China