insecurities do u have them

October 5, 2008 9:25pm CST
I admit I do have them and its really hurt my chances with women. Ive always wanted to be with someone who truly loves me and not just say they do. That is the kind of insecurities i have. I dont mean to have them but sometimes its hard to trust someone when others hurt u in the past. Some people wont understand what i am saying but in time they will. Do u have insecurities in ur relationship?
2 responses
• Philippines
6 Oct 08
Insecurities my dear, are everywhere. We just have to accept that. I have it, you have it, my husband has it, and all the teenagers have it!!! we just have to learn to accept ourselves for who we are, stop being somebody for the sake of somebody. If you think that you have been a good person inside and you did your best for every situation. You have not hurt anyone physically and emotionally, you have nothing to worry about. People will just have to learn to accept you and deal with you, without them complaining about you. Nobody in this world is perfect, everybody has some amount of insecurity in their system no matter how much they try to deny and ignore it. It's there. You can be the most beautiful person alive, but deep inside you'd still be insecure because you don't know how long it's gonna last. While you my dear is just an average normal guy who doesn't worry about beauty but how to get into a very good relationship. That's not insecurity, that's just impatience. So, hang in there....There's a TIME for everything. Maybe it's not time yet.
@lynnemg (4539)
• United States
6 Oct 08
I think that every body has some insecurities in relationships. Whether they stem from past pains, self doubt, or current issues, we all have them. I believe that it is very important for people to learn from the past, but not dwell on it, and not to compare a current relationship to a past one. This person is not that person and it is unfair to this person, yourself, and the relationship to compare it all to the past.