Are you happily married?

@Masmasika (1922)
Philippines
October 7, 2008 9:54am CST
I am not married but my friends are. Some of them are happily married while others aren't so lucky. I don't know what to say to them. Sometimes I wonder why many of them tell me that being single is happier than being married. I really don't know if that is true but the way i look at the situation, it depends if someone is happily married or not. The problem with other married people is they fail to see the relationship as a commitment. Of course being single is far different from being married. Once a person is married, responsibilities follow. Marriage is something special if only couples know how to value their relationship and work on it. Without cooperation on both side, marriage would surely fail. Are you happily married? Can you share how a happily married man or woman feels??
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5 responses
@thanujad (405)
• Sri Lanka
8 Oct 08
You cannot say that being single is happier than marriage. If you find the correct person you will never ever feel like that. I started enjoying my life after I got married. When I was single my mom was so strict with us, didn't have a chance. In my country women have to listen to the parents until they get married. We cannot go out and have fun without their permision. My husband and I have lot in common. We trust, respect,honest,understanding and love each other. Now I can go or do anything I want without his permision, because he trust me and knows that I wouldn't do anything bad. But I always make sure to tell him everything that happend during the day. It's true that you have more responsibilities after you have kids. But I feel that those resposibilities makes a couple more closer than ever. I have two grown up kids. We both are very close to them. We both love dancing. So when ever we get the chance we go for a dance leaving our kids at mom's place. We enjoy our lives even though we have kids. According to my religion I believe Re-birth. So I always pray that I should get the same family in my next birth too. My advice is for you is find the correct person. Get married and see how it goes.
8 Oct 08
I feel so relieved after browsing the previous posts. I don't like to be single but I realy am now. And I always look forward to having a boy friend. But marriage is quite another thing. It seems to me that marriage means a lot more than love, and the side effects it brings about can gradually wipe out the affection and passion between the couple. Get married after you getting ready. Don't act on a spur of moment.
@iva976 (8)
• United States
7 Oct 08
i was married for 9 years, but unfortunatly things just didn't work out for us, we decided that we were better off as friends than husband and wife. it is very hard to go through the marriage and divorce deal because i always thought that i would be married till the day that i die with that special someone, but sometimes things just don't work out in that favor. but in the meanwhile i truly do love being single.
@rusty2rusty (6746)
• Defiance, Ohio
7 Oct 08
I am not going to lie. A marriage is alot of work. Alot of continuous work. It only works if both peopel in teh marriage work at it. But when stops. Than teh marriage becomes un happy. Lack of money can make a marriage unhappy, Added stress can make a marriage unhappy. I can say right now I am not happily married. I have been before. But that was when I was able to work, I had my own money. I didn't have to depend one someone else to support me.
@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
7 Oct 08
oh yeah! i am so happily married. i cant even describe how happy i am with my married life now. everyday is like the first time we met as we learn more from each other as days passed by. we are not perfect but we sure know ways to meet in the middle and solve whatever problem we have