Which is more unhealthy...

[i]I don't care if we talk about our past,past relationships,past arguments and anything about the past.I even considered it as our bedtime stories,I would asked him to talk about his experiences with his ex's.I don't get jealous or something but I just want to know if he's consistent with his stories.lol. About the money it's unhealthy to talk about it.It's more unhealthy if you have a money problem and you can't tell it to your partner.lol[/i]

I believe it is more unhealthy to talk about the past, it is over and no one can do anything.

I think both bring about consequences, but I rather argue about the past than money. I don't know, money issues are just so plain ugly for me, arguing about the past can at least make me realize things that I should and shouldn't have done. Shucks! Now you're getting sentimental?

I would say arguing about the past is more unhealthy. There are bigger problems if you are still aruging about the past. We have to learn to let go of things that have passed. Thing can be done about money, change the ways of spending, change habbits saving money can be done by process of elimination, so at the end of it all..money is something we have control over..however, our past, well, we cant change that, we can learn from it, but we cant change it.

I don't like both, as a matter of fact, I don't like arguments of any kind. However, I find the past as the lesser evil between the two. I think money arguments are just way too difficult to settle than past arguments.

For me it's both. But money is just a petty issue cause you can earn it if you work hard. But the past it's a different matter. Past is past it wont go back anymore, but you learned from the past that is all. When talking about the past what had happened it hurts me so much it made me think of all the pains, and hurts, like blaming you for your all of your mistakes, and sometimes it's a big issue even you change for the better and not for the worst. Were just all human and one way or another we are not perfect still some people doesn't seem to appreciate you for what you did and your still their doing things for them. Have a nice day!

Hello,Modstar! Arguments of any sort brings about a bitter relationship.So it is said that the best relationship depends much on compromise and adjustment to situation,adjustment to emotions and feelings of each other.thanx.

I try not to argue about money at all. cd

Both equally pointless in my mind you cant change the past so why argue over it and money, I never see the point in arguing over something we dont have lol

I think to argue about the past. Whey argue about the past, it is gone and will not ever return?

Well statistically speaking, like 90% of marriages that end within the first four years are due to financial stress. Haven't heard any statistics on arguing about the past although i could personally say that my marriage has been far more stressed over the past than finances and we are dirt poor!!! So for us I think it would be worse over the past...

Actually, both can be unhealthy. Getting angry over something as simple as money or the past can stress you out. We already know that alot of stress can cause medical problems. So, arguing over simple things such as that can be problematic. Money is made every day. The past should stay in the past. If you keep bringing it up, it isn't healthy.

i think it is arguing about money is more unhealthy than arguing about hte past, id rather talk about my past so i can release my tensions and stress by talking bout it...

Both can turn ugly, for money is the root cause of evil, if you have plenty, you tend to argue, if you dont have money its worse. They say love flies out of the window when poverty walks in through the door. So it is then that arguments turn ugly. Arguing about the past is also pretty bad, for you can get into a mud slinging match, which can be really cruel at times. So in all, it is better to steer away from both these arguments for peace of mind.

Both can be unhealthy. In my case, I've gotten over things which I know I mustn't argue about with my husband. We have learned how to deal with it when it starts before it becomes a bigger issue. We try to avoid it when we're on the heat of argument and when things cool down, we try to talk calmly. I guess the key there is to be able to deal with these things in a nice manner. These are inevitable arguments that couples have to deal with all their lives.

Oh my .. i think both are equally unhealthy ... it's never good to have such attachments

Ohh..that's a tough one. They are both pretty unhealthy. I guess it would be the past. You can have ups and downs with money but you can't change the past. There's really no way to fix that problem.

i would rather argue about money because it's only degrading to the pocket, not to the spirit. Lol. Seriously, I think arguing on past issues just makes you kinda like crying over spilt milk, and drinking it again. Past should be placed in coffin and buried for eternity. If arguing about money makes you come up with a solution to a financial problem, then go ahead.

My guess would be that arguing about the past would be more unhealthy as they say...the past is the past, you cant change it, you cant bring it back, therefore holding onto is not a good thing... but to learn from it is the best that you can do... to argue about money is just common more now-a-days as the economy gets worse and the trickle effect is effecting more and more... even though some of us cant do much to change it, it may be healthy to get it out and discuss it vs holding it in and giving yourself an ulcer.