Do mothers pamper children more than fathers?
By mercuryman3a
@mercuryman3a (2477)
India
October 10, 2008 10:39am CST
I find that mothers are often softer than fathers and tend to papper the children more. If a child is spoilt, it is more often because of the mother. Fathers try to be strict but mother shield the children. Why is it so? Is it because children spend more time with mothers?
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4 responses
@Munchkin547 (2778)
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11 Oct 08
I'm not sure! My mum spoils me quite a lot but then again i've always been my daddies little girl, i think because i am the youngest and the only girl my dad pampers me quite a lot! I think when i was younger though, my dad was definitely stricter, if i was naughty my mum would say, just you wait until your dad gets home, and that would scare me enough to make me stop misbehaving!! hehe xxx
@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
There are families where the mother is more lenient, and the father is strict, while there are others where the father is lenient and the mom is strict. My father was strict, but my mother didn't spoil us either. She didn't cover for us when our Dad would scold us. My hubby and I are reasonable strict parents too. If I think there is an acceptable reason for a mistake our teenage kids committed, I would explain to my hubby, so they don't get scolded. He says I cover for them too much, but I really don't think so. Most of the time we are both lenient with them. But when we begin to see that they take things for granted, we immediately call their attention. We both spend good time with the children together.
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
10 Oct 08
You do make an interesting point here. I am a mother of a five year old son. I have a tendency to be shielding and protective of him. Yes, it is probably true that I do spoil him. It is just my husband and my son that I live with.
It does seem that I pamper my son and I think that it might just be maternal tendency to do this.
Fathers can be the stricter ones and the mothers do more of the doting in my opinion. I spend a lot of time with my son. I am a stay at home mother. It might be true that mothers are softer because of more time spent with a child. 

@savitha_r86 (904)
• India
10 Oct 08
Not exactly,infact in my house my dad is so lineant but my mom is strict.. There again it varies from person to person and family. Mothers tend to show more affection and more anger,extreme ends of emotions. Dads usually maitain d same level. I think that made u post such a discussion. Both d parents do pamper,to what extent d harm is done depends on the person not d gender :) Take care
