What has happened to Our Kids???
October 11, 2008 6:47am CST
Hi, I was wondering, Has anyone ever just sat back and watch the way most kids act today? I see kid doing things I would have never dreamed of when I was there age. Such as girls gone wild...O.M.G. What has happened to the moralaity of our children? I remember growing up, my mother tought me that there were things that a young girl just didn't do, in order to have respect for themselves and others. I have a step son that talks to his mother as if she is sh#@ under his feet. Ond day right after me and his dad married we went to pick him up at the cathlic church the he and his mother attended. She had lock the car and when he wanted to open the do to get his bag out, He got agree and called his mother a f@@@@@ B@#@@ right there in front of the church that he and his mom attends. My mouth just dropped. My husband did jump him out. He told him just because he was no longer married to his mother he would not put up with him talking to her that way. I know the only reason he didn't knock him on his A@@ was because I was there, and he didn't want to make a scean. That's something I would not stand for. Not from his kids or mine. So he never talk to me in that way. I would never dreamed of talking to my parents the way I hear kid talk to theres. I love my parents, and I respect them for who they are and there beleives. And I have a close relationship with them and alway have. It's almost as if kid these days are not tought to have feelings. They don't care or even think that the curl words they may speak to someone my be the last words that person ever hears for them. And do they even care? Some are so cold and have so much anger built up in them for some reason. There are so many of them that have no responsablity and think there parents own them. How did it get to this.
• United States
11 Oct 08
Some of the blame needs to be put on the parents. As far as the anger goes much of that is probably from the divorce. Many children take that very harshly and tend to blame one if not both parents. It takes quite an emotional toll on them and a lot of times they act out against it. Other things that has affected or children is the television they are allowed to watch and the video games that they play nearly constantly. Parenting has changed tremendously and many parents that do not raise their kids correctly affect the children that do. Peer pressure is terrible for teenagers so if they see their friends behaving that way then it must be the "cool" thing to do. So when parents do not discipline their children it makes it that much harder for those of us that do. I can see a difference in my 3 year old being around certain kids. My brother-in-laws girlfriend has a 5 yr old that I will not allow my daughter be around because of the way he acts. He is 5 and already steals anything he can get his hands on.
• United States
11 Oct 08
I am a child of divorce and so are my children. I was married for 12 years when he decided to have an affair. But, I was alway truthful with my kid on what happened in our marriage. Because they were 8 and 11, they were not stupid they could see everything going on and I new I need to be very truthful with them. They do have agre with there Dad, only because he would never come get them or spend anytime with them. He married the women he left for and didn't include his own kid in any of there family outing with his new family. So I had to work even harder to make them feel, it had nothing to do with them. And to let them know I would alway be there for them. As far as other influance around your kid, You can turn that into a teaching tool. When you are around them and you see there kid do something that is wrong..Then take the time to talk with your kid and let them know how wrong that is. And how happy you are that they don't act that way.. As they get older, they will start looking at what is going on around them and learn to avoid those type of people. The more you fight a child on who they can hang out with or get hucked up with, the more you push them right to the wrong people. The only truble I had with my oldest daughter is when she started going out with a guy I really didn't like or trust. But, I knew, If I fought her on it. I would loose. So, I just told her. If he is coming over to pick you up, he is NOT to blow his horn. He is to come in and say hello...I didn't feel that was to much to ask. But, one night after she had come home from a date with him, she informed me that when she turned 17 she at legial age in the state of MO to moving out with him...I paniced... But I look at her and said oh you are. Well let me tell you something. At 17 you can't rent an appartment, you can't buy a car, you can't get a phone, you can't get you elec. turned on....OH MY.. YOU CAN'T EVEN GET MARRIED WITH OUT MY SIGNITURE! I hit her with reality... with in the next couple weeks this guy finally showed his true side and that relationship was over. I thanked God for that. But in raising you children you need to learn to put yourself in there shoes. And realize what may not be important to you, may be very very important to them
• United States
13 Oct 08
I agree that it is getting bad, but, at the same time, think about it. Every previous generation says that about each successive generation. These kids will be saying the same thing about their kids, believe it or not! LOL! The sad thing is, as far as cussing goes, most of these kids learned from their parents. There are so many parents out there who don't seem to care or don't seem to understand the repercussions that their actions will have on their kids. I know that's not the whole problem, but, that is a large part of it. Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija