Sometimes Friends
By angelface23
@angelface23 (2494)
United States
October 14, 2008 12:19pm CST
I have this friend we'll call her Angie. We drink together often and we have a really fun time together and we have a lot in common other than drinking etc. But it seems like the only time we are actually 'friends' is when we are partying. I told 'Angie" that she is my best friend and she says the same about me. My friend Gerrie said that she is a 'sometimes' friend. That when no one else is around then she wants to hang out with me. I don't necessarily think it's a bad thing cause I kind of do that to other friends too that I don't hang out with all the time. I just think maybe I shouldn't put too much into my friendship with Angie though. What do you guys think and do you have a 'sometimes' friend like I do?
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10 responses
@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
15 Oct 08
I wouldn't consider this person friend, rather just an acquaintance. A friend is someone you can trust with your life, your possessions and your family. Sounds as if you and Angie have a good relationship though. And if neither of you have a problem with the way it is then there is no room for fixing it. I don't really have many people I consider to be true friends and not many people that I really hang out with other than my family.
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@angelface23 (2494)
• United States
15 Oct 08
I just want us to be on the same page though and I'm not sure if we are. I am her true friend but I don't know if I am her true friend or just someone to get drunk with.
@psspurgeon1 (1109)
• United States
15 Oct 08
Unfortunately, all I have are sometimes friends. I don't really consider them friends anymore as I have seen their true colors. At first I was really disappointed but now I am grateful to have found a best friend in my husband and my children. I don't party, I don't go out, I never leave my children so a friend of mine has to have similar morals and values or they don't understand where I'm coming from. If you are comfortable having sometimes friends then don't worry about it, but just know that if you truely need something, she is not likely to be there for you. It would be good to find at least one true all the time friend.
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@angelface23 (2494)
• United States
15 Oct 08
Yeah pretty much all my friends are like that. I am the type of friend that just can't say no because I am a true friend and I like to be there when my 'friends' need me. There's pretty much nothing I won't do for a friend. But it seems that I don't get the same back from my friends. Normally I dont mind but this Angie thing has me kind of messed up. For example there is this Halloween party that we were going to go to but she can't find a sitter. I recommended my friend but I dont think it's gonna work out. Now she wants to have a party at her house and wants me to not go to the party and come to hers. If I couldn't get a sitter she wouldn't stay home for me, you know? Just little things like that bug me.
@Dragonofgold (509)
• Canada
14 Oct 08
Personally, I call a friend like that an aquaintance. I would not be able to rely on that person if I really needed help for something. True friends are hard to find and should be cherished as precious when you find them. I try my best to be a true friend to my friends and helpful and kind to my acquaintances as well.
@Sherry8888 (38)
• China
15 Oct 08
i agree with you.True friends are hard to find so we'd better to be a true friend to our friends.
@ms1323 (259)
• United States
14 Oct 08
There are many different kinds, or levels of "friends." I have friends I only see when we have a party, some I see at a certain time of year, others are much more involved in my life. Someone you are very close to may not be the one you have the most fun with but that doesn't make either of them a less valuable friend. If the friendship works, don't worry about it. It's when it doesn't work that you may want to re-think things.
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@pweety_princess (2012)
• Australia
15 Oct 08
Hey,
Of course we all have sometimes friends.
If you guys want your friendship to be closer just invite her sometime to a movie or something.
If your more comfortable just seeing her sometimes, then that's fine too.
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@myhllim (272)
• Malaysia
15 Oct 08
I do have and they are just normal friends to me. They are just the friends I chat and laugh during gathering but not the one I could share my problem and getting advise from. I won't care much about my relationship with this type of friend. Just let it be whatever it will.
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@damsel_prerna (863)
• India
14 Oct 08
hey angleface.. do whatever your heart says.. if you like spending time with her.. do that.. it should not be your concern that she takes you as her best friend or a sumtimes frnd.. you do whatever you feel like.. let her do whatever she wants.. remember if you make her feel special and close she will reciprocate.. tc..
@ChristLikeFarmer (563)
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
Yup I do have a friend like your angie. Most of the time my friend is there when he needs something. I try not to spend a lot time with them but I give my best when they need me. I even dont know why I do this but I just cant seem to say to no to him.
@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
There are people who are really just your friends at certain situations. Of course we must learn to avoid those people who are just your friends when thing are good for you. Well for me the friends that I consider are those who are really there whether things are good or bad for you. 
@armada8213 (99)
• China
15 Oct 08
The confine of "friend" is extensively,you can regard all the people between relation and stranger.Who is your best friend?It's not the person you meet everyday,but he/she can give you some good suggestion to help you got out from under when you are balked of something,or share in your happiness.
