Do you believe in the saying that; once a cheater, always a cheater?

Philippines
October 15, 2008 6:44am CST
Lucky are the ones who never experience being cheated in their love relationships. Most people who did, gave their offending partner a second chance especially those who are married and have children. Is it worth the try to trust again? Is there any hope for a cheater to become faithful?
7 responses
@xzg555898 (210)
• China
15 Oct 08
Hi,ChloeStrawberry,I also think two people can become husband and wife most due to their trust and confess,and so on.So if you cheat the other on purpose,you would never get somebody believe in you. But sometimes,there is a kind lie. so i think it is judged by the cheater‘s attitude.Do you agree with me?
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
Yup i agree xzg555898 that it all depends on the cheater's attitude but cheating done unintentionally is almost impossible. But there is always mistakes done by both parties which triger the unfaithfulness. What do you think?
• China
15 Oct 08
well chioestrawberry,i do believe that there are many kind lies exist in this world ,because some kind lies can do a great help to others in some special situations,may a good kind lie can save a patient life by increasing his confidence to fight against the illness.....
@ShellyB (5241)
• United States
15 Oct 08
I believe there are always execeptions to the rule, so yes, even cheaters can reform, it depends on the cheater. And if it is worth it or not only the ones on the situation can know for sure.
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
There are some stories I learned that they really changed. That I believe would be so rare.
• Indonesia
15 Oct 08
There always hope in every cases. they cheat coz they didn't get enough love or they search the things their couple didn't have but usually, its because of their sx life.. just change the behaviour for her/him. give her/him more love than usuall. n try to make something new in the sx life. everybody is a cheater. but not everybody got courage to cheat. a cheater always be a cheater. but u can make them to think a thousand time to cheat on u.
• Malaysia
15 Oct 08
my point of view,i agree with the phrase.once a cheater always a cheater.my reason is that,it's good to be a cheater.once you get use to it,you tend to do it again.just like smoking.yes you can stop smoking,yes you can stop being a cheater,but rarely people learn to stop.second chance yes could be given to the cheater,but not that easy to give,unless you know he/she really learn the lesson.
• China
15 Oct 08
a prodigal who returns is more precious than the gold.the former doesn't mean now ,even the future.trust him or her again if you really think it is worth .
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
Thanks for the response. I agree that you have to consider to weigh the positives against the negatives in a relationship before deciding what to do after one cheats.
• United States
15 Oct 08
There is always hope. Whether it works well for this situation remains to be proven to me. In my experience, having been on both sides of this relationship killer, I can honestly say that it all depends on the mind set of the person cheating and the events leading up to it. Do I believe cheaters deserve a second chance? Again, it depends on the situation. If the person is cheating in an effort to break off the relationship, then a second chance will simply end up in a repeat of hurt and mistrust. However, if the person cheating had a moment of weakness and doubt then yes, I think a second chance is more than fair. I must add that anytime a person has wondered outside of a relationship the offended person always has trust issues. It's easy to give someone a second chance but it's difficult to overlook their past discretions. A second chance can work if the person doesn't cheat again and you can avoid asking "where have you been" if they come in the door 30 minutes late without a phone call.
• Pakistan
15 Oct 08
as all the fingers is not equal like that all first time cheaters are not full time cheaters But remember it depend upon the nature of the cheater , that y he/she is cheating and y it is the point , f it is clear then u can understand and calculate the cheating capicity . it is my own idea anybody can have there own idea Prince Sad