Did your Father "give you away" at your wedding?

My father did give me away. However we had been going through a difficult patch at the time. He was unhappy with a decision that my husband and I made in regards to something in the wedding planning. But he did come around and arrived at the church all dressed in his tuxedo ready to give me away. Now what would have happened if he hadn't shown. I had several family members that would have stepped in for him. My Godfather was in attendance and happy to do walk me down the aisle if I desired it. As far as the pastor...wow I have never heard of a pastor being that involved in the planning. Usually whatever that bride and groom choose to have on this day is up to them.

Well I had my dad walk me down the aisle, because thats tradition, but I have 3 dads so I was not sure if I was going to have my real dad or have all 3. It took me a long time to decide, and when I finally decided both my step dads and told me that they would not feel hurt if I didn't have them walk me down the aisle. So I picked my real dad, and it was awesome! I feel that it's tradition to have your dad walk you down, cause he is the one who gives you away. And cause thats you have to ask for their hand in marriage, so for me it only feels right, to have your dad give you away!

yes, but i wish that both of my parents would have given me away because i am an only child and i think it would have been nice, plus, of course, i was raised by both parents... why do ministers do that? why do they feel it is 'their wedding' and feel the need to take charge? my hubby and i have been to a plethora of weddings (we have been married for 20 years plus hubby is the sound guy for our church as well) and hubby and i were in one wedding where the minister took ownership of the wedding like it was his! crazy!

Obviously this discussion is for the bride, but I wanted to comment anyway. My wife and I eloped. We did it because that is how we wanted to remember our wedding. It was great!! I would do it again. We went to the justice of the peace in the city where we were going to school. Got married in about 15 minutes and only paid $32 for the whole thing. (For a college kid that was a lot of money). We went back to school and no one knew about it for 2 weeks. I still look back and think of the fun we had doing that. Now we have been married for 17 years and we are doing great!!

This is the first time I heard that a daughter having a difficult relationship with a father. Normally daughters love their fathers more than mothers. I love my father and he is my best friend. I always dreamt of walking with my father on my wedding day. And on my wedding day my dream came true. I was so proud to walk with my father.

I honestly think it's your friend's choice, not her pastor. I got married in a court house without my biological father or step father. I've never met my biological father and my step father and I never got along... my mother divorced him just 2 years ago for cruel treatment if that gives you any indication on how he is... If my pastor, priest, whatever told me I needed to have this person walk me down the aisle - I'd immediately start looking for a new pastor or venue to get married in. If I were to have a traditional wedding... I would've had no one walk me down the aisle... My wedding consisted of 9 people including the myself and groom. It was intimate and personal. We had a reception later in the year for all our friends and family in which my biological father and step father were not invited to.

I walked by myself. There was no way in hell I was going to let my jerkwad of a father have any acknowledged honor in my wedding. I would have liked to walk with my mother, but we never talked about it and she was in the ICU on my wedding day, anyway. I was absolutely miserable to distraction. I barely remember my wedding day at all and I just wish the whole thing never happened. I should have waited until she got better.

I think a minister at my church walked me down the aisle when I got married.. My dad did not attend my wedding, so he did not get the chance to. I would have loved for him to have this opportunity. But, he does not act like a father to me. It is sad, I know.. But, he caused this on his own self..

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I think that it's somewhat unusual that a Pastor, these days would question a bride's choices for her wedding. Where was this wedding held?

If I was her, I would of went to another church or got a different Pastor. That Pastor has alot of nerve making that decision for her. If she didn't want her dad to walk her down the isle then that is her choice. The father must of done something really terrible for her to make this choice.

Hi rocketj1 My dad did walk me down the aisle, such as it was - we got married in a suite in the Waldorf-Astoria in New York and our 'aisle' was the distance from the door of the sitting room (I think it was a sitting room anyway, or some sort of dining room but without the furniture!) past the eight chairs on which our families were sitting to the other side of the room. Probably about 10 feet in total! ;oD We didn't have a chance to rehearse either because we weren't told which suite it was going to be in till about two hours before the wedding itself and by that time I was in the hairdressers chair being made up. Dad and I just sort of shuffled along fairly slowly as our string trio played 'Here Comes the Bride'. It was a beautiful day but it was over MUCH too quickly! Best wishes, Teedyboo :o)

I am getting married next year, and since my grandfathers have been such a big thing in my life I am having them walk me halfway down the isle and my dad will be standing at the halfway point facing us and they will hand me over to him at that point and they will go to their seats. I know this is a strange way of handling things, but my moms father didnt like my dad when they got married so he refused to attend the wedding or let my grandma or my aunts and uncles go. My dad walked my mom down the isle. I am giving my grandfather a chance to walk the closest thing to my mother down the isle since he didnt chose to do so 26 years ago with my mother and father. Then I couldnt leave my other grampa out so I decided to have one on each arm!

My parents gave me away on my wedding and it made it much more memorable. I wouldn't have had in any other way. I was crying when I walked done the asile, I wasn't planning to but it happened anyway. I think my parents were teary eyed, too .. it was a surreal experience

nope it was not my father who give me away when we had the church wedding..it was my mom..since it was during that time that he had gone working from another city and never comes back to us even now at this very day..

my parents did not show up nor did his parents show up to my wedding this hurt me so bad but thats ok we got married any way and stayed married 20 years.

No, no one gave me away, nor did anyone walk me down the aisle as my husband and I eloped. Though if it had been a formal wedding I would have wanted my dad to walk me down the aisle, even if our relationship isn't the greatest.

My father walked me down. But I don't like the idea that the pastor pushed her into doing that. For all he knows there could have been some kind of abuse or something. Her wedding, her choice sez I.

My father walked me down the aisle and gave me away. I never thought it would be any other way. He was so cute too. He told me right before we went down the aisle, "When we get down there I am going to kiss you on your right cheek." It just struck kme so funny that he wanted to plan the affection so as not to appear awkward. It was all really lovely.

We had a traditional wedding. My dad walked me down the aisle. The funny thing was, after the ceremony was over, people were asking me if I was breathing really hard. I busted out laughing. My dad was breathing so hard before we had to walk down the aisle, I didn't know if he was going to make it and everyone else heard it! I think he was more nervous than I was.