What do you do when your boss shows favoritism?

@agrant10 (1446)
United States
October 16, 2008 11:50am CST
What do you do when your boss show favoritism toward one employee. This has been happening for a while and it is very noticeable even with other people in the department. Do you confront them, continue to ignore it, or go to HR. Open to all suggestions.
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10 responses
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
Hi there agrant10! We do have favorites. There are people in the organization that we consider as our favorites. Probably because they really stand out. However, managers should not be very obvious when it comes to who their favorites are. This will not be good for the members of the organization. They will surely lose motivation. Demoralization causes employees to be less productive. If you believe that you can talk to your boss about it, go ahead. If not, then just ignore it. Going to the HR can be a good option too.
@alabella (91)
• Poland
16 Oct 08
I am in such a situation due to the fact that I am new and my "competitor" is longer working. I stand no chances of winning and I can't confront it. The boss is the boss and as an employee I can do nothing... :(
@agrant10 (1446)
• United States
16 Oct 08
My situation is just the opposite, I have been there longer and it seems as if I'm getting treated unfairly. I'm not the newcomer and if I was it still would not be right to treat me anyless than anyone else. I don't know maybe I'm wrong.
@tryxiness (4549)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
Can you explain further how the favoritism happen? If you feel like the favoritism is affecting the workload given to you, then I feel like you need to tell him that because it's affecting you in a way that work is no longer motivating.
@agrant10 (1446)
• United States
16 Oct 08
This person come in late 3 days out of the week. I'm about 15 mins. late 1 day out of 5 and I'm approached verbally for tardiness. She just started about a year ago and I have been there over five. The work load is pretty much even, but he makes little comments that makes me feel like I'm not a valuable part of the team.
@KrauseHome (28094)
• United States
22 Sep 11
I unfortunately see this everyday where I work. There are people that can show up late, miss days, and do almost anything I have to do because of my Health and nothing is ever really said to them. Then when I have to be the one who is slacking they say something to me, refuse to give me my raise, etc. even though I have Medical problems and notes stating that I will be late, or I have medical issues. It is NOT Fair, and I wish we had a Real HR department who could deal with this.
@zhaychel (610)
• United Arab Emirates
3 Nov 08
I ignore it. I mean I can't do anything about it. As long as I'm doing my job well, I don't need to be conscious about how my boss treats me.
@don_naces (464)
• Philippines
22 Oct 08
Favoritism is present almost everywhere. I have experienced that when I was still studying and even now that I am already working. It hurts me a lot. But what will I do? I am not his/her favorite. I tried my best to do all things right. I show to them how responsible and trustworthy am I. I do not confront or report to the HR; it might trigger quarrel.
@sanzi1201 (645)
• China
22 Oct 08
I could do nothing,only hate him,if he is too favoritism.I am not a leader,so I could do nothing.I think it is a truth.
@sid556 (31031)
• United States
20 Oct 08
I ignore it. There always seems to be one employee that the boss seems to favor. It may or may not be true. I worked for this lady that treated me horrible. I worked for her for years and put up with her bs because she paid me well and I'm a single mom and I basically loved the job itself. I am still there under new ownership. My co-workers who hadn't been there as long all used to complain that she favored me and compared me to them. I didn't realize she had been doing this and when I caught wind of it, I told them ....hmmm, that's funny really because she is constantly telling me that you guys ALL do better than I do and haven't been here as long. She was an expert at mind games.
• Malaysia
19 Oct 08
Step 1 - ask the other colleagues to see if I'm being sensitive or not. Step 2 - If I'm correct, maybe gather few colleagues and talk to the boss. Step 3 - Shoot an email to the top management, someone higher than your boss. Step 4 - Change department. Step 5 - If step (4) is not possible, then change job.
• Philippines
19 Oct 08
Bosses or Superiors should not practice showing favoritism in the workplace. If that ever happens to me then ill be confronting my boss telling him that he should be fair to all of his subordinates. Everything would turn all right when you speak your point rather that keeping in silence. Nice talk is needed between a boss and a subordinate.