Would you consider remarrying the same person over again?

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@apples99 (6564)
United States
October 16, 2008 10:26pm CST
Hey fellow myloters. Iv heard of couples that have renewed there vows or have remarried the same person after divorcing them, and I'm curious to know if those of you that have been married would ever consider remarrying the same person over again, and are any of you remarried to the same person now?
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11 responses
• United States
13 Nov 08
Hey, I came across this post after googling "remarrying the same person." I know its from 4 weeks ago but I thought I'd give my response just in case anyone was checking back. My husband and I are actually in the middle of a divorce. When things started getting rough for us we tried counseling and I think we were just too stubborn and set in our ways for anything good to come of it. We decided to get divorced and I moved out. The funny thing is, the second I was out of the situation with him and had room to breathe I could start seeing my own faults more clearly and realized I wasn't perfect, he wasn't perfect, but I still loved him. When I mentioned this to him he felt the same way. He told me he wanted to be with me the rest of his life, he was just as confused as I was and we both assumed that divorce was the only way. We thought about calling it off, but agreed we needed a symbolic end to our first relationship with each other in order for us to start anew. We are now dating again and re-discovering each other for all the good qualities we loved the first time. We know we still have issues with each other but we somehow are acting much more mature and communicating our needs in a much better manner. I really think we are on the road to an amazing new life in which we don't take each other for granted and both work towards being better spouses. I have such a positive feeling about "us" and know that things will work out. Thanks for listening!!!
• United States
18 Jul 09
That is wonderful. My ex-husband and I were married 6 years and then we got a divorce. For pretty much the same reasons above. Just one week ago we talked on the phone, we have had lunch together. We decided that we want to keep dating each other. We both know we were ment to be together, but we had not learned how to be together. Things are so good. We have both grown and realized that we are not perfect. We will make mistakes. The key for us will be communication and to forgive. We both shared our feelings that we had hoped one day we would find our way back together. I know we will be re-married one day. Thanks to everyone for the positive comments. You know it's true love when you set it free and it comes back to you. Ms Dee
@ronaldinu (12440)
• Malta
17 Oct 08
Definitely not. If I ran away from a person the first time, I would not go back to her the second time. Twice bitten twice shy.
@apples99 (6564)
• United States
17 Oct 08
I see well thanks for responding.
@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
Well,if I really love mu husband so much and his willing to marry me again then why not?? Of course I'll marry him for how many times as long as he wants.. I think that is very amazing, marrying more than once to the one you love.. Actually, I really don't know the feeling of getting married since I had never yet been into marriage.. I'm still very young to be a mother or to be a wife (in my own perception, I'm still 20 years old).. Maybe 4 to 5 years from now, if it is already ok then I'll engage my self into marriage life..
@apples99 (6564)
• United States
17 Oct 08
I understand I think if two people love each other enough to remarry again then thats wonderful for them, but as for me I dont think I would remarry the same person again because if things were bad enough that I get divorced the first time I dont think I'd want to risk getting a divorice a second time, but anyway thanks for responding.
@chiaeugene (2226)
• China
17 Oct 08
i would if my ex wife give me the chance and i would love her with all my might and efforts. there is no reason why we cannot remarry the same person again. afterall, the most important thing is how we feel towards each other and not about the status of remarry. i also agree that remarrying the same person again is likely to last as both parties are aware of each other weakness and strenght and this make the relationship stronger and able to gel better. if only i had the chance to do so again....
@apples99 (6564)
• United States
17 Oct 08
Well I think it depends on how bad the divorce is, and I also think if two people are willing to give it another try then why not, I just dont think I would do it myself but I dont see anything wrong with remarrying someone if you still have love for each other I think its up to the person.
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
I don't think it will work for me. It may be harder the second time around and statistics although I haven't seen it can prove it.
@ds6413 (2073)
• United States
18 Jul 09
Hi apples99, there was a time in my life my ex-husband and I had talked about getting remarried. Looking back on it now I am wondering what what wrong with me to even consider making that same mistake again!The problem I saw with remarrying him was that nothing would have changed only would have delayed the Inevitable divorce/break up again.That was just crazy thinking on my part.
@sid556 (31003)
• United States
18 Jul 09
If I were still married to the same person then maybe...if it were important to my spouse to renew our vows then probably I'd go along with it. It would not be something I'd come up with on my own. I guess if I were happy still with that person, I really wouldn't feel the need to but that's just me. As for re-marrying the same person...NO. I would not go back and remarry my ex. I didn't get divorced without putting a lot of thought into it. There was no doubt in my mind that I was doing the right thing. I can't even imagine going back. It was right when it was right and over when it was over.
@Humbug25 (12551)
18 Oct 08
Hi ya apples99 I really don't think I would marry the same person twice as the divorce would have surely been due to negative reasons. I don't think I would bother re-newing my wedding vows either but surely if you are keeping to your vows why would you need to re-new them? I guess if you are adding some vows that would be different but I would have thought that your first lot of vows would have had pretty much everything covered the first time around!!
• United States
17 Oct 08
Oh, yeah, I would. I consider myself the luckiest man in the world as I got to marry my best friend. I would marry her again all over again! We have been together for 26 years and married for 22. Don't have to think twice about it!
• United States
17 Oct 08
I think it's an awesome thing to renew vows. Especially if the couple has had big problems that they have successfully worked through. I don't know if I would ever personally do it, but then again my husband and I haven't had any major problems to work through. Yet. :P
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
17 Oct 08
its possible and it depends on it what case of the divorced then they have chance again to marry and if it is that case i guess its great coz love is more lovelier than second time arround.