I seriously need to make a will... ....

@gemini_rose (16194)
October 18, 2008 9:14am CST
Has anyone else made a will? Have you made plans for your children should anything unexpected happen to you? I mean, I do not like to think of not being here, but you know things can happen unexpectedly and if it did then neither my hubby or I are prepared. We have four childre, we seriously need to make provisions for them should the worst ever happen to us, like appoint a gaurdian for them or something. I guess I should figure something out, but do I have to go through a solicitor or can I do it on paper at home and just get witnesses to sign it? Is it expensive to have a will drawn up? And how on EARTH do I decide who gets to have what, most of the stuff I have is junk!!!
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@Celanith (2334)
• United States
19 Oct 08
We had one long ago and it is way out of date. We need to make a new one and have not done it. Hubby and I are both near 60 so we should get this done soon. I am going to be looking for urns on the net to buy for our creamation if or when we pass away. I want my will done so the kids know what to do and it is not going to cost them an arm and a leg. I hope to live 20 -30 more or so years though but you never know so I know we need to get this done very soon.
@gemini_rose (16194)
19 Oct 08
I want to sort it out so that there is not a mess left for others to sort out, it is just not a nice task to have to do.
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@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
19 Oct 08
We need to also for our 6 yr old son. We have someone in mind to take care of our son if anything happens to us. We just have not gotten our butts into gear and done one.
@gemini_rose (16194)
19 Oct 08
I guess we all do not like to think of the unexpected.
@ersmommy1 (12605)
• United States
19 Oct 08
We have the will software. And Some forms that I found online. We are planning to make the will. But we are waiting until after our son is is born in December. That way our daughter and our son will be dealt with. We didn't want to have to re-do.
@gemini_rose (16194)
19 Oct 08
That makes sense, I can imagine it being a pain to have to keep redoing them as things change.
@tessah (6638)
• United States
18 Oct 08
you can just write everything up yerself at home and then go to a notary and have it notarized, and that isnt very expensive at all. you can also stipulate in said document who would be the guardian of yer children.. and considering theyd be minors if they needed a guardian.. id suggest also making said person executor and in charge of yer estate as well to see to it things are devided equally and fairly between yer kids when they become of age.
@gemini_rose (16194)
18 Oct 08
That sounds like good advice thanx, all I have to do is sit down and write everything down that I wish to happen should the worst come to the worst, now, who to give my cd collection too, hmmmm!!
@chrislotz (8207)
• Canada
18 Oct 08
I don't have a will either. I know I keep saying that one day I need to do one up but I procratinate over it. I don't have anything so there wouldn't be much to go around anyways but I should still do it because if I don't everything I have could go to escrow and then it would be tied up for some time. I have two children that are now adults so I don't have to worry about them, but I still would like to leave them something when I am gone. It can be expensive to draw up a will with a lawyer so you can buy a will kit at a book store that costs only about $45. That is how my mom did hers just recently. It is legal and all, just like having a lawyer do it, but if you have a lot of things then it can be difficult. What my mom did was make my sister her trustee and she knows to share everything with all of us. And of course we all trust her to do it fairly.
@gemini_rose (16194)
18 Oct 08
Yes, I think that I have seen those kits in the shop, I will have to take a closer look though next time I am in the shop.
@bunnybon7 (32580)
• Holiday, Florida
18 Oct 08
my kids seem to think i should but i keep telling them theres no use as im already almost out of money and have given them all they're gettin already. so why should i?
@gemini_rose (16194)
18 Oct 08
Iknow what you mean, we do not have much, it is mainly the "stuff" although half of that could be thrown out. We have the house though, as even if we both snuff it the mortgage would be cleared so I need to decide how that should be divided up. Then I need to decide who should be appointed gaurdian to the kids should anything happen to us while they are still young.
21 Oct 08
Making a will is one thing that we all push to the back of our heads, as we all think that it wot happen to us. I mean I'm only 27, why should I be thinking about a will, in theory I have the rest of my life ahead of me and should be planning for that. Why should I be thinking about planning a will. The tough part is deciding who gets what and having witnesses to sign it and getting a good solicitor. I wouldn't know where to start on beginning a will. Its not easy to get information about starting your will is it??
• United States
21 Oct 08
My husband had his will as well as mine drawn up by his neice who is an elder care attorney, so she did not charge us, (How lucky is that?!) Before getting married, my will was in the hands of an attorney hooked up with my Union, at no cost. Anyway, it is imperative to have a will, an executor, and a plot (cemetery). Otherwise, if you die without a will, as my mother did, your Estate - and/or State government - will dispose of money and/or property.
@underdogtoo (9601)
• Philippines
19 Oct 08
I would like to leave something for my children before I go. As it is, I am so poor that I cannot leave them anything as of now. It is a good think God has not killed me yet. Cheers!!
@annjilena (5621)
• United States
18 Oct 08
yes i did this a while back it good to get this done while it,s on your mine so your family will know what to do if something should happen to you,