does she love me?

@legend4u (1019)
India
November 3, 2008 7:13pm CST
i am going to be mad, i can't say whether she loves me or not. i love her with all my heart but , i don't know how she feels about me. she is a good friend of mine we know each other for about 2 years now.i am afraid that if i tell her my love and she disapprove itmay effect over friendship too. what can i do????
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11 responses
@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
4 Nov 08
My current boyfriend now was once my friend, though until now, we consider as such and even more than best of friends. Friendship started in the year 1996 during our College days. We were schoolmates, we belong to the same organizations and there became friends. After College, we parted ways because he went to work in other place and I took my Law proper. After 4 years, we met again and there became more closer. We had our own relationships then until he broke up with his gf and the same with mine. Though the break ups were not caused by is. Until, he realized one day that he loves me. He was at first reluctant to say his feelings for me thinking mainly about the consequences if I will learn it. But, he thought It would be better that I will know than never said it and face the consequences. He did. Because I had no feelings for him other than to be friends, I rejected him twice, but still he pursued. For some reasons, I gave him the third chance and accepted his proposal. Honestly, I only learned that I have feelings and love him after 10 months of our relationship. Now, he is still my man and we will be celebrating our 4th Anniversary this coming January. Do not fear to say it. You might not know what will happen next. If the consequence appears to be in the negative, at least you have said it.
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@legend4u (1019)
• India
8 Nov 08
why did ypu pasted the same thing twice.
@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
4 Nov 08
My current boyfriend now was once my friend, though until now, we consider as such and even more than best of friends. Friendship started in the year 1996 during our College days. We were schoolmates, we belong to the same organizations and there became friends. After College, we parted ways because he went to work in other place and I took my Law proper. After 4 years, we met again and there became more closer. We had our own relationships then until he broke up with his gf and the same with mine. Though the break ups were not caused by is. Until, he realized one day that he loves me. He was at first reluctant to say his feelings for me thinking mainly about the consequences if I will learn it. But, he thought It would be better that I will know than never said it and face the consequences. He did. Because I had no feelings for him other than to be friends, I rejected him twice, but still he pursued. For some reasons, I gave him the third chance and accepted his proposal. Honestly, I only learned that I have feelings and love him after 10 months of our relationship. Now, he is still my man and we will be celebrating our 4th Anniversary this coming January. Do not fear to say it. You might not know what will happen next. If the consequence appears to be in the negative, at least you have said it.
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• Saudi Arabia
8 Nov 08
How sweet... I thought there are no stories like this at this time.
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@underdogtoo (9599)
• Philippines
4 Nov 08
There was a time when I was madly in love with a girl even before she knew I existed. Later we because best friends and I could not tell her. Well, maybe in the next life. Cheers!!
@legend4u (1019)
• India
4 Nov 08
tomorrow i will ask her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i am brave enough!!!
• China
4 Nov 08
I think you should discuss with her about the topics of love,express your love from other espects,not to ask her directly whether she love you,you can give her flowers and observe he expressions.
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@legend4u (1019)
• India
4 Nov 08
that is a good idea i will try it out tommorow and tell you what happend
@Sheepie (3118)
• United States
4 Nov 08
Well, I think you should consider what would happen if you never told her. Would you be happy then? Maybe you should tell her, but don't really expect her to like you back, maybe she will give you a chance.
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@legend4u (1019)
• India
4 Nov 08
what could i say...i can't just go to hersay i love you with all my heart
@anne12d (676)
• Philippines
6 Dec 08
Tell her what you feel. It's all or nothing legend4u! What if she loves you too? What if she's just waiting for you to tell her what you feel. There are lots of what if's but you cant answer it all without doing some actions. Hmm... Well, you can do some actions first a little bit beyond what you two usually do as friends. "Action speak louder than words" right?! Then when you have the guts to tell her... Go! Or ask some signs if she loves you too. It works sometimes. Then reserve some guts to tell her what you feel. Perhaps she will appreciate it. Being friends for long can develop a love beyond friendship. Who knows what's her answer if you wont tell her.
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@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
8 Nov 08
hi, legend4u. in my opinion, you really have no choice. you have to tell her, first, for the chance that she will love you back, and second, for your peace of mind. tell her so that you would know how she feels. but of course, friend, there is a chance that she would take it badly. it is possible that she does not feel the same about you and your friendship may suffer. but friends are friends. friendship may become rocky but with the right handling, everything will mend. if you ever decide to tell her, wait for the right time alright? trust your instincts. take care always.
• China
4 Nov 08
I think you should to disscus the topics about love with her ,trough the disscusion you can see whether she loves you or not .You should not ask her directly,you can give flowers to her and observe he expression.
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@mz_Ira (1091)
• Philippines
4 Nov 08
Sometimes the only way that could make us feel good is to let it out although there are no assurance of having exactly the answer that you wish or expect for. If you think that this helps you then youre free to tell her although just keep in mind, life isnt like a fairy tale that all turns positive but hey you may not know, she feels as well the same but just to be safe don't expect much from her.. You too are good friends then if she might hear it from you I guess nothing's wrong. Your friendship won't have to affect it unless youre trying to insist on something that would definitely scratch your relationship. If she may not feel the same be thankful that you still have her as a friend. Things have reasons, you may love her now but maybe she's not the one for you.. ;-)
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@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
4 Nov 08
Well, you have two choices.. Its up you tell her what you feel for her or be her friends forever.. I know that it is very hard to express our feeling especially to a friend since we might know what will happen after we had tell her/him about how I feel.. But if you really want to know the answer of your question then you must indeed sacrifice your friendship.. Actually, you don't need to be worry so much since no matter how you feel for her you can still be friends.. Don't be afraid to tell her how you feel because you can have a chance that she likes you too... Just be ready of your self to see her reaction and most of all to hear her answer.. Don't show that you are scared, don't show that you are weak.. Try to be strong and stand your decision and that is telling her what you feel for her.. Goodluck!
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@rsa101 (13336)
• Philippines
4 Nov 08
Well you will never know if you do the first move. Although it may risk your friendship but then you'll never know if she's feeling the same if you would not try in the first place.