Does that make me a bad friend?
By dwcorona
@dwcorona (187)
United States
November 6, 2008 10:18am CST
a girl I had met about 2 yrs ago and I had been hanging out alot, this was earlier in the year we would go out about once a week or so and just hang out and have fun. She met a guy at the bar and a few months later told me she was still seeing him and hanging out with him. Her husband ended up calling me and asking me about this guy and if they were sleeping together, I told him I didnt know because at the time I didn't. when she called a few days later she said that she had been and even had him at the house when her husband was working. I stopped hanging out with her because my bf didnt' like that she was meeting guys at the bar and cheating. After awhile I found out that she had been telling her husband she was out with me when actually she was out with the other guy. I confronted her and told her if that's what she wanted to do then to leave me out of it. she told me I was a bad friend and was judging her. I tried to tell her that I wasn't judging I just didn't want a reputation for lying ot husbands about being with thier wives when they really where with other guys. I told her I didn't want to hang out if she wasn't going to stop. I don't think it was wrong but she sure does I had to block her IMs and number cause she just won't let it go..............
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@grammasnook (1871)
• United States
6 Nov 08
No not at all, as a matter of fact I would say she was the bad friend for putting you in that position. Good Luck!
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@neededhope (1085)
• United States
6 Nov 08
You were completely right for letting her go as a friend. A really good friend told me once that if you hange around 11 monkeys your bound to be the 12th. I think this can work there too. If you hang around with someone who lies and cheats it's possible you could end up doing that too.
I would definately say she wasn't being a good friend to you for wanting you to lie and tell her husband that she was with you. IF she really wants to cheat it's her own business and she shouldn't add you into the mix.
@dwcorona (187)
• United States
6 Nov 08
thanks for your response, your right I didn't want to be influenced into anything, Im not the kinds of person to lie or cheat but my bf was worried that I might becuase of her and being with her. I was also worried that she would talk me into lying for her about being with me because she was persistant, I'm glad I'm not the only one that thought it was good to end the friendship
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
6 Nov 08
I don't think that you are a bad friend at all. You are just trying to stand your ground and want to do the right thing. Your friend shouldn't be doing what she is doing. I don't mean to judge people but that is just how I am feeling about it.
You don't want to be in the middle of this. Your friend is going to do what she is doing but you do not need to be included in the schemes. You are actually being used as some kind of alibi.
That is not fair to you. I am sure you will be alright without a friend like this! 
