How long should a person go before they go to the next level in a relationship?

@celticeagle (119388)
Boise, Idaho
November 6, 2008 12:47pm CST
If you are in a relationship and things are going along well what three things make you feel like it is time to go to the next level whether that be a sleep over, engagement, marriage or what ever? Do you go by your heart or what your brain tells you or friend's and family input or alittle of all of these? And which is more important?
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@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
7 Nov 08
Depends on the people and what they think should be the next step . If your heart and head says move on do it . DOnt matter about the time limit went on 3 dates with my 2nd hubby moved in with him and then got married later lasted till he passed away for 42 1/2 years!
@subha12 (18453)
• India
7 Nov 08
it depends on the level of comfort. it does not specify on time. how much you are comfortable with each other . it can decide when to proceed
@rsa101 (14941)
• Quezon City, Philippines
7 Nov 08
Well it really depends on how comfortable are you with each other. For some it may be short and for some it may be long it will totally depend on the person itself and there is no exact length of time to really tell it but the person itself.
• United States
7 Nov 08
I think it depends on the relationship. I try not to over anaylze things in a new relationship because you end up just confusing yourself. I always say listen to your heart. In my current relationship, my boyfreind and I dated for three months before we moved in with each other, engage at six months. We have been together for three year now and we have yet to get married. There is no right or wrong answer. I say do what feels right.
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
7 Nov 08
Hi celticeagle, I am no longer into the level thing. I stopped with that a long time ago. I just take things as they come. I have been in my relationship with my boyfriend for over a year now, but we started out as friends and it was kind of a long story thing. He was seeing someone else and me at the same time and I knew the person and knew she was no good. In fact we all were in the same Rehab together. He ended up moving in with me last January. But it was for financial reasons and because he needed a place to live. So I wasn't really happy about him being here in the beginning because I was used to living alone and we weren't in a relationship. He still would go out alone and stay out sometimes even though he would call me and tell me, but I was ready to kick him out. The things started to change and we started to get along better and work like a team. He no longer goes out alone or stays out. We do things together and I now want him to stay. I'm still not sure if he will or not. But marriage is out. I am 11 years older than him and he doesn't want to marry which is fine with me because neither do I. He is also black and I am white which doesn't bother either one of us. We don't have a racial issue. We are fine with things as they are for now. If things don't work out I will not get into another relationship and I will go back to living alone. I have friends and it is less stressful to not be in a relationship.