How to deal with this possesive so called "friend"?
November 13, 2008 1:59pm CST
Ok this is the problem in a nutshell. I'm friends (or was now it seems) with a girl who recently has become incredibly possesive over one of our male friends. I used to fancy him and so did she (we slept together at one point, whereas I'm pretty sure that nothing happened between her and this male friend). I don't fancy him any more and this has been made clear. She says that she doesn't fancy him but it's come to the point where she butts in when ever me and him are having a conversation. She will get involved in the conversation contradict everything I say and constantly be touching his arm holding his hand. If they were going out I wouldn't mind so much! But it got to the point where in a club on Monday evening she yanked me physically away because I had grabbed his arm to get his attention. I'm not sure what to do about this? We used to be friends but it feels like there is nothing there any more.
13 Nov 08
I can see your disappointment. Maybe its best if your upfront with her about this and your feelings. Just tell her to go for it with him. After all this passes you will bolth even be better friends if your friendship is true. If not dont worry about. telling her how you feel you cant loose. Good luck sounds like a tough deal. :)
13 Nov 08
The problem is that she is so insistant of the fact that she doesn't fancy him despite the way that she acts around him sending signals that she does. I know that if I bring this up she won't listen, get defensive and storm off. So I am kind of stuck!
13 Nov 08
Well at least your smart enough and honest enough to see whats going on. You might explain to her before hand that this whole thing isnt worth getting about set about. Truth is the hardest thing for some to hear ? Sounds like she might bwe a bit jelous as well and this is an issue that is the hardest. Better she is jellous of you than you of her. :)