Should grandparents have visitation rights?

United States
November 14, 2008 4:27pm CST
Grandparents who are refused rights for visitation with their grandchildren seems to be a common problem and it is increasing across the world. There are many circumstances in which the parent says "no." In most cases it isn't what is best for the child. It seems to be a power and control issue that the parent has. What should a grandparent do? In most states the law says that grandparents don't have rights. But many grandparents have bonded with their grandchildren then whenever a change in circumstances arise the other parent refuses to allow the child to visit with the grandparent. How can grandparents gain their rights or should they be entitled?
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@ebsharer (5519)
• United States
14 Nov 08
I think it depends on why the parents don't want the child to see there grandparents. For me I live in PA my daughter goes to FL to visit my paretns her grandparents very often. My husband or I take her down and my mom or dad brings her back. I think it is very improtaint for a child to know his or her grandparents. I have also seen grandparents that aren't good grandparents so they should get supervised visitaion. But I think no matter what supervised or unsupervised as long as the grandparents are able and willing they should be able to see the kids.
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• United States
14 Nov 08
I'm glad you allow your children to see their grandparents because it is important. However, there are situations where the parents get divorced and the parent with the control won't allow the other grandparent to see the child(ren). I feel that it has to do with power and control. But the sad thing is the children suffer until they are old enough to make their own choices. The parents who do this will have to answer at some point.
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• United States
15 Nov 08
I think parents should have the right to decide who their children see. Unless the grandparents did something horrible to their kids (parents) then there shouldn't be any reason why the the parents wouldn't let the kids see them.
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• United States
15 Nov 08
Sometimes whenever divorce is involved the other parent won't allow the other side (grandparents) to see the children. It isn't that anything was done that is wrong or even that the grandparent didn't get along with the in-law. It is power and control over the other parent. They know by refusing visitation that hurts the other side of the family. It is cruel and should never happen.
• United States
17 Nov 08
The other parent doesn't have that kind of control. The grand parents in that case should be mad at their son or daughter who won't bring the kids around them. It's not their child's ex's job to bring them to see grandma and grandpa.
@Barbietre (1444)
• United States
15 Nov 08
I have not seen my grandchildren in 10 years because my DIL just does not like me. I have done nothing wrong to the woman and in fact helped her when no one else would. My son(M) has to sneak around to see his friends and his family from NY.If I was such a bad person, the son (R) and his wife who live close would dislike us too. But in fact the other my first son (M) was not allowed to come to his neice's Christening, my son(R) had asked him (M) to be a Godfather. They live across the country, so it would be really hard to bring this to court.It breaks my heart. It is just not fair, my other son(R) has children and all we can do is focus our love on them.
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• United States
15 Nov 08
This is a common problem and so unfair to the children and grandparents. Most of the time it is over power and control of the other side. Sad. I am considering finding out how to make it law in my state, FL.
@katrhina23 (1282)
• United States
15 Nov 08
I feel so sad when I heard a parent that the grandparents cat see nor visit the kids . Grandparents have the unique way of disciplining their grandbabies. I think it really depends on the realationship between the parents and the grandparents. Some cat get along well so parents refuse to let the oldies visit their babies. I hope, they could have rights to contest their visitation rights. Atleast as courtesy to them since they are the parents of the parents.
• United States
15 Nov 08
Granparents play an important role in children's lives. I do think that they should be given visitation rights as long as there is no reason for them to not see the kids. If there is a reason for which the grandparents should not be allowed to have visitation, I think a court should decide that.
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@Ithink (1973)
• United States
15 Nov 08
I think that all grandparents should have the rights of visiting their grandbabies as long as they have never done anything to hurt them. Children get attatched as do adults and it isnt fair to either to keep them apart if nothing wrong was done. You get stupid spitful adults that to get even play power games with kids and I think that is totally wrong and ignorant.
@katsmeow1213 (24665)
• United States
15 Nov 08
I had a friend who's parents were in court fighting for visitation rights of their grandchild (her brother's child). Their own son would not allow them to see the child. These were good people, the grandfather was a lawyer and the grandmother was a homemaker. I met them on a number of occasions and thought they were good people, so I see no reason why they could not have been in their grandchild's life. I don't remember how it turned out, but I think grandparents do have the right to take the parents to court for visitation rights.
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@hildas (3031)
14 Nov 08
I think it is unfair when a couple spilt and a Child is then refused visitation rights by a parent (usually the mother) to the grandparents. A lot of these children have grown to love and know these grandparents really well and it is so unfair on both of them. My husbands friends son has recently spilt from his girlfriend. They have a two year old son and she has full care of him. At the start of their spilt, my hubbys friend got their grandson every weekend. Their grandson is always in and out of hospital as he has a heart condition. My hubbys friend goes to hospital while she works and spends all day with his grandson who he adores. A few weeks ago she met a new boyfriend and he will not allow them to see their grandson anymore and their heart is broken in two. They have begged the Mother to let them see him but she says no. They have taken this matter to court and she has not turned up, which is a good thing for them. I feel so sorry for them right now. They are devasted and deserve better as they looked after their Grandson alot. I am sure he is missing his grandparents to. I think it should be made law to see a grandchild. Even if it is one weekend a month, it would be good.
@mtdewgurl74 (18124)
• United States
14 Nov 08
I think that they should be entitled but then again we don't know all of the circumstances of why a grandparent is denied visitation rights. I think if the child is not in any danger then yeah I think they should be able to visit. A child needs to learn who their grandparents are. But if they hit or abused the child then no I would be like the parent who kept my child away from harm unless i was right there at all times it would take alot to trust someone who would harm a child.
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@mobhomeir (7567)
• Philippines
15 Nov 08
I dont see any valid reasons why grandparents refused rights for visiting their grandchildren. I dont know what country are you in, but in our place grandparents are and will always be welcome with open arms! It is maybe because we have a strong family ties. Well, maybe it depends on the culture and traditions of your country. Maybe it depends on your government's lawmakers to pass a resolutions granting grandparents their rights to visit their own grandchildren..I think thats the only way..I guess you miss already your grandparents, well, fight for their rights..
• United States
15 Nov 08
I am in the United States, Florida. You are right, the only way to resolve this is to fight for grandparents right for visitation.
• United States
15 Nov 08
I will give you a valid reason, the grandparents may have abused the parents when they were younger or the grand children. There are two sides to every story.
@Foxxee (3654)
• United States
15 Nov 08
Actually most states DO have grandparents rights & I think it's fair if the grandparents have been in that childs life & has never had a case of abuse & so on on their record, then I don't think it's a problem. I feel grandparents have rights. Some grandparents actually have raised their grandkids so much better then the actual parents.
• United States
15 Nov 08
Unfortunately Florida doesn't have grandparent rights. But we should.
@winterose (39926)
• Canada
15 Nov 08
yes grandparents should have visiting rights, it is not right to spite the grandparent just because you don't get along with the spouse, after all the spouse is not the grandparents, sometimes they are not happy about the break up either but not to see their grandchildren again is just wrong.
• United States
15 Nov 08
I think that the parents should not deny their parents visitation rights of their grand children because at the end of the day they are still grand parents of those children. The parents sometime take things personal, although the situation may be. They are only hurting the child. I think that grandparents should have the exact same rights as a parent when it comes to seeing a child or having a child in their life for that matter.
@jeanena (1545)
• Bucklin, Kansas
15 Nov 08
As a grandparent I would say If there was any reason on of my kids or their spouses tried to keep me from my grand babies I would fight as hard as I could to get to see them. I do however understand that there are some people out there who shouldn't be allowed. It depends on the persons involved. I for one wouldn't ever allow my husbands Biological mother to be alone with my kids. his father and step mother was a whole other thing, they would have been fine to keep the kids. But I figure if the woman could hurt her own kids there would be nothing to keep her from harming someone else' kids . She poured lighter fluid on my husbands sister and lit her on fire. Some states have grandparents rights .Thats what i would check into in a case of them withholding the grand kids .I am very close to my grandson and it would kill me not to see him.
• India
15 Nov 08
yes grandparents have the visitations rights but they nee to take nery much care and they should have good diet and they should have it in there right time also and they need to take lots of rest..
• Philippines
15 Nov 08
i don't know the setting in your country, but here in the Philippines, we had a close family ties where our grandparents live with us. we feed them and they shown their willingness to care for themselves too. we consider them as part of our family.. and i guess, as far as i know, we Filipinos barely send our grandparents to those homes where they cater elderly.. as much as possible, they live with us.. we loved them. we value their worth and that they needed really attention and care..
@mrsjbelle (1642)
• United States
15 Nov 08
I certainly think they have a right. If my son had a child I would want to be able to see that child as much as I possibly could. Its there blood. They have a right. I think they should go to court & petition for rights if there rights arent being allowed.
• United States
15 Nov 08
hey there and happy day to ya..I have seen both sides..in some cases..like in a friends case..the grandmother iss sooo mean and horrible to the grandchild.She wont let her see him..it just depresses teh child..This case and other friends i have heard that dont want to let there child have anything to do with the grandparents,or grandparent,,there is a reason they dont want them to see them.And not to just be spiteful.Or why would the parent have any problems at all with visitation? But in my opinion as well..if they grandparent and parents are fighting..and teh parents wont let them see teh grandchild to be spiteful and immature by all means i think there should be some kind of visitation.Know what I mean? take care! April