What would you do when you are in this situation?

@Bebs08 (10691)
United States
November 20, 2008 10:48pm CST
I am so upset with this. My brother in law was operated something in the prostate area. He is the older brother of my hubby. He then called us and ask help for they have no money and we have no money either. But my hubby tried his best to secure money so that he could help his brother. After the operation, my brother in-law ask if they could stay with us together with his lived in partner. Well, we agreed but just for 1 month. Now, he and his lived in partner had been a pest since they lived with us. He accused my husband of flirting with his partner. What?? He make up lots of stories which pissed me of. Then he blackmailed my hubby that if he will not be given money, he will do something to ruin our family. He wants money because they want to go and rent a room for them, he wants his partner to be away from my hubby. He is very immature. I am not thinking bad against my hubby, i know he can't do that? and I am there in the house all the time, I did not see anything bad that is happening between my hubby and the girl? I was so upset that I drive them away. They are living in our house and do that to us? PIGS!!! We feed them, and their stay is free of everything. If this happen to you, what will you do? He then threat to kill my husband because he was so jealous. What? he is like a child. He is very immature. I plan to blotter him so if something happens, he will be imprisoned.
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@jcj_111776 (3221)
• Philippines
22 Nov 08
I would have done the same thing you did, ask both of them to leave. And based from your other replies, they have already done so. Which is a very good thing. But just in case, your family still need to be on your guard. There's no telling if he'll be back, and keep on threatening your family. But your brother-in-law's actions must have broken your husband's heart and his trust. And most especially his respect for his elder brother. To think that your husband did everything he can to help his brother, and to be repaid in that way. Just always be careful and be always on your guard. My mother has a brother who is similar in that way. She already gave so much to him and yet, he threatened to kill her when the day came that she can't help him financially anymore. She showed us his text message that was full of curses and bad words for her. And the part where he threatened that something bad will happen to her because she refuse to help him anymore. Some family huh?!They not only take the hand you have reached out. But they will also gobble up your whole arm.
@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
26 Nov 08
That is definitely a horrible thing!!! There are people whoa re like that. Yes, hubby help his brother a lot. He facilitate everything in the hospital when his brohter has nothing to pay, hubby find some sponsors and other people who could help him, and we let them stay in the house and that;s what he will do? too much of a pig!!!
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
It was indeed horrible. Fortunately, that no-good uncle of mine got tired of threatening my mother. But then, who knows? He might be just taking a break from harassing her. And if he does do it again, my mother is decided to report him to the authorities.
• Philippines
21 Nov 08
I really think you ought to just erase him from your lives. He is bad news. I agree that you should take the necessary steps to make sure he doesn't harm your family. If you give him money, he will just keep coming back for more. You must feel really bad and you have my sympathies. I hope things get better.
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
21 Nov 08
That is what I think.. if we give in to his wishes, he keep on doing that over and over again. He is a nut case.
• United States
22 Nov 08
I agree. do what you are supposed to do. Let them learna lesson. they are just immature individuals that do not look back at what other people did to them.
• United States
4 Dec 08
I am so sorry that this is happening to you Bebs.Your brother in law is a nut job.I would throw him and his girlfriend out of the house.You and your husband should not have to put up with such nonsense.Do not give them any money.Because they are leeches.I would let other people know that he threatened your husband.That way it's on record.I pray that it works out for your family.
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
5 Dec 08
You are right!! they are leeches.. LOL.. they are gone now. We have no idea how are they now. I told my hubby not to see them anymore, they might do something bad against him.
@silverjam (969)
• United States
24 Nov 08
Your brother-in-law is surely a bum. If I am in your place I would really tell him right in his face that he has no right to do the things he did. I would count all the good things I did to him from adopting him and his gf and let them stay for free. But if all of these will be of no avail i will surely push them away from my house. I guess your BIL is not in his normal sense...no man in sane mind would act like the way he did. Its a total display of ungratefullness. Having him blottered to the police station would be the best thing to do by now since he made threats to your husband.
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
26 Nov 08
he is nuts!!! am sure he is not in his right mind maybe because of frustrations of his present situation. But that is not an excuse. He must know how to repay kindness...
@williamjisir (22909)
• China
22 Nov 08
Hello Bebs. I am so sorry for the situation that is with you now. Usually we appreciate the person who help us a lot without doing anything to ruin one's fame. I am wondering what your brother-in-law is thinking about and what he can get from doing so. It is so annoying for him to repay your kindness to him and his partner. But I am glad that you see clearly the whole matter and trust your husband, which is of great importance to him. I think that it is wise of you to have them live somewhere else to avoid further trouble caused by your brother-in-law. Good luck to you, my dear friend.
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
26 Nov 08
he is not in his right mind!!.. I don't understand why he has that attitude. A person who is in the right sense will not do that to his own brother?
@anetteh (3591)
• Sweden
21 Nov 08
Get them out of your house. No matter a relative or not. That is not a god behavior since you both have been nice to help, but only get nothing back but rubbish. I would not tolorate this behavior in my home. You and your hubby should tell them to drop out and live you alone, atleast for some time. I woul like to say more, but I chose not to.....as I am pissed of with people behaving in this bad maner.
@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
26 Nov 08
You are right!!! I agree with you. We let them leave.. and find a place for them to stay. I don't want to see them again.
• United States
21 Nov 08
Sounds like you need to get those two out of your house. Team with your hubby, he is your partner in this. I know that people need help getting on their feet but after that they need to get out and on their own. It sounds like the devil is trying to bust up your marriage, I wouldn't give him the satisfaction. Talk with your hubby and determine when they are moving out and stick to it. Be strong and good luck.
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
21 Nov 08
They are gone, we let them moved out and tell them mot to see us again. They are so ungrateful pigs!!!.
@sudalunts (5527)
• United States
21 Nov 08
Why couldn't he go back to where ever he was living before the operation? Where was his girfriend living while he was in the hospital? Strange that they had a place to live before the operation, but anyway, I would get them out of my house as fast as possible. He is ungrateful and seems to want to cause a problem with the person that is helping him. I would tell my husband that they have to go ASAP. Dont't worry about any smut he will try to tell your family, as long as you know the truth that is all that matters. GET HIM OUT OF YOU HOUSE, and forget about both of them.
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
21 Nov 08
They are already gone. But there was a big fight before they moved out. They decided to stay with us because he can't work and they have no money to pay the rent for that previous place they had stayed. and now they are living with another relative. they are pests.. I tell you.
@Couch08 (36)
• United States
21 Nov 08
I am sorry to hear about it and may you resolve this problem before it gets worst. And yes it is good to put this into paper so thinking might happened to your husband he will be called.
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
21 Nov 08
They are gone now. We don't want them to see us anymore or else we will let them be arrested. Threatening somebody to be killed is a good reason for us to call the police when they come back to wee us.
• Philippines
21 Nov 08
That's so mean of them! After all you've done for them, they did those to you guys? My goodness. They should have given back what help you've given to them. It's so sad to think that the one doing that to your family is the brother of your husband. How pathetic that he has the guts to threaten his brother who helped him all the way he can. I think it's time to let them go out of your house. They've used too much of you. They're parasites who cannot live on their own, who depend on others yet harm them. Even if he's your husband's brother, you still have the right to send them off your house. It's your house. Even if they sue you, they won't win against you. They can't. They don't have money at all to feed themselves anyway. I guess you need to know what problem has been occuring to your bro-in-law's thinking. Good luck and God bless!
@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
21 Nov 08
We've decided to let them moved out and they did. We have the right to do this because they are abusing our kindness. We told them not to see us again. If they do, we will call the police and arrest them..
• India
21 Nov 08
Allowing him to live with you was a big mistake. Now that he is fine and able to earn his own living, ask him to leave. If he doesn't, take legal help. He has no right to treat you like this. Cheers and happy mylotting
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
21 Nov 08
I agree with you. It is a big mistake to let them live with us. It's just our act of helping that turns the event like this. But they are gone now.
@missybear (11396)
• United States
21 Nov 08
You should definitely tell them they have to get out, even if you have to envaulve the police. That's no way to live and they give you no money. Sorry but they have to go. Good luck.
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
21 Nov 08
They are already gone by now. We told them, we don't want to see their face anymore. If hey will come back, they will really see what will happen.
@checapricorn (16072)
• United States
21 Nov 08
[i]Hi Bebs, I'm sorry to hear about this, that is very bad! Imagine for everything that you both did to both of them, financial help and all, he is acting that way, Maybe he is just very depressed, I believed it is better to report him to the police because he is treating already and who knows how serious he is since he is depressed and losser! I will not be comfortable having that type of people in our house, the gf has to find a job so that they can afford to rent an apartment and feed themselves! Be careful and do not trust him! Ask your hubby to be extra careful also, it's hard to argue with losser and depressed![/i]
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
21 Nov 08
Hi Che, You are exactly right. There's no use arguing with a nut case, because they don't listen to anybody. They are always right in their own thinking. They were all gone, We told them not to come back anymore. If they do, we will call the police.
@salonga (27969)
• Philippines
21 Nov 08
My goodness that troublesome fellow is a big pain in your neck! How the hell he could be that stupid to accuse and threaten your innocent husband and trouble you like that despite all the good things done to him! He must have gone out of his head! You really have to do some precautions my dear! He could do anything against your family at any one time so you should be very careful. Yes you should go and blotter and if there could be any other legal action better do it to teach him good lessons. You can ask some legal advice from your lawyer regarding this. Hope everything will be alright in your home soon.
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
21 Nov 08
Everything is alright now since they moved away. They are truly pests. That guy left his wife and kids for that young woman he lived in today. He is not in his right mind maybe because of the sin he has done. God had made him insane. Doing that bad thing to his own brother? he is a nut. Surely, We will have him arrested if he will do something against us the second time around.