Can you possibly go through life with not one single regret?

@Humbug25 (12551)
November 22, 2008 1:27pm CST
My dad has always told me that he regrets nothing in life, nothing at all. He says 'What is the point of thinking about the what if's , you are only beating yourself up' and 'At the time you made that decission it was right the right one'. I think I have a few regrets. I regret marrying the man that I did but then I think to myself that if I didn't then I wouldn't have the great kids I have got now and they are not great because of him let me assure you of that! LOL. I think I could have married someone else and still had great kids! I still think that I have other regrets in life though. How about you? Do you regret some decissions that you have made in life? Is there nothing you regret?
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
22 Nov 08
Your dad is indeed a very wise man my friend and he is absolutely right, how do we know that a decision we made which we deem as bad now, could have been the better decision, we never know what the outcome of the other decision would have been, does that make sense? There are two paths, we choose the right one and end up with a bad relationship but what if we chose the left path that could have lead to something more harmful and sinister to our lives! There is no way of knowing. Have you ever watched the film Sliding Doors with Gwyneth Paltrow? If you haven't I strongly recommend it as it is very relevant to your discussion. A wise friend once told me out of bad comes good and that is true, every negative situation in our lives has a positive, although at the time it is very difficult to see the positive, but given time the positive will be much more clearer!
@Humbug25 (12551)
22 Nov 08
Hi wolfie34 You always makes sense my friend!! Yes I have seen sliding doors, very good film indeed I thought and relavent to the discussion, yes! Thanks for your response
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
22 Nov 08
Wolfie my sweet, read my comment. and who is your wise friend?? eh?? lol
@aidenw (632)
• United States
22 Nov 08
hi humbug25, i can't say my life has been without one single regret. there were instances that i turned left where i should have turned right, and no i'm not talking about driving but making major decisions in life such as choosing a career and a religion. i can say those are the major things i regret without going into details. there are other minor ones however, your dad made great points. we should not keep regretting those things and beating ourselves up because we can't turn back time. all we can do is move forward and in so doing chances are we will find better things in life and perhaps even rectify the mistakes of the past. over the years i have learned to believe that the best day is always ahead of me.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
22 Nov 08
Hi aidenw long time no see, how ya doin'? Well I hope. I like very much what you have said it makes total sense and this is why I don't dwell on the errors of the past!! Thanks for your response
@aidenw (632)
• United States
22 Nov 08
hi humbug, i'm doing fine. i've been busy with different things and have not been able to spend very much time on mylot. but i do check in every once in a while like today :) have a great weekend!
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@Humbug25 (12551)
23 Nov 08
Well I am glad to see you are still around anyway and with a new avatar to boot!!
@ronaldinu (12440)
• Malta
28 Nov 08
J'e ne regrette rien! Oh that is a nice saying! I bet I have a few regrets that I have not mentioned here. And to be honest I am not so daring to expose my dirty lining in public.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
28 Nov 08
Hey there ronaldinu I think that you are working to hard and those darn kids at school are getting to you because I have had a response from you already but it is always nice to hear from you! Thanks
@ronaldinu (12440)
• Malta
29 Nov 08
Hhahah yes I noticed that as soon as I posted it! I guess I did it again! I am having a tough period at work. I have you on my notify list so that every post you start, I am able to answer it. It seems I have not deleted the notification after that I have answered it. Thanks for the br award.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
22 Nov 08
I can completely understand and agree with your dad. There are things that i wouldn't do again, but I cannot regret them. They were all part of my education, a learning experience Humbug. Hopefully I have learned from my whoopsies, but I don't regret them particularly. I apologise for my mistakes and try not to repeat them, but they benefit me in the long term and have helped shape the half-wit that I am today!!
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@Humbug25 (12551)
22 Nov 08
Hi ya p1kef1sh I alays say that learning by your mistakes is the hardest way to learn but it is also the best way of learning! Thanks p1key
@p1kef1sh (45640)
22 Nov 08
Very true Humbug.
• China
29 Nov 08
that sounds right ,but when we meet that maybe we can do it .sometime i will make a decission random.but after it maybe i will think why i have do that bad thing .so we can avoid to reget to do something ,but what we can do is :before make a decission think more .
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@Humbug25 (12551)
29 Nov 08
Hello Iyy284891086 Thanks a lot for your response
@riyasam (16578)
• India
28 Nov 08
i do agree with your father.i am a sort of optimist.there was a time i used to find fault with everything and anything,now i see the good in every situation,my life has changed for the better.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
28 Nov 08
Hi riyasam I am glad to hear that my friend. Thanks for your reponse
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
25 Nov 08
yes i do have many regrets of my own..i keep it just for myself and never let it bother me for more than a day...sometimes i think of the decisions that i have made in the past and what a miserable life i am having right now but then i just look at the bright side of things so that i can gather positive energy into my life.
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@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
25 Nov 08
I made a lot of mistakes in the past and I do have some regrets. I even told myself sometimes that if I only I do it, I might be like this and like that today. Regrets came out during our sad times and when we are feeling down. When I am in a happy mood, or when I received another blessing from God, all the regrets that I had will vanished. I only think how lucky I am because God gave me this and that. As for now, I never regretted marrying my husband although we are in a long distance relationship right now. It's really hard to be far away from him. But I'll be strong.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
25 Nov 08
Hi there aisaellis I think you are right that we don't think about our regrets really until we are down and feeling sad. Thankfully I don't have many of those times at all. Thanks for your response
@Scotlass (51)
• United States
23 Nov 08
I think we all have times where we wonder "what if", however, I don't know if regret is the correct term to use. Everything that happens in our lives happens for some reason - I believe - and things that we may look back upon and wish to change, are usually the things that made us grow as people and become who we are today. As time passes, we tend to forget the intricate reasons we made the choices we did at the time and, if the decision was correct at the time, there was a good reason for making it and it should still stand today. Be thankful for the blessings you have today and look to tomorrow, dwelling in the past does not make for a happy future.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
23 Nov 08
Hi there Scotlass and welcome to myLot I agree that nobody is gong to achieve anything by dwelling on the past and he future is only place to go! Thanks for your response
@alindahaw (1219)
• Philippines
23 Nov 08
I don't think that people can go through life without regreting any of the things that they said or done in the past. Human as we are, we are bound to make mistakes that we regret later on. I for one have my own share of regrets. I think the question here is not whether or not we have regrets but rather how we live with our regrets and move on.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
23 Nov 08
Hello alindahaw That's exacatly it isn't it? Accept that you did something or said something you regret and get over it! Thanks for your response
@ronaldinu (12440)
• Malta
23 Nov 08
Humbug your post is really interesting. Sometimes I do regret taking the teaching profession. I wish that I have taken another profession which I could have earned more money with. However I do look forward and keep moving on. It is no use crying over spilt milk.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
23 Nov 08
Hi ya ronaldinu Thanks for the compliment. Don't you find your job rewarding? Sometimes you have more to gain from a decission made, mentally or even physically rather than financially. Thanks for your response
@xlinzixx (511)
23 Nov 08
i tihnk you can only go through life not regretting things if you do absolutely everything you want to do in life it is possible i have a couple of regrets in life but nothing major.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
23 Nov 08
Hi there zlinzixx Oh I don't think that the things that I regret are anything to write home about and they are not things I would waste my life dwelling about either!! thanks for your response
• United States
23 Nov 08
I dont believe in regrets because you either make a mistake or you dont. Regrets are over-rated because people know what they are doing when they make mistakes its just the lack of not caring.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
23 Nov 08
Hi there britthearts and welcome to myLot Harsh words that maybe right. I don't think it would be down to lack of caring maybe more like naivety. Many thanks for your response
23 Nov 08
I think that regret is one thing that drives the human body. I think that it contributes greatly towards the "LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKE" phrase.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
23 Nov 08
Hi dezmistro and welcome to myLot I think you are right but I would rather not make the mistakes in the first place LOL Thanks fo ryour response
@subha12 (18453)
• India
23 Nov 08
It is very unusual I must say. whatever may be, how diplomatic we may be, there are bound to be regrets.some people try to be happy always. i have seen my mom like this. But she also regrets something in life.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
23 Nov 08
Hi there subha12 I used to think that my dad was a liar because nobody could possibly go through life with out one single regret. I am sure everybody has at least one regret but they just don't ever give a thought and dwell on it at all. Thanks for your response
@amanda333 (739)
• France
22 Nov 08
I think we all look back at life and think...what if. We shouldn't really regret things we've done in life because its had a knock on effect to other things, we should look forward to our future and new beginnings, i believe that God will take us to the right path.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
23 Nov 08
Hi ya amanda333 I always try to look to the future but sometimes the past has a habit of catching you up and biting you on the bum LOL hahaha Thanks for your response
• United States
22 Nov 08
It's an interesting question, humbug, and I think that it all depends on how you feel and your attitude and personality and general outlook on life. I know I have done things that might not have been so wise in the past, both personally and professionally at work, but I don't regret them. I think that you learn from your mistakes and you learn from your lessons. When you think about it, if we are not allowed to have mistakes in life and regretable periods in our past, how will we learn and grow? Just some thoughts...
@Humbug25 (12551)
23 Nov 08
Hitheredxfanatic69 ... and some valid thoughts they are too. Thanks for your response
• United States
22 Nov 08
I feel that people can go through life with no regrets. And that doesn't make you a heartless person. I know people that have never been married and they're happier than a lot of miserable married people. Or people who didn't go to college but are happier than people than people who went to college, got good jobs, but its a job that they hate.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
23 Nov 08
Hi ShortyAkbar and welcome to myLot There will always be people that have been faced with these sort of dilemas but as long as we are happy and healthy there is not too much to regret in life. Thanks for your response
@scorpio19 (1363)
22 Nov 08
Hiya Humbug, Regrets are a double edge sword like you have pointed out, if you had never married the man you did then you wouldn't have the kids you have now, so no I can honestly say I have no regrets well none that I can think of because all my life good or bad have made me what I am today.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
23 Nov 08
Hi ya scorpio That is good that you have no regrets that you can think of! Thanks for your response
@apples99 (6564)
• United States
22 Nov 08
I well honestly I think everyone has some sort of regret or had experienced something that they wish had been different, but we cant dwell on our past mistakes we can only learn from them and move on, I have been through a lot but I choose not to live in the past but instead look to the future and I just try and accept and learn from my mistakes rather then live my life in regret because we cant change the past, we dont get to do anything over.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
23 Nov 08
Hi ya apples99 True apples, very true! Thanks for your response