I lost an uncle on Firiday and....

United States
November 24, 2008 10:37pm CST
I really don't feel anything except worry for my dad- it was his last immediate family member and now he is gone. My dad and his brother had drifted apart over the last 15 years (they have talked on the phone and of course my uncle called if he needed something, but that's pretty much it) and I haven't seen him since I was 13 except one time and I am ok with that. My whole point to this is- am I wrong to only feel for my dad and not the loss of my uncle? Thanks in advance and I look forward to your thoughts!
2 responses
@shooie (4989)
• United States
25 Nov 08
No not really. It's not that you hated him or anything you are just in different. He wasn't there for you or around for you to really get to know and to develope feelings for him. We all have family like that. Love them because they are family. Be there for your dad.
• United States
25 Nov 08
Thank you so much for taking the time to respond- it's something that I needed to hear and I needed to hear it from someone outside my family. I am indifferent and I think that is the word I have been searching for the last couple of days but I just couldn't get there. Thanks again.
@kalav56 (11503)
• India
13 Dec 08
I do not think you a re wrong.He may have been your uncle but you were not really familiar with him.it would just have been a lot of hearsay for you and your sympathy would only be with your dad.Even if it were your own grandparents, the feeling you have for your dad would be much greater than your personal sense of loss, moreso, when you are not really close to them. It is natural.