Should you have to pay family for babysitting?

@SomeCowgirl (32266)
United States
November 26, 2008 12:41am CST
Do you pay your family to babysit for you? Should you have to? I'm not talking about the occasional sitter but a every week atleast twice a week thing. Should you decide how much to pay, or should they decide how much to be paid? If your letting them use your utensils for free, your house, should they be paid? Would it matter how much you paid a certain family member? What if they were using your vehicle AND you were supplying it with gas? Would you request they stay at your home while sitting? My sister has two kids, and her and her husband work. She pays my cousin to babysit her kids, but my sister has been saying she can't pay my cousin as much (this is what she tells my grandmother). Well, My cousin also uses my sister's car and my sister and husband supply it with gas. Now where I understand one should be paid for services rendered, I also think that my cousin should stay at my sister's home while sitting and use the car only for certain things such as picking my nephew up from school. If I were to sit at my sister's house I would be happy with being allowed to use her house while she was at work, and I would also be able to get online to earn money. Maybe it's because she's my sister, but .... well what would you do? I would babysit, and have told my grandmother I would, but I don't live in the same county as my sister and we don't have our own vehicle either. I would , however, stay at my sister's while sitting or not request a payment but would want her to pay for the gas. If I did not request a payment I would ask if we could come home to be a sitter. I suppose in a way I would be doing exactly as my cousin except worse as my fiance and I live in a different county, 20 minutes away from my sister. My fiance just said he would just so he could drive my sister's mustang... lol... So now what's your opinion?
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@spoiled311 (5502)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
hi somecowgirl! well, if i were to ask someone to babysit my baby, even if she is a relative, then i will pay here something for her efforts. if she offered, then maybe i can just give a gift. i just think that people should be compensated for work done. it could be that they also need the money. that is the reason why some people don't like to work with relatives. they don't get paid. it is not really wanting money more than helping. but sometimes, they also really need it and some people are inconsiderate to abuse their relatives' efforts. i don't like that. if my relative does not really want to receive the payment because she wants to do it from her heart, then good for her and for me. i will really thank her. but at least i offered, in case she needed it. good day and God bless you!
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@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
26 Nov 08
Well I agree that a relative should be paid, but I also think that when it comes to the grandparents of the child that while they shouldn't be unappreciated for their efforts, they are the grandparents and should understand that the parents don't have or need the money they do have... When it comes to something like that a nice little gift , like you said, works. I think that abusing the efforts of the relatives is in relevance to the relatives also asking for the money. I would be more apt to give money to someone who didn't ask then for someone who did... even though I might understand why they asked. I guess it's just psychology there.
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• Indonesia
26 Nov 08
Children give a family a live. they can make everyone happy because of them. Because you must have work and can't handle both, so your family is the first choice to help to take care the children, just imagine how much money did you spend if use a nanny? it should be wise pay our family, nothing to lose
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@sid556 (31003)
• United States
31 Dec 08
Normally, I would think that relatives should get paid for sitting...the bonus would be that you trust them. In what you describe however, the situation is a bit different. If they are letting her use their vehicle and if she is using it for her personal use, then her pay should be reduced accordingly. There is much responsibility in babysitting and family or not...they deserve the pay...they more than likely earn it. I figure if I had a sitter come to my home, I'd be paying them to be there for my kids...I would not expect they'd be taking advantage of my internet,phone, car, cupboards etc. I would not supply those things for their personal use.... those things would be considered "benefits" so to speak.
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@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
31 Dec 08
I agree with you on the pay should be reduced, but that is they deserve to be paid. Your right in saying that family deserves to get paid because in most situations they are the most trustworthy with the kids and work the hardest. I also like your idea of "benefits" and I think I know what you mean by it as well. I appreciate the response.
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@hellcowboy (7383)
• United States
27 Nov 08
This is a really good question baby and I am sure there are a lot of people out there who have children and have very busy schedules such as long hours at wherever they work,and they have to get someone to babysit,and I am sure there are a lot of people who turn to their family members to babysit because they trust them more than strangers and other people,and I am sure that there are people who pay their family members to babysit,and then I am sure there are people who get their family members to babysit but do not pay them because they are family,or because they do not have the money to pay them,and then I am sure there are people who refuse to have family members babysit and would rather hire a stranger to babysit,and spend extra money on a babysitter,and of course we do not have kids yet,but when we do have kids I am sure we will get family members to babysit,and I think that would should compensate them for their time they are using to babysit,but how they are compensated would depend on who it is,if it is my parents then would could give them some money to help with the bills,or buy food for the house,if it is someone like uncle Rickey we could we could buy him a video game or something else he could use like maybe put some gas in his car,and I guess if we had them doing it as an every week thing would ask them what they want for compensation even though most of them would say nothing,and that is when we would decide what to do for them,or how much to pay them,if they were staying at our home and using our home,our utensils then I would think we should not pay them because they would have comfort while they are babysitting,even though we could give them some gas money depending on how far they have to drive to get to our house,and if we were supplying them with a vehicle and paying for the gas then that would be a good way to help them for helping us by babysitting and we would probably ask them to stay at our home,depending on who it is,and I know your sister has two kids,and that her and her husband both work,and that they have been paying your cousin to babysit,but your sister told your grandmother that she can not afford to pay your cousin,and that your cousin has been using your sisters car and that her husband puts gas in it,and I agree your cousin should stay at your sisters home to babysit,and only use the car,for things such as picking up your nephew at school,and that people should be compensated for services rendered but it sounds like your cousin has been using your sister for a free ride and money since she does not have a job,and does not seem to look for a job,and I know if you were to babysit you would be happy with getting to use your sisters home while she is at work,and we would be able to access a computer so we would still be able to make money on mylot,and I know we do not live in the same county,and I know we would want your sister to pay for the gas since it is a twenty minute drive to their house,and I know we would like to come home to babysit because we live in the country so it is safe here,and they would still be able to play,and I would love if your sister let us babysit,and let me drive her mustang because then I could make Rickey jealous because I would be driving a mustang and he would not be just like it would be fun to rub it in Matt's face since he likes to brag a lot.
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@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
27 Nov 08
I am glad that you agree with me. Your compensation ideas are great though, and I know that we would most likely do that to compensate our friends and family for their time. I love you.
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• Indonesia
26 Nov 08
I Think everybody in our family very happy if there children among them, because we have a job to do so can't be around the children for 24 hour. There for my family is glad to help me to take care the child. Just imagine how much we pay for a nanny to take care our children? is wise to pay our family.
@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
26 Nov 08
I don't think that all family members ought to be paid, and if they are paid they should not take advantage of their family. If they are welcomed to your home and are allowed to use your vehicle and your other utensils then why should you also compensate them for their services? I understand that nanny's that are not associated with the family should be paid, however, if the family member also knows that the economy is bad and that you yourself need the money then why should they ask for money?
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• Canada
26 Nov 08
I think it depends on the family member. When my parents or my in-laws babysit I dont pay them...ever! Families are supposed to help each other out. Granted they dont babysit twice a week either. I am 10 and 12 years older than my little brothers. When I was 10 I was babysitting a newborn so my parents could work and they never once paid me for it. I remember sitting in the window watching my friends play outside while I was stuck in the house watching my little brothers. So now they return the favour and watch my kids like I did theirs when I was young. But when my brothers come over to babysit I always throw them a couple bucks because they are 14 and 16 and I know they would rather be hanging out with friends so I show my appreciation by giving them a little spending money. But for her to be using the house and cars all the time definately should count for something. She shouldnt be paying her much to watch your nephew, and if she does than the babysitter should atleased be filling up the car for the gas she has used. A little bit of common courtisy never hurt anyone!
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@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
26 Nov 08
My niece, I know I didn't actually say niece.. lol. I agree that when it comes to inlaws and parents and great grandparents, they aren't paid... It's their grandchildren. Not that they shouldn't be, but well, you know what I'm getting at, right? Well I like your idea of common courtesy, she does use the car and thus should be paying for the gas, atleast a little... maybe for the non planned trips, or the non agreed upon trips? I'm not sure if my sister really liked that my cousin was taking my sister's kids back to her house... Giving the younger ones a bit of spending money is great, I agree... they are taking time out of their day to come babysit...
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@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
26 Nov 08
let me reiterate.. my neice too... lol..
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• United States
2 Jan 09
I think it would all depend on the situation. I don't think there is anything wrong with paying a family member for babysitting. As for all the other questions you asked I would have to take each situation and figure it from there.
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@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Okay. I appreciate the response.