Being a young single mother

Why didn't you pursue him and sue him? Such guys shoud be taken totask. They do it because they can get away with it. They need to be taught a lesson. how many girls have been left in the lurch like this. Why do girls get fooled by such unsrcruplus boys? they are cowards. If he has done it once and gotten away, he will do it again.

Well i had to write this as a comment to your comment. lol.... sorry. i dont know what im doing on here yet, but im sure i will figure it out eventually! lol. I thank everyone for all their kind thoughts and discussions. I guess I should be more descriptive.... His first child he had when he was 16 and her mother didnt want him around (which this part is true because i do talk to her). We worked together for a few months and we rarely talked, he ended up getting my phone number from my sister (she also worked at the store we worked at). He called me one day and I was shocked.... we began talking all the time and he would have me talk to his son a few times as well on the phone. at this point he was with the mother of his 2nd child. At work we would go on breaks together and just hang out he began telling me how things were getting harder with his son's mother and she was growing distant... he was asking me for advice, and I had told him he just needed to discuss it with her and try to work things out. about a month later he was upset on break and he told me she told him that she didnt love him anymore and that he needed to find a new place to live. I was his friend so I offered to help him find a place while he stayed at a friends house. after a few weeks we began getting closer and eventually being a couple. We ended up getting an apartment together across the street from where we worked... everything was fine. we had his son quiet a bit because his ex always seemed to be drunk and asked me to come pick him up a few times while nathan (the father of our children) was at work. About 4 months later is when we found out I was pregnant. He was so excited and as i said he called everyone in his family to let them know. well, as i said he ended up leaving me when I was 2 months pregnant to go back to his ex (mother of his son). She played just as many games as he did with me because she felt as thought I stole him away from her, which I never did.... I made sure they were broken up before we got together. We tried going to court and the attorney said that he was able to get joint custody even after he told them he didnt care about her and after i told them he wanted me to get an abortion... i didn't think it was fair for him to get any custody of her and it scared me so we dropped court... yet we still kind of kept in touch. he saw her for the first time when she was 3 months old... i let him have her over for a few hours while i went to a friends house and when it was time to bring her home he threatened to not give her back to me, so I had to go over there and take her and told him that I was going to be there everytime he saw her from then on and he said that I was being crazy and my emotions were getting in the way. blah blah blah.... well he didnt really see her very much after that (maybe 3 times) and then i got a call from jamie (his 2nd childs mother) and she told me that he left her for her cousin and they ran to washington (we live in colorado). ever since then me and jamie have actually gotten pretty close... i could actually consider her a friend. we try to get the kids together (Jayden who is 6 and Armoni my daughter who is 16 months) as often as we can. she is going to help me with child support... going and getting everything filed and such, she is going to do it for herself also. I honestly dont know why i fell for his lies..... i should of seen right through it, but honestly he is a really good player. he has done this many of times and knows exactly what to say. its disgusting. But I am happy that I have my daughter and I know its going to be rough but she is my world and I dont know what i would do without her. she is my rock and she makes me so much stronger than i used to be or ever would be without her. I dont regret the things that have happened because i got the most precious greatest gift out of the whole thing. He is missing out, and he will realize it one day, but it is already too late. he has hurt his 3 children way to much already.

yes, and after seeing what he has done, i would have kicked his a$# too even though i am a man and it is sad that he caused so much damage and harm to his own children and partners. he does not deserve any pity and dun forgive him cos he is unlikely to change his behaviour if he comes back to you. You deserve someone better and you will find happiness for yourself and your daughter.

although this explanation is reduculous...i feel they are just imature to take resposibilities...my parents always tot me that never take anybody seriously dat much easily...especialy when u building relationship..take ur own time..1 year 2 year before getting serious..wtch if ur relationship sustain in up n down..guys those are mature and are ready 4 commitment know how to handle situation these up n downs...make sure u urself and ur guy is ready 4 relationship before taking serious steps like marriage and children