How do I start a Bed Time?

United States
December 1, 2008 10:22am CST
I have been struggling to get my son on a bed time. He starts school next year and I want him to be used to a schedule. It is so hard to do, he just isn't tired. He hasn't had naps since he was 2 or 3 and he wakes up early and falls a sleep late. Does anyone have any help they can give me on how to start a bed time schedule for a 5 year old who seems to never be tired.. Thank you I much appreciate any help..
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• United States
1 Dec 08
i had the same problem i let my daughter stay up and then came the time for her to start schol so what i did was bout 4 weeks before school started i made her go to bed at 8 and i let her have tv time in her room for 30 min . i would let her wtch tv and set the timmer for 30 min and when the timer went off she would go to sleep nad i would gradually go from 30 to 20 and so on . now when she goes to bed she is asleep within 15 min and i get her up at 630. and when school started she was ready ... it worked for me i hope this helps
• United States
1 Dec 08
Thank you that is a good idea, I never thought of setting the sleep timer on the TV.. I have been saying to him that if hes not asleep in 10 minutes then I am coming in and taking the TV and that is kind of working... I just need to get him in the Bed by nine and play that trick...lol.. I think I will get some lavender lotion I hear that really works to making the child tired, at least it worked when he was a baby... Thank you so much
@jessi0887 (2788)
• United States
1 Dec 08
I like that idea. I may use that as my son gets older. This is a great discussion topic to start.
• Malaysia
2 Dec 08
i like this topic bcoz i must go to work and send my daughter to babysitter..so i must teach her go to bed early..that very difficult but i done..! its very simple..let her play and make sure her stomachache full with food..and the result is success..just try it but make sure if her crying to sleep before the time, dont ever you follow her..let her be..ok..
• United States
2 Dec 08
I think that is the hardest thing for me, when he cries I want to sooth him and I know you are not suppost to if you want it to work...thank you so much for responding
@Bytemi (1553)
• United States
2 Dec 08
My daughter and I have a routine. She takes a shower after dinner. Watches Max and Ruby on Noggin. Then we read two books together, play rock paper sissors. Then hugs and kisses and off to sleep. At first she would cry and scream but I just left her alone and she would go to sleep eventually (don't go in and check on him, he is fine). There was only one bad night and then she got use to the routine and the bedtime.
• United States
2 Dec 08
wow sounds like you really have it down.. Last night I told him to go to bed, I tucked him in as always and I said I am coming in in 10 minutes and if you are not a sleep I am taking the TV... it took a little longer than 10 minutes but it seemed to work..
@Sillychick (3275)
• United States
2 Dec 08
Set a routine so that you do the same things, in the same order, at the same time every night. For at least 30 minutes before bedtime, quiet activities only, nothing too stimulating like TV or video games. Once he gets used to the routine and knows what to expect, he will start to wind down and associate those things with bedtime. The routine should include things like brushing teeth, putting on pajamas and reading a story. Set the bedtime close to the time he is used to going to bed now, and gradually make it earlier as he gets used to it. You can't make him sleep, but you can set the rule that he has to stay in bed. You could be flexible with it, like allowing him to read, or look at books in bed for a little while before lights out. Be patient-- and consistent-- and he will get there. Just remember to keep the routine soothing and pleasant, so he thinks of bedtime as a positive experience.
• United States
2 Dec 08
Thank you very much for responding
@jessi0887 (2788)
• United States
1 Dec 08
You have to enforce it. My son is about to be two. This is how i go. Dinner time around six. Bathtime around 7 to 8. Snack time around 8 to 8:30. Lights start going out after snack time. I put his lullaby's on by 9 and pretend to go to sleep. I usually fall asleep right after him. He lays down and goes to sleep. If you let them play around and snack on sweets and don't enforce it its not going to happen. NO sweet or caffeine after four is what i do. Around an hour before bed time try helping wind down by only allowing lite play or cartoons. Bedtime put him to bed in the dark or lay with him untill he falls asleep. Don't be to easy on him are it won't happen.
• United States
1 Dec 08
I think that is my problem, I am too easy, and even my hubby realizes it but I can't help it he's my one and only... But that is a good idea, I think I may start doing some of those ideas.. I want to try for a 9pm bedtime since it is around 10 or later now... Thank you so much for responding.