Sometimes I feel like all the relations we are haivng are all fake*************.

@maapav (730)
India
December 2, 2008 9:48pm CST
I feel that everyone are having relations only for their own sake and true relationships are not existing in these days.What do you say? What is the relationship which you have is real?
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@Ithink (10673)
• United States
3 Dec 08
I say that Im in a true relationship with not only my husband of 25 years of marriage (together 26) but my relationship with my children, grandchildren and friends are true and real too. I dont have time for fake relationships, in fact Im one of those people that if I dont like you I wont spend time on you. Time is precious and I spend it with those that I love. I cant imagine not having my husband, family and friends in my life. They are so important to me and I love them. To me relationships are give and take. Sometimes they give more and other times I give more. That is what relationships are about, give and take. Like I said I cant imagine my life without certain people but that isnt because of being selfish or just for my own sake. I know they feel the same about me and that is what love and relationships are about. Being there and helping each other.
• United States
3 Dec 08
My marriage to my wife of 22 years is a real relationship. While I can imagine a life without her, I prefer to have my life with her. My relationships with my daughters, grandchildren, brothers, in-laws, and other family is just as real. I prefer a life with them a part of it. A relationship only for my own sake? Probably those of acquaintances that have yet developed into true friendships. Also, that relationship with my employer, where I try to be and meet their expectations so I recieve my compensation (paycheck).
@rosdimy (3936)
• Malaysia
3 Dec 08
In my opinion all the relationships we are having are not fake. The way I see it for a relationship to happen there has to be something in both sides that allow the relationship to bind. It is this point which should be looked at. A close relationship can form and remain true without any true love. Lust, money, status and loneliness can be motivational factors. I am married. Though not happily so my relationship with her has lasted 27 years (so far). She was deeply in love with someone else before we met and this coloured our relationship. - rosdimy -
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
3 Dec 08
well situations vary so we do not know which is real or not..for me personally i know it is real, i know my husband and he does to know me..i had been in relationships which i know is fake and there is just a big difference..maybe you have not met the right person for you to be real with..and if you are referring with friends there are barely real friends for me...there are fake ones but lucky for me i easily detect who are real and not..
@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
3 Dec 08
i am married for 6 years now, but before getting married we live-in together for 3-4 years. i can say that our relationship is real. when we are just dating we lay out all our cards. nothing to hide. all the past and the ugliest thing we had.so we started a very nice relationship. we talk a lot and never fail to talk before we sleep. we share almost everything there is. we have a two year old son and i can say that this is real. i hope you can find someone who is perfectly fit for you. your discussions reflects anger and pain. goodluck
@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
3 Dec 08
My relationship to my family are real... My relationship to my friends are real.. And my relationship to my boyfriend is real.. There's no "fake" in my relationship with them.. I guess someone had hurt you so much that's why you were saying those things.. For me true relationship means there's love, care, and respect with each other.. I love, care and respect all the members of my family, my boyfriend and my friends that's why we have a strong and happy relationship.. If there's someone who hurt you so bad it doesn't mean that all relationship are fake.. Maybe, he/she had hurt you but the relationship that you have are all true.. He/she might meant to hurt you or he/she never plan to hurt you but it just happen.. Everything has a purpose you only need to accept it and be strong for you to continue your life.. The relationship that are fake are those who don't have love, care and respect with each other since from the start.. You were treating each other as if you were not friends or you don't know each other.. In that case, I can say that your relationship are fake.. It's all lie...
@Reeta02 (136)
• United States
3 Dec 08
First, I am happily married, so I sincerely believe that my relationship is real. However, I agree with you that most people are selfish in their intentions. Most people want to take, take, take from relationships, but don't want to give, give, give, which is why a lot of relationships don't work. Everyone is out to "get theirs" and not worry about the next person. Marriage is not thought of to be as honorable as it used to be--most people are running away from that commitment. I haven't yet figured out why when men and women date, there is an "expectation" to have relations--as briefly as the second or third date! Maybe when we begin to respect ourselves and our relationships, the world will be a better place.