Any advice will be appreciated!

@tklich (391)
United States
December 4, 2008 10:59am CST
I'm kind of in a tough spot right now that involves me and my family. My husband got laid off (as has a LOT of people in todays world) in the middle of October and hasn't had any luck what so ever in finding a new job. The situation is starting to get the best of him and he's beginning to become a little depressed about it all. Up until then, I had been trying my hardest to set aside money in my savings - I currently work in a real estate office as part of the staff but would LOVE LOVE LOVE to get my real estate license. But I can't continue to stay employed with the company if I get my license, so I was trying to save up money to live off of until I got my career going. But that was all put on hold when my husband got laid off. Not to mention I just caught wind of some new information, that if it happens, will make the market boom and people will be buying homes like crazy, so I'd love to get in on the business at that point in time! The only good thing about my situation right now is that the longer I work in the office, the more knowledge I can pick up from other agents. I definitely don't want to jump into anything head first, but I just have a gut feeling that this is going to be a good thing for me. I've been praying that my husband finds work soon, it's getting tough trying to support our 2 kids and keep all the bills caught up. Have any of you lost your job or had a family member lost their job recently, and if so, how are you dealing with it? What changes have you had to make in your life? I'd like to be able to continue to set some money aside from each paycheck, but haven't been able to do so yet. If you have ANY advice for my situation I would love to consider anything you have to say. Thank you so much!
3 responses
@Volkus (202)
• Romania
4 Dec 08
I want to support you on what you're doing. Now, i can't be you, i can't understand very well your situation, but i know one thing - God helps us all! So, i advice you to go to church. Now, you're gonna say to me "I can be a good christian without going to church, i can prey inside my house". now, i must tell you this - your kids are going to school, because they are pupils, right? everybody has his place to go. So, the church is the place where you can feel the divine force. I assume you are catolic, since the majority in U.S.A are catolics. But, this doesn't matter that much. You can still go and prey, I'm not going to tell you that orthodoxy is better or something like that. Try to find a good church with devotated priests. As for the jobs, i can give you Thomas Edison's advice "I didn't fail, just my 10000 tries went wrong, i have to try again". I hope this helped you, my friend. Have a nice day!
@tklich (391)
• United States
4 Dec 08
Thank you for the response. I do go to church, and no I am not catholic. Why are you under the impression that the majority of people that reside within the US are catholic?? This is not true. But anyways, I believe that God has a reason for everything, and that everything happens for a reason. Things will happen when it's time for it to happen. I know that sometimes it's hard to understand why some things happen, and I know I will sometimes never know the reasonings behind some events that take place in my life. Thanks for the advice.
@Volkus (202)
• Romania
4 Dec 08
But what religion are you, then? Well, because all the things that i know for the religious aspect in U.S.A are related to catholics. Now, you prove me I'm wrong, and I also know that there are baptist, but i don't agree at all with mormons or Jehowa's Church. Can you, please, tell me, what are the religious communities from America? Protestants? But this doesn't mean that they are catholic? I'll wait for your response. Have a nice day!
@tklich (391)
• United States
5 Dec 08
I am personally Adventist. I just don't understand why you are under the belief that most of america is catholic? There are lots of other religions, Methodist, Lutheran, Eastern Orthodox, and Protestant. I actually believe that Protestant may make up the majority of the US, but who actually knows this for sure? I don't fully believe any one religion 100%, not even my own. I was born into the religion I am now. I believe in God, and I believe he has reasoning for everything that happens on earth.
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
4 Dec 08
Can you not have your real estate license at all or you cannot practice real estate while working there? I ask because I now someone who got her Realtor license while working as a receptionist at a real estate office. The Broker she worked for was fine with it. She just could not practice while holding the job. Maybe you could do that. If you can get the license and just sit on it for awhile I would do that. Then when your husband finds a job you can make the switch, but in the meantime you can still earn a paycheck and learn all you can about real estate.
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
4 Dec 08
Oh, and to answer the other part of your discussion. I have not recently lost a job, but my brother has. He lost his job about a month ago. He has been doing side jobs in order to make some money. He does it because he has to to pay his mortgage, but you can tell he is not really enjoying himself. He is feeling depressed and you can really tell when you speak to him. As for your husband, I would try to find little ways to boost his self esteem. I think the depression is mainly from a lack of self worth he has right now because he is unable to provide for his family the way he wants to and feels he should be.
@tklich (391)
• United States
4 Dec 08
Thank you for the response. I can't believe the shortageon jobs right now, it seems like everywhere you turn there are companies closing, people being laid off, there just aren't enough jobs to go around right now. And unfortunately no, I cannot have my license while employed with the office, it's a corporate policy. Maybe the smaller companies would be ok with it, but our company is nationwide. The only option I see right now is to continue to work and save money, then get my license when we are financially ready for me to quit my job and start my career. I don't see any point in quitting my job to get my license, then having to go pick up a part time job because that will only take away from building my career, and I will be making less money at the part time job than what I am at my full time job now.
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
5 Dec 08
That is a bummer. This was a Coldwell Banker office. Maybe each broker makes their own rules on it.
@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
4 Dec 08
times r really hard right now, I don't really have advice for you, but i'm sure what ur hubby is going through is tough especially since he's unable to support u guys. just keep his spirits up and let him know it's not just him it's everyone right now. Good Luck with everything.