Do you massage your children's feet?

December 7, 2008 1:22pm CST
I massage my son's feet - and he is well-behaved. What about you? Is this a sensible thing to do to naughty kids? Massaging the feet of unruly kids - looks like a reward for bad behaviour. Difficult to see how they are tacking the causes as they claim - the causes of course are poor parenting not just lack of affection.
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• United States
9 Dec 08
Keep doing that. There are suposed to be certian pressure points of the feet to stop headaches, or other symptoms of stress, so I say if it helps do it. The teach early on massage is good for infants, why should it stop at a child age. It's mothers love and touch that shows the love for the child. Research it and let me know what you come up with. There is a site that pays for searching, and i use it not for cash but for prises, and I only use it for usefull searches. Its called search perks. I have found very good information on child issues.
@srganesh (6349)
• India
8 Dec 08
I have also massaged my 4 year old son's feet,because I know how it is wonderful to have a massage there after a day long hard work.And I like my son to have it at bedtime to get him into sleep comfortably.There is no idea of poor parenting rising there.We are not surrendering ourselves to the naughty boy.Instead,it is pure love to massage him.
@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
8 Dec 08
I massages my 2 year old's back, legs, and arms almost every night... and she likes it very much... mainly because she likes being tickled... but then it is also a form or relaxation for her after a whole day of playing endlessly... i don't think it can be viewed as a reward for bad behaviour... since other punishments such as time out can be given when the child misbehaves...
@Raven7317 (693)
• United States
7 Dec 08
I massage my son's entire body! This started when he was just two months old as part of his 'getting ready for bed' routine. After his bath, I massage him with lotion to keep his skin moist, to connect with him, to talk to him. This continues on to this day and he's almost 3 1/2! It turned into a necessity because he developed eczema and now it's a way to help maintain the outbreaks. Seeing him and massaging him completely gives me the chance to examine boo-boos, tend to rashes and prevent his eczema from getting too uncomfortable. Also, I started this with the intention of having that little half-hour time with him, where we could be alone and discuss our day. If he was naughty, this is a good time to talk about it because we're both calm, we've had time to 'forgive and forget' so to speak. If we had a really good day, this is also a good time to reinforce the positive things that happened and to encourage the same for the next day. I guess, all in all, this massage session is a way to connect and bond with my baby and I don't see it as anything other than that. I certainly wouldn't with- hold our massage session if he was naughty, but I would delay it if he was being naughty at that specific time. For Ex: if he kicks me or refuses to lay down, I tell him, "when your ready to behave nicely, we can continue our "do easy." (that's what he calls it!)