I'm having a hard time...

United States
December 13, 2008 12:38pm CST
I am the one who controls the family finances in our home. On Fridays I pay whatever bills need to be paid that week, then I do my grocery shopping. I budget out enough money for gas and the few odds and ends we may need that week, and whatever is left is our spending cash. Well with Christmas upon us, I am supposed to be budgeting a bit of money for hubby to do his shopping. He's not quite finished, and keeps mentioning how much more money he needs in order to finish. The only person he is shopping for is me, and I don't know what he's getting. I've finished the shopping for everyone else. But he feels really badly that he doesn't have a lot of money to spend on me. I know that it's important to him, we both love giving gifts. We like giving gifts more than we like recieving them. And I know how badly I'd feel if I couldn't give him everything I wanted to. Actually I do feel that way because there's so much more I'd get him if I could afford to. But everytime we have any extra cash, I feel an overwhelming desire to go spend it on more gifts for him. I came very close today to going to the mall, to a clothing store that is going out of business. Hubby desperatly needs a winter coat, and I wanted to see if this store had any at a good price. Of course before I was able to leave hubby notified me that he'd be going shopping once he leaves work today, and asked how much he has to spend. This of course leaves me no money to play with. Are you having a difficult time leaving money for your husband to do his shopping? Are you having a hard time getting the funds for yourself to do shopping because someone else in the family controls the finances?
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@gemini_rose (16194)
14 Dec 08
I have been in that situation a lot of times and it is hard, my hubby earns the crust and I control it so it was always hard to give him money to spend on me. This year though I started the year by saving for christmas so this year I have been able to have money to give to him. Also I have set a certain amount for each of us to spend on the other so then it is fair on us both.
@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
13 Dec 08
My fiance and I don't really have any money to budget with so the only people we could buy for is ourselves, one of our friends, his parents and my mom of course. I wanted to spend so much more on him and he the same for me, so I think I know what you mean about wanting to give and not receive. It's so easy to get carried away, especially when you know the person needs it, but you also know that you need the money. When we do have more money to budget we'll probably share in budgeting.