If you saw a lesbian couple!!1

@j47lee (742)
Canada
December 14, 2008 1:16pm CST
I was working in a small family restaurant.. a lesbian couple comes in.. sits in the middle of the dining room.. and starts smooching away.... and u have other families with kids sitting in the dining room.... that is sooo awkward.. wat would u do in this situation..
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@sk66rc (4261)
• United States
14 Dec 08
I have been in that situation with my daughter few times... My daughter is 8 years old... Once in a mall restaurant, couple sitting 3 tables across starting making out... I moved... They were hetrosexual couple... When I took my girl friend & my daughter on vacation last year, the hotel we stayed in served breakfast... We went down to breakfast area & set in one of the tables... About 15 minutes later, couple came & set down few tables over... They were still in their pajamas... They started giggling & started making out... They were lesbian couple... We moved... Point here is, lesbian or not, everybody has the right be to at a public place... And I have to right as a parent not to expose my daughter to that type of situation, making out in the public, lesbian, gay or NOT... If you're a straight couple, have a little common courtesy to restrain from full fledged "make out" session in public... On a same token, if you're a gay couple or lesbian couple, have a little common courtesy to restrain from full fledged "make out" session in public... From what I see here, it's not about if you're lesbian or gay or straight... It's about considersation & courtesy in public regardless of what you are... Gay comunity is up in arms about having same rights... Well, guess what? You're right... You also have same responsibilities as straight people... Have a little courtesy & consideration when kids are around... Not just gay people but that goes for EVERYBODY!!!!!
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@mysdianait (64056)
• Italy
14 Dec 08
Oh so very well said!
• United States
14 Dec 08
normal and gay couples should have respect for children. restaurants arent a place to make out. a little peck maybe. everyone has the right to love.
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@sk66rc (4261)
• United States
15 Dec 08
Oh, by the way, this is after reading few other reponces in next 2 other pages... I just had to come back & say something... Above comment was directed towards general public, not one person in particular...
@ddillard (15)
• United States
14 Dec 08
I don't believe that their being lesbians should really even be a part of the discussion. I am a firm believer that anything that is acceptable for a heterosexual couple should be acceptable for anyone. I believe that the real question should be "If you saw a couple." I also think we need to define smooching. Where they completely making out or were there a few quick kisses here and there? There is a big difference between the two as for being acceptable.
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@aero89 (422)
• United States
14 Dec 08
After I threw up, I'd relocate away from my vomit, preferably to the manager. Nothing to do with lesbianism, just any kind of kissing in public, especially a restaurant, is disgusting and also juvenile. I'm guessing they were no older than 20-21 If my kids saw, I would definitely point out how gross and rude they were being. If they didn't, I would continue on with supper and hope the kids didn't turn around. Sometimes we have share our spaces with those who are less favorable (PDA jerks), and nothing we can do about it.
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@aero89 (422)
• United States
15 Dec 08
Yeah, I am a bit of a prude, as a matter of fact. I don't go around forcing the world to look at my sexuality.. sorry if you're offended by that. If I get the opportunity to show my kids how NOT to act in public, you can guaran-gddamn-tee I will. It's too bad that all you have to resort to is name calling, instead of making an actual point. Isn't it funny how liberals like yourselves love to claim about freedom and choice, but when it's my CHOICE to express my feelings, you "attack" me personally, which I think is typical and hilarious, btw... Let me say it another way: In a restaurant setting, it is inappropriate to kiss. That is, of course, unless someone is down on one knee and someone else is standing in front of them with a brand new engagement ring. There's always room for an exception. See, I'm not a total prude. Now, go learn some conversation skills (I'll give you a couple hints; you have to have a point or two to make, there's no name calling, no personal attacks, and no swearing) and come back another day.
@aero89 (422)
• United States
15 Dec 08
I tried deciphering the last paragraph and if I interpret the first sentence correctly, it's 'too bad that I see a level of rudeness that others don't'.. then the second sentence tells me 'we're all entitled to our views even if they're different'. If that's the case, then why did you come here and call me a prude, instead of accepting my view as mine and responding to it? You could have just as easily left your second paragraph (the one to morafunboy) out of the equation and it would have been fine by me. But for you to later claim that we're all entitled, after you 'attacked' (Is there a better word for 'calling someone a prude'?) me for my views, well that just makes me wonder... The word -hypocrisy- comes to mind..
@aero89 (422)
• United States
15 Dec 08
..dodging the fact that your comments are hypocritical, I see. I expected that. Glad I could give you a laugh though, I aim to please.
@tinam13 (840)
• United States
2 Apr 09
gay pride - homo rainbow
so are you against all public affection, or just the fact that they are a lesbian couple. why should they have to go around walking on eggshells to please everyone, when no one accepts them anyway. so does it honestly effect you or is it the fact that you can't accept others. this is not yours, nor anyone else's choice it's theirs. i'm sure noone criticizes you for being straight, because it's considered normal, so try to share the love and respect to everyone please.
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@rmuxagirl (7562)
• United States
4 Feb 09
I would politely ask them to not kiss in front of the other customers that it is company policy that NO ONE kisses in the establishment of more than maybe a peck on the cheek or forehead. You would ask other customers to do the same. Idk what else I would do.
• Australia
15 Dec 08
This would have been far better phrased as a couple - the lesbian bit makes it appear that you have a thing about gays, not about public affection, You don't do you? This really was just about inappropriate affection in public, wasn't it? Lash
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• United States
15 Dec 08
I assume it was because it was two women kissing that you had a problem with. If it had been an elderly gentleman and his elderly wife, you probably would've thought "Awwww, that's so sweet.". Based on the content of responses it seems that any kind of pda is wrong or immoral and that us heathen children and those "with the gay" are the most guilty of it and we're corrupting all the littler children, which apparently are to grow up close minded and full of hate so that they can be "moral". I see no problems with pda, whether between two women, two men, or a man and a woman. Or for that matter one man with two women, one woman with two men, etc. The world needs more love, not more hatred and "Oh no, they're holding hands! Quick, cover the eyes of the kids! They shouldn't see such filthy things!". Totally unrelated yet related question, why does it seem to be that two men in a relationship is considered less moral/ok than two women in a relationship? This topic is obviously an exception, but still. It's just as asinine as my father telling me that s l u t s are bad but it's considered a good thing to be a stud. When I had the audacity to ask "Aren't they the same thing?" I received a slap on the face and was grounded for a week. I couldn't even post this the first time around because of the use of the word s l u t, yet stud went through just fine. Double standards, fun things they are.
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@Ithink (10500)
• United States
15 Dec 08
First of all smooching can mean a few things, full make-out session or a few pecks here and there. No matter what the couple is, male-female or female-female a total make-out session isnt appropriate. Now if it is a peck here and there, holding hands, and looking at each other constantly I dont have a problem with it with either partnership and neither should anyone else. My husband and I hold hands and kiss all the time in public and I see nothing wrong with it. However we are not all over each other! My daughter is a lesbain and if she wants to kiss her girlfriend she has that right just as my son and other daughters have the right to kiss their partners! I know that she wouldnt go into a kissing frenzy in public as we her parents wouldnt but I see nothing wrong with a kiss, a loving caress on the back or anything that male-females would do!
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@kkthom3 (279)
• United States
14 Dec 08
I think that kissing and anything more explicit than holding hands or the ocassional hug should be kept in private. Just because there is a couple who are feeling so in love that they want to make out in public doesn't mean that the rest of the public wants to watch. If I were you I would have had to ask them to stop making out even though it would have been really akward.
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@iamcucu (194)
• China
15 Dec 08
I think I would talk to the lesbian couple and remiand them there is kids here,their behavior may have bad influence on children.I think they will take my advice,If they wouldn't,I think I would talk to the kids and distract their attention.
@cyntrow (8524)
• United States
15 Dec 08
what if it were a straight couple????
@iamcucu (194)
• China
16 Dec 08
Well,In that case,I think I would just tell the kids that "kids,your mother and father used to like this"
@cyntrow (8524)
• United States
16 Dec 08
So it's cool if they are straight but not if they are gay? So you are saying that gay people do not have the right to love as you do, because they are born with different attractions from you? And you are teaching your children this bigotry?
• India
31 Jan 10
i will start taking pictures and shooting videos of them. i hope others will say "ooh yeah" , along with me hahaahahahahhaahahahaha
• India
31 Jan 10
and then ill go near them, sit and tell "just relax and let the good times roll"
@jtine23 (41)
• United States
12 May 09
that's so hot! i'd go over and introduce me and my girlfriend ;)
• India
31 Jan 10
dont you think you're too fat to become a lesbian? :P
@Daae92 (75)
• United States
10 May 09
I would react the same as if it was a man and a woman. I mean seriously, what is the difference? It is two people who care for one another and are showing affection. I am a lesbian and if you don't like seeing two women who love one another than you turn away and don't look, simple as that.
• India
31 Jan 10
damn! youre a lesbian? holy **** how many more hotties are there like you, here?
• Philippines
15 Dec 08
i don't mind them because thats what they want to do, everybody has a choice and if lesbians are better than a man why not? lesbians understands what most women's likes and knows how to feed their appetite. i believe lesbians gives true meaning in life when they had a relationship. i also listen to others who has lesbian boyfriend and i ask them why did you chose her "they understand me very well not like men". Happy mylotting!
@cyntrow (8524)
• United States
16 Dec 08
a lesbian would be a girlfriend, not a boyfriend. Gay people do not choose who they are attracted to.
@vanonas (950)
• United States
15 Dec 08
That is awkward. I would have asked them to stop or leave because that is not the environment for that type of behavior! A family restaurant is not somewhere you go and make out regardless of being straight or homosexual. There are always young children around and seeing couples having public displays of affection is disgusting!
@marciascott (25554)
• United States
16 Dec 08
I agree with you I said the same thing no, not out in public.
@jessi0887 (2794)
• United States
15 Dec 08
I would personally approach the couple and politely ask to refrain from public intimacy. Some say kissing is an intimate moment. I see nothing wrong with asking a simple request as that. I am not against gay or lesbian rights i just think displaying something as that even for a normal heterosexual relationship is too intimate for others to see. I alone done kiss my fiance like that when we go somewhere like a restaurant.
@cyntrow (8524)
• United States
15 Dec 08
gay couples are normal
• United States
15 Dec 08
You know there seem to be a lot of opinions here without full clarification in all places. This topic was not started very well because it does not really say how far the smooching really went but the fact that it specifically mentions that it was lesbians does seem to suggest that it does make a difference at least to J47. Or maybe ol' J just knows this is a way to get a heated discussion going. For me I could care less whether the couple is gay or not although it could mean that I need to have some new conversations with my kids after dinner. Oh well part of being a parent right. I do have a slightly different situation that I am interested to know what people think about. I was working in a restaurant a few years back and a lesbian couple came in with two girls that did not look like girls at all. I called the first girl sir and they corrected me. When I looked at the second I thought to myself that there is no way it could be a girl, called her sir again, and corrected again. Very embarrassing for me. Afterwards I thought that the couple was perhaps not doing right by their children. These were young girls and it seems to me that they were basically setting there kids up to be lesbians to and I did not think it was right. Then on further reflection I realized that most heterosexual couples do exactly the same thing except they are setting their kids up to be straight. Quite a sociological dillema. I suppose you could reach a few different conclusions from this. A - It is not OK to encourage any personal lifestyle choices on your children that do not disrupt the rest of society (such as sexuality, religion, politics, although it would be questionable whether this is even possible). B - It is Ok to encourage "regular" behavior because in most cases this is what the kids want anyway, but it is not OK to encourage "abnormal" behavior because it will isolate the child from people they otherwise would want to associate with. C - It is OK to encourage any behavior because when your children are old enough to decide what they want that is exactly what they will do. Never before that day did I ever really think about these questions in this context. I am interested in what you all think about it.
@cyntrow (8524)
• United States
15 Dec 08
Interesting reponse and very well thought out. However, sexuality is not a lifestyle choice. It is an inborn attraction to one's own gender. There is a strong possibility that the two girls were the biological daughters of the lesbian couple and therefore they could be genetically inclined toward homosexuality. My gay ex husband and I have a gay son. I neither encouraged nor discouraged, although for his own life and safety, I did want him to be straight. At this point, I'm just trying to keep him safe and happy and content. Why not presume that because the girl's mothers are gay that the girls might be gay as well. Furthermore, if a woman takes on a "butch" persona, doesn't necessarily mean that she is attracted to women. Just because the two younger girls looked masculine, does not mean that they are lesbian.
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@qwerty19 (321)
• Philippines
15 Dec 08
lesbiansm is immoral!.. you know?...i think you know.,.hehehehe!.. i think you have an authorized to stop what they are doing!.. restaurant is public places,.,
@sharra1 (6342)
• Australia
15 Dec 08
It is not immoral. If you do not like it then you can go elsewhere but you have no right to stop others from living their lives the way they wish. They are not breaking the law and so you are not authorised to stop them any more than you are authorised to stop a man and woman kissing.
@liisafiat (660)
• Latvia
14 Dec 08
It would be just fine if I would see a lesbian couple, but about that kissing... It is amoral thing to do, regardless if it is a "normal" couple or "abnormal" couple: gays or lesbians. In Your place I would have asked them to stop doing what they do and explain that it is not discrimination: it is just a rule that everybody accepts in the society. Like: not to make love in a public place? Not to kiss in a restaurant? Not to pee in the central park? and so on.
• Latvia
15 Dec 08
..or lick and bite, and kumm while snogging in the public place. I am surrounded by enough monkeys in my city, I don`t want to see the rest of the world to turn to a monkey business!
@marguicha (102375)
• Chile
29 Oct 11
Lesbian or heterosexual couples shold have some manners in public places. I donĀ“t even like teens kissing on the streets. Surely they should be taught about intimacy. But gender does not make it better or worse.