Relationships... Is this true for you?

@laydee (12815)
Philippines
December 15, 2008 2:55am CST
I saw a movie at one time when a patient who was suffering from mental illness (who was already well) approached his psychiatric doctor and asked if he's ready for a relationship. The doctor told him, "When you go home, get yourself a plant... if the plant doesn't die in 6months go get yourself a pet... If the pet doesn't die in 6months, then you are ready for a relationship." What do you think. Is that applicable to all of us? They say Like plants, relationships needs watering too. So, give me your thoughts. For a personal note though, I did try this one. I had a plant and fishes (Japanese Koi) Pets. They're still alive. hahahahaha.. It's been years.
5 responses
@Llonorra22 (1150)
• Philippines
20 Dec 08
I think it's a very good movie. I hope I could watch it too. Yes that is very true, all of the relationship that we have needs to be nurtured or it will just die before we know it.. Happy posting!
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@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
22 Dec 08
I don't quite recall the title, I think it was actually a comedy film or something like that, the scene just gave a lot of impact on me that's why I thought about it, and realized that there are some truth in what he said. Further, it's been like more than a decade since I saw that film.
19 Dec 08
I think the doctor's parable is true. I agree that relationship needs watering too. Because a relationship without proper communication, without caring each day and night will wither. Some might not find it applicable for them but for me it's very applicable. If I can't receive even just a text or hear from somebody I love in a day, lots of things will come up to my mind and get easily discourage about the relationship.
@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
22 Dec 08
There indeed are people like you, I myself am one of them specially in the early phase of the relationship, but sooner or later you sooner or later trust the person and you know that even if you don't get to talk all the time, you're in his heart, I tell you, it's such a great feeling. So let go of those worries, remember, regardless what you do, you can't force things to run your way, if it's him, then it's him, if he's not the one, no amount of effort would ever get the desired result.
@Porcospino (16434)
• Denmark
17 Dec 08
I don't think it is true for me. My relationship is fine and I have always taken good take of my pets, but I can't keep a plant alive. They all die No, seriously I like the comparison, and I think it is true that relationships needs watering, too. To be in a relationship you have to be able to consider the feelings and needs of your partner, you can't just focus on yourself all the time. When you take care of a plant of a pet you also need to consider other needs than your own, it is just on another level.
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@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
17 Dec 08
Hehehe.. Maybe you're one of those who are the opposite of the 'green thumb'.
@checapricorn (16072)
• United States
15 Dec 08
[i]Hi laydee, hmmm....I am not sure if I will believe on this but being a good care taker means also that it is very possible that a person is capable of any relationship but still will not apply to all.... I have known people who loves pets and garden and who are not also successful in their relationship! Just depends really but of course, there is nothing impossible in this world, we just need to try, learn and enhance what we have learned in life![/i]
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@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
15 Dec 08
Oh yeah, you have a point there, there are indeed people who are good at taking care of plants and pets but have problems with communication. Though these living things need caring, they don't really respond to you negatively or complain. hahaha.. Thanks for pointing that out.
• United States
19 Dec 08
i think this would work for somepeople but the only way i think someone like that would be able to have a relationship is if they were comfortable with their partner enough to tell them his past and let them know what he had been through... that is really the only way i think it would work out