what if your gift for someone is not being taken care of?

Philippines
December 16, 2008 12:50am CST
in this world, we really could not deny that somehow, for once in our lives we would love to give something to someone, especially when that someone is important to you.. and i myself, would love to give to show how i care as long as i can afford. however, i find this odd with regards to myself which is really being affected right now because of the fact that the very gift, precious gift i gave was not being taking care of.. i was really pissed off. and what i did was just cry in the secret. and i texted the person that i was hurt.. and i told him, it was his, not mine anymore.. but i was just hurt.. hmmm. it was painful though. it was as if i am also not being taking care of...
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7 responses
• United States
16 Dec 08
that would upset me also if i gave a thoughtful and meaningful gift for it to just be treated crappy and the person not seem to care.. if he was a good friend he would care or at least treat it better because it came from you and meant something
• Philippines
16 Dec 08
you are right my friend. i was so upset now.. i texted the same person and told him that i am not alright. even right now. i am at work. i smiled at people, but deep in my heart there is this longing now. how i wished i had not given it.. i am at my worst case right now. i was just so being selfish now.. maybe, next time, i have to learn things out. learning the hard way.. i am really not alright. and the said person is acting like nothing has happened when to me it is really the issue.. i dont know... please help me pray and ward this off... thanks...
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• United States
17 Dec 08
yeah the worst part is how they dont seem to care or understand that it was special
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• Philippines
17 Dec 08
last night, we talked about the issue. i was crying in front of him.. i was really emotional that night. but i was glad that he now knows that i care. i hope that he will get what i wanted him to do.. but as of now, i am trying to compose myself up. it was not easy the confrontation. he seemed to do not care also. i am still in hurt. i really wanted to give up already. tears are flowing inside my heart. enough already. was it my fault?.. huhu
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
16 Dec 08
Once you give something its not yours anymore. I am sorry to say that if something was that important to you and the person knew that, well they're not very smart. I would try not to let it bother you and try to remember why you gave it to him/her. However, if its a living thing, then maybe you should be straight with him/her and tell them what you feel. If not ask for it back. I dont think that asking for a gift back is a very good idea. If its bothering you that much something has to be done.
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• Philippines
29 Dec 08
i guess you are right. it is really not good to be asking the gift you once give would be returned back.. and i guess i would not do it.. deep in my heart i kept the hurt though. and i did submit to the Lord about it.. once the gift is being given, it is really not mine. and i have a problem with it .. and right now,i am fighting the feelings back. i don't want to be connected. the attitude and the heart is all that matters of why was the gift being given..but then again, thank you for the advice...
@pryce_mbg (716)
• Philippines
16 Dec 08
whenever i give gifts, i always keep in mind not to wait or allow myself to ask something in return. even asking the person to take care of my gift. it is up for the person then to value the things that given to him/her and not taking forgranted of whatever he/she received.
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• Philippines
29 Dec 08
well i respect your point right there. you really have a point. when we give something to someone, it is up to that person how he or she might take care of it. the giver's responsibility is just to remind. and as a receiver, it is an honor to receive from someone. and one way of showing how grateful we are is to take care of these gifts that we are receiving.. we really need to take care so as to encourage the giver to give more not just to you or to me, but to others as well. when i see that my gift is being taken care of, i feel the worth of giving.. well, of course that is not always the case.. thank you..
• Philippines
16 Dec 08
for me, no need to get hurt with that kind of situation, it's just a material thing and you are not a "material man" so need to worry much, just focus on beautiful things around you... and smile always
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• Philippines
17 Dec 08
thank you my friend. i am not a material man. but somehow i would care for others reaction and the way they treated my gifts for them. however, i am released already. the wound would be healed sooner. and i will be able to stand and run away..
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@Loverbear (4929)
• United States
16 Dec 08
When you give a gift, you are giving a part of your soul to another person. It is your soul and your being that selects the meaningful gift to give to another. To have someone not take care of the gift is like they are disrespecting your very soul. I have been known to inform the person how I feel about the way they are caring for the gift, and if they continue to not take care of the gift I take the gift back. Of course I am a different type of person who has a tendency to let people know what's clubs. I do give warning though and let the person know how I feel about how the gift is being cared for, especially if it is something precious that is a true gift of my soul. I can understand your hurt, and you did right in letting the person know about how much it hurt that they didn't care enough about your gift to take care of it. Even though owner ship has passed from you to that person, it still is a piece of you that he is treating shamefully.
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• Philippines
16 Dec 08
huhu,, thanks a lot my friend.. i am really trying to be at peace right now.. it was not easy being this situation.. and i thanked you for your message. it is quiet comforting that there are those like you when you can relate to someone else.. thanks a lot.. i hope things will be fine. i don't want to ruin our friendship because of it also.. it is just a material thing,. though the pain is there, i know i have to move on... thanks..
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@Rexdoron (346)
• Malaysia
17 Dec 08
I agree with you Loverbear. Gift if it is just a small thing thing like cup, card or even pencil and pen, is considered a gift. Being a true owner of the gift, one should keep it good. Also, I agree that it is a right thing to let the person know how we feel. I have friends that when they give me a gift, they warn me to take care of it really good - mostly its my female friends. It let me know that people wanted to have or look at their gift being taken care of. By the way, nice name you have!
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• Philippines
29 Dec 08
thanks mr. rexdoron. sorry for not responding asap.. and as for your response,i thanked you for it.. somehow, it really hurts for the giver to see the gifts that is given when it is not being taken cared of... hope that you would do the things that you were saying too. especially now that it is a season of giving.. thank you..
@garyeye (203)
• Philippines
17 Dec 08
Gift..... Freely given, taking nothing in return. No thanks, no praise, just nothing. Praise God! Lot of thanks and appreciation. Praise God! If you freely truly purely gave, then be happy. It's the giving that counts. Each man should give what he has decided in his heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver. 2 Corinthians 9:7
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• Philippines
29 Dec 08
thanks for the reminders kuy. and i guess, this is in part that is under construction to me now.. it is really not easy.. especially when not given the right attention.. somehow, i have become so sensitive nowadays.. and i submit this to the Lord.. it was not easy...
• Philippines
16 Dec 08
for me, no need to get hurt with that kind of situation, it's just a childish thing, just focus more on beautiful things around you
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• Philippines
17 Dec 08
thank you for the comment. i did cried in front of him last night. i told him how i feel. and i guess he get it. i hope...thanks
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